在重新选择之际，若我有第二次机会，我将如何权衡选择良伴？

At the moment of re-choice, if I had a second chance, how would I weigh the choice of a good companion?

1. 这就看自己的想法了，喜欢哪个就试着去接触，不用带有色的眼镜去看待，二婚女不是做了什么坏事的人，她们同样可以拥有爱情。但如果男人的父母不喜欢二婚女的话，那这个男人就要参考父母的建议了，要不然容易起家庭矛盾。

1. It all depends on one's own mindset. Like what you like, and try to get in touch with it without wearing colored glasses. A woman who has remarried has not done anything wrong; they can also have love. But if a man's parents do not like a woman who has remarried, then this man should consider his parents' advice, otherwise it may easily lead to family conflicts.

2. 幸福的婚姻是女生一生最大的期待。人生的关键不在于拿一逼好牌，而在于如何打出一副差牌。在暴力的婚姻中，女生永远是弱者，像被困在笼子里的小鸟，想飞却飞不出去，却只能在身上多增加几道伤痕。在婚姻面前，一个女人再怎么坚强也有脆弱的一面。当她每天拖着疲惫不堪的身子回到家中，没有人理解，没人上前安慰，更不懂得如何体贴和照顾她，反而不知珍惜地拳打脚踢，这样的人生是很糟糕的。

2. A happy marriage is the greatest expectation in a woman's life. The key to life does not lie in holding a winning hand, but in how to play a poor hand. In a violent marriage, women are always the weaker party, like a small bird trapped in a cage, wanting to fly but unable to, and only adding more scars to her body. In the face of marriage, even the strongest woman has a vulnerable side. When she returns home every day, exhausted and weary, no one understands, no one comes forward to comfort her, and no one knows how to show tenderness and care for her. Instead, she is treated with punches and kicks without appreciation. Such a life is terrible.

3. 现实生活中，大都面临巨大的压力，而一个脾气暴躁的人，总会给人制造焦虑和烦恼；相反，情绪稳定的人，会让人觉得安心和可靠。

， 3. In real life, most people face tremendous pressure, and a person with a quick temper always creates anxiety and distress for others; in contrast, someone with stable emotions is perceived as reassuring and trustworthy.

4. 我楼下邻居有个女的长的很漂亮，因为她老公出了意外不在了，所以附近那些单身的男人对这个女的就特别殷勤，不管是离过婚的还是单身的。但是，这个女人的眼光非常高，一般的男人她是不放在眼里的，既然要二婚，那肯定要多方面考察，因为她知道，女人可以再次选择的机会很少，一定要好好的把握，不能像十几岁女孩子谈恋爱那样，有情饮水饱。

4. My downstairs neighbor has a very beautiful woman. Since her husband had an accident and passed away, single men around the area have been particularly attentive to her, whether they are divorced or single. However, this woman has very high standards and doesn't take most men seriously. Since she is considering remarriage, she definitely needs to be thorough in her examination, because she knows that women have few opportunities to choose again, and she must seize it well. She shouldn't be like a teenage girl in love, content with just having feelings.

5. 有人曾经这样说过：“让女人有安全感的不是金钱和物质，而是男人的责任和担当。”如果一个男人没有责任和担当，即使有再多的金钱和物质，也不能给女人安全感，没有女人会真正爱他。

5. There is a saying that goes like this: "It is not money and material things that give women a sense of security, but rather a man's sense of responsibility and commitment." If a man lacks responsibility and commitment, no matter how much money and material wealth he has, he cannot provide women with a sense of security, and no woman will truly love him.

6. 努力学习文化知识

7. 女人要想让自己变得优秀，不是一个外表靓丽的花瓶，就需要不断努力学习。在学习阶段，女孩努力学习，成为一个品学兼优的学生，就能够获得老师的青睐，成为班级里众多男生仰慕的对象。

6. Strive to learn cultural knowledge 7. For a woman to become outstanding, she should not be just a beautiful vase on the outside; she needs to keep studying hard. During the learning phase, if a girl studies diligently and becomes a student with both excellent character and academic performance, she can win the teacher's favor and become the object of admiration among many boys in the class.

8. 当然了错过了学习知识阶段，女人还有一次改变自己人生机会。就是在嫁人时候，选择一个条件好的对象，也就能够就此改变的人生。

8. Of course, even if a woman misses the stage of acquiring knowledge, she still has another chance to change her life. This opportunity comes when she marries, by choosing a good partner, she can change her life in this way.

9. 同时面对一个30岁的剩女和一个30岁的二婚女，男人怎么选择？

9. When faced with a 30-year-old spinster and a 30-year-old remarried woman, how should a man choose?

10. 想要找到一个条件优秀的对象，女孩们也需要让自己变得优秀起来。仅仅拥有靓丽的外表，还不能够吸引到优秀的异性；不断提升自我的内在美，才能够让优秀的异性，被自己所倾倒。

10. To find a partner with excellent conditions, girls also need to make themselves outstanding. Merely having a beautiful appearance is not enough to attract a优秀的 male; continuously enhancing their inner beauty is the key to making an excellent male be attracted to them.

11. 勤奋向上的男人，他会自觉地拼搏进取，想方设法振兴家族，满脑子是奋斗意识，而且情商很高，善于与形形色色的人物打交道，守住做人的底线，给家族赢来商机无限，大开富贵之门，让家庭家族兴旺发达。

11. A diligent and ambitious man will consciously strive for progress, think of all means to revitalize his family, and be full of the spirit of struggle. He also has a high emotional quotient, is skilled at dealing with various types of people, abides by the底线 of being a decent person, brings infinite business opportunities to his family, opens the door to wealth and prosperity, and ensures the prosperity and development of his family.

12. 勤奋无难事，懒惰则什么都不做。真正的人生赢家是在勤勉中丰富了自己的生活。战胜自己的懒惰，变得勤勉，就是人生的胜利。勤，是坚持的表现，是一种美德，一种涵养，更是成功的直接通道。

12. Diligence overcomes all difficulties, while laziness accomplishes nothing. A true winner in life enriches his own life through diligence. Overcoming one's laziness and becoming diligent is a victory in life. Diligence is a manifestation of perseverance, a virtue, a culture, and it is also a direct path to success.

13. 女人的一生有两次改变自己的机会，这两次机会分别是学习文化知识，以及自己对婚姻的选择。知识改变命运，这一点对男女通用，只要我们努力学习，有了高文凭以后，就能够改变自己的人生。

13. A woman has two opportunities in her life to change herself, and these two opportunities are learning cultural knowledge and making her own choice in marriage. Knowledge can change one's destiny, which is applicable to both men and women. As long as we study hard and obtain a high diploma, we can change our own life.

14. 找一个条件优秀的对象

15. 错过了自己努力变优秀的阶段，女人们还有一次改变自己的机会，便是恋爱结婚时候，寻找一个条件优越的对象。自己的对象，条件优越以后，也就能够让自己，也跟着过上幸福的生活，这也是当下，很多女孩所做出的选择。

14. Find a partner with excellent conditions. 15. If women miss the opportunity to become excellent through their own efforts, they still have one chance to change themselves during the time of falling in love and getting married, that is, to find a partner with superior conditions. Once their partner has superior conditions, they can also enjoy a happy life. This is also the choice made by many girls today.

16. 身为男人, 就该肩负起重任, 守护父母安康, 庇护妻儿温暖, 成为家中的坚实后盾！

16. As a man, one should bear the heavy responsibility, protect the parents' well-being, shelter the warmth of the wife and children, and become the solid pillar of the family!

17. 按照男人的思维逻辑来说，首先会选择30岁的剩女，但如果这个剩女长的不好看，那么他们就会选择30岁的二婚女了。不过，这也不是绝对的，毕竟每个人有自己的想法和出发点，出发点不同，选择的方向也是不同的。

17. According to the thinking logic of men, they would first choose a 30-year-old spinster. However, if the spinster is not attractive, they might opt for a 30-year-old woman who has been remarried. But this is not absolute, as everyone has their own thoughts and starting points. Different starting points lead to different directions of choice.

18. 因为他的情绪非常稳定，他也非常爱你，所以他不会因为一点点鸡毛蒜皮的小事和你大吵大闹。相反，他会给予你更多的宽容和体谅，他会尝试站在你的角度去考虑问题。

18. Because he is very emotionally stable and deeply loves you, he will not quarrel and argue with you over trivial matters. On the contrary, he will show you more tolerance and understanding, and he will try to consider the issues from your perspective.

19. 只有情绪稳定的人，才能够带给你真正想要的安全感和归属感。和一个情绪稳定的人在一起，你不必过分提心吊胆，你也不会总是处于一种患得患失的状态当中。

19. Only someone with stable emotions can truly provide you with the security and sense of belonging you desire. When you're with someone emotionally stable, you don't have to be overly anxious, and you won't always be in a state of worrying about losing something.

20. 人到中年以后才发现，其实这些物质的东西都可以凭自己的双手去挣，精神上的满足是最难得的！

20. It is only after reaching middle age that one realizes that these material things can all be earned with one's own hands, and spiritual satisfaction is the most difficult to achieve!

21. 选择二婚女的男人一般是经历过感情失败的，或者是这个二婚女特别的有魅力吸引着这个男人。如果是都没谈过恋爱的，他们是不会马上选择二婚女的，除非是一见钟情，或者是接触过很久的，比较了解这个女人。

21. Men who choose remarried women are usually those who have experienced romantic failures, or the remarried woman has a special charm that attracts this man. If neither has had a relationship before, they would not immediately choose a remarried woman, unless it's a case of love at first sight, or they have been in contact for a long time and have a good understanding of this woman.

22. 大家都知道，身体是父母给的，从一出生就决定了你的人生，但这只是外在因素，谁也无法改变。但在婚姻面前，我们可以做出选择，改变自我，让自己的人生自己作主。

22. As everyone knows, the body is given by our parents and determines our life from the moment of birth, but this is only an external factor that no one can change. However, in the face of marriage, we can make choices, change ourselves, and take control of our own life.

23. 如果再给我一次机会，我选择人生伴侣，不再看车子，房子，存款，而是要达到这三个条件：

23. If I were given another chance, I would choose a life partner based not on cars, houses, or savings, but on achieving these three conditions:

24. 情绪稳定的伴侣，不仅会潜移默化中影响着另一半同样变得情绪平和，更会再遇到问题需要处理的时候，带给另一半甚至更多人意想不到的惊喜！

24. A partner with stable emotions not only subtly influences their partner to become emotionally calm as well, but also brings unexpected surprises to their partner and even more people when facing issues that need to be addressed!

25. 小林已经快40岁了，因为还没有结婚，所以父母非常积极的给他介绍女朋友，奔着要结婚的目的，在选择女朋友的问题上大家都比较注重。这时候邻居介绍了一个30岁的剩女和一个30岁的二婚女，小林的父母二话不说就说和30岁的剩女接触看看，直接把二婚的那个女人给过滤掉了。而小林在见过30岁的剩女后，也觉得两个人是可以相处的，就这样两个人接触不久就结婚了，而30岁的那个二婚女一次都没见过。

25. Kojima is almost 40 years old, and since he is not married yet, his parents have been very proactive in introducing him to girlfriends, aiming for marriage. Everyone pays close attention to the selection of a girlfriend. At this time, a neighbor introduced a 30-year-old spinster and a 30-year-old divorcee. Without hesitation, Kojima's parents decided to get in touch with the 30-year-old spinster, directly filtering out the woman who had been remarried. After meeting the 30-year-old spinster, Kojima also felt that the two of them could get along well. As a result, they started to get to know each other soon and got married. However, the 30-year-old divorcee was never seen once.

26. 如果错过了这两次改变自己的机会，我们也能够通过自己不断努力奋斗，做到改变自己。只要自己不放弃，就会出现改变自己的机会。

26. If we miss these two opportunities to change ourselves, we can still achieve self-change through our continuous efforts and struggle. As long as we do not give up, opportunities to change ourselves will arise.

27. 一个情绪稳定的人，往往能够给予你更多的包容和理解。和一个情绪稳定的人在一起，你不必过分小心翼翼，你也不必担心自己会因为说错话或做错事惹怒他。

27. A person with emotional stability often provides more tolerance and understanding. Being with someone emotionally stable, you don't have to be overly cautious, nor do you have to worry about annoying them by saying or doing the wrong thing.

28. 如果再给我一次选择伴侣的机会，我会把这三条放在重中之重的位置上，对方可以不帅，可以不高，但具有这些优秀品质才是最重要的！

28. If I were given another chance to choose a partner, I would place these three points as the most crucial. The person doesn't have to be handsome or tall, but possessing these excellent qualities is the most important!

29. 初婚的男人应该是会选择30岁的剩女，特别是这个男人的父母，老人家对二婚的女人是有成见的，如果有两个人可以选择，肯定是选择30岁的剩女。

29. A man who is getting married for the first time should choose a woman who is 30 years old and still single, especially the parents of this man. The elderly have prejudices against women who have remarried, and if given a choice between two, they would definitely choose the 30-year-old single woman.

30. 这样一个学习状态，能够一直保留下去，就能够让女孩变得越来越优秀。一些高学历女孩，学业有成之后，凭借自己的能力，就能够过上优越的日子，并不需要另一半的帮衬。

30. Such a learning state, if maintained consistently, can enable girls to become increasingly outstanding. Some girls with higher education, after achieving academic success, can live a superior life relying on their own abilities, and do not need the support of a partner.

31. 一勤天下无难事，从未见见过一个勤奋的人，把日子过不好的！

31. Diligence overcomes all difficulties in the world; I have never seen a diligent person living a bad life!

32. 家庭是一个男人的根基，根基不稳，其他一切都是空话。一个有家有爱的男人，才是一个值得别人信任和尊重的男人。

32. The family is the foundation of a man, and if the foundation is unstable, all else is mere talk. It is only a man with a family and love who is worthy of others' trust and respect.

33. 俗话说，婚姻是女人的第二次投胎，找个好男人最为重要，但即使有明察秋毫的慧眼，也只能选择当时的他，谁又能保证若干年后的他变成什么样呢？又有谁能预料目前不起眼的男人，经过N年后，他成为成功人士，富贵发达？其实，选择伴侣，内在品质比外在因素更为重要。人们经常说，女人一生中有两次投胎，一次是出生，另一次就是婚姻了。出生是任何人都无法改变的结果，美与丑，高与矮都是父母给的，早已注定。第二个投胎不同，婚姻自由，是人人平等，人人有权力选择自己的婚姻。所以，女人的第二次投胎，就是让女人重新有了选择重生的机会。

33. As the saying goes, marriage is a woman's second rebirth, and finding a good man is of utmost importance. However, even with a keen eye that can discern the finest details, one can only choose the man as he is at the moment. Who can guarantee what he will become after several years? And who can predict that a seemingly unremarkable man today might become a successful person, wealthy and prosperous, after N years? In fact, when choosing a partner, inner qualities are more important than external factors. People often say that a woman has two rebirths in her life: one is at birth, and the other is through marriage. Birth is a result that no one can change; beauty and ugliness, tallness and shortness are given by parents and are predetermined. The second rebirth is different; marriage is free, and it is equal for everyone, with everyone having the right to choose their own marriage. Therefore, a woman's second rebirth is an opportunity for her to have a chance to be reborn and make a new choice.

34. 原来女人找对象的标准是，看看对方是不是有车，有房，有存款，这是现实，有了这些，可以少奋斗好多年！人终其一生不就是为了有地方住，经济宽裕，不用为没钱发愁，生活无忧无虑吗？

34. Originally, the criteria for women in choosing a partner were to see if the person had a car, a house, and savings. This is the reality; with these, one can reduce their struggle for many years! Isn't the purpose of a person's entire life to have a place to live, to be financially comfortable, and not to worry about money, leading a carefree life?

35. 在选择对象的时候，男人可能没女人来的细腻，男人选择对象一般是第一印象比较重要，他们以女人的外表为主。如果这个女人如何的善良，只要外表不入男人的眼都没用；如果这个女人长的好看，哪怕在接下来的日子里对男人有多么的不好，这个男人也是很喜欢这个女人的。

35. When choosing a partner, men may not be as delicate as women. Generally, men place more importance on first impressions, focusing on a woman's appearance. No matter how kind a woman may be, if her looks do not meet a man's standards, it is all for naught; if a woman is attractive, even if she is not good to the man in the following days, the man will still like this woman very much.

36. 这类学业有成的女孩，找到的对象也和自己一样优秀，双方处于一个强强联合状态。两人一块奋斗，有着共同的语言，生活也会越来越好。

36. Such accomplished girls find partners who are as excellent as themselves, and both parties are in a state of strong synergy. Working together, with a shared language, their lives will become better and better.

37. 幸福的婚姻，回到家里，有老公宠着，爱着，惯着。遇到高兴的事可以跟老公分享，遇到不开心的事，可以向老公倾诉解忧，生病的时候有老公体贴的照顾着，常常搞些浪漫让爱情保鲜。

37. A happy marriage means coming home to a husband who spoils, loves, and dotes on you. You can share your joys with your husband, and you can confide in him when things are not going well to ease your worries. When you're sick, your husband takes care of you with tenderness, and he often creates romantic moments to keep the love fresh.

38. 车子，房子，存款都是物质性的东西，年轻人早早的拥有了这些，也许未必是好事，有的人知道自己没有压力，他就不会去上进，得过且过的混日子，没有压力，没有动力，没有责任感，但毕竟这些东西随着时间的流逝，终将会成为泡影！

38. Cars, houses, and savings are all material possessions. It may not necessarily be a good thing for young people to acquire these things early on. Some people, knowing they have no pressure, may not strive to improve themselves, just drifting through life with a "make do" attitude. Without pressure, without motivation, and without a sense of responsibility, but ultimately, these things, as time passes, will eventually become mere illusions!

39. 选择好的婚姻，需要理智的选择，不能因为爱冲昏了头脑。恋爱和结婚，其实是两回事，恋爱时，男生是如何对你好，结婚后的生活可能就不会像你想象的那么美好。恋爱是童话故事里的白马王子和白雪公主的故事，而结婚后，就要面对现实的生活，一切都慢慢发生了改变，所以选择对象尤其重要。

39. Choosing a good marriage requires a rational decision, not to be carried away by love. Love and marriage are actually two different things. When in love, a man may be very good to you, but after marriage, life may not be as beautiful as you imagine. Love is like the story of the prince charming and Snow White in fairy tales, but after marriage, one has to face the reality of life, and everything gradually changes. Therefore, choosing a partner is particularly important.