在晨曦微露的宁静中，一场关于自律与清醒的旅程悄然展开。得失分明，进退有度，这不仅仅是对生活的诠释，更是对心灵的洗礼。

In the tranquil calm of the faint dawn light, a journey about self-discipline and clarity unfolds quietly. Clear gains and losses, moderate advancement and retreat, this is not only an interpretation of life, but also a baptism of the soul.

1. 3既好像得到了什么，又好像失去了什么，好像是变得厚重了，又好像是变得浅薄了。好像前面的方向明了了，又好像看不清了。

1. It seems as if I have gained something and lost something at the same time, as if I have become more profound yet also superficial. It seems as if the direction ahead has become clear, yet also as if it has become blurred.

2. 24人生本来虚无，怎样把它潇洒的浪费掉，浪费得毫无遗憾。才是唯一对我有意义的事情。

2. Life is inherently meaningless. How to squander it carelessly, without any regrets, is the only thing that has any meaning for me.

3. 25学会取舍是一门学问。它的价值似足色的黄金，永远不会贬值。与她为伴，付出的是无悔的信念，获取的是肯定与赞扬。知己的定义是坦荡中的愉悦、理解中的幸福。任何功利的迎取应和，都是一时间的获得。只有精神的存在，才是永恒的流传。把握每一个“取舍”的时机，在学会取舍的同时，体会到人生的真谛。

3. 25 Learning to make choices is an art. Its value is like pure gold, which will never depreciate. To be accompanied by it, you pay with unwavering belief, and gain affirmation and praise. The definition of a true friend is joy in openness, happiness in understanding. Any pursuit of gain or profit is only a temporary achievement. Only the existence of the spirit is eternal. Seize every opportunity to make a "choice," and while learning to choose, experience the true essence of life.

4. 26越不肯努力便越自怜。—— 刘金花《骆驼祥子》

4. The more unwilling one is to strive, the more self-pity one feels. — Liu Jinhua, "Cao Cao and the Camel"

5. 37当一个人有所放弃的时候那就以为着你长大了！

5. When one has something to give up, it means you have grown up!

6. 14放弃后的感觉惆怅而轻轻，是无奈后理智的选择！思念一个人甜蜜中掺着苦涩，当你深深的爱上一个人，而对方却不用爱来回应你，有一天你会发现失去自我，爱有多深就有多卑微。放弃，其实是每个人强迫却不愿意自己欣赏到的一种美丽，一种自我安慰而已！

6. 14 The feeling after giving up is melancholic yet gentle, it is a rational choice after helplessness! Yearning for someone is sweet mixed with bitterness. When you deeply love someone, and the other person does not reciprocate with love, one day you will find that you have lost yourself. The deeper the love, the more humble it becomes. Giving up is actually a beauty that everyone is forced to accept but does not want to appreciate, just a form of self-comfort!

7. 22放弃过去或现在的你，对不起，我做不到。

7. 22 Give up the past or present you, sorry, I can't do that.

8. 32伤不仅是你完全失去，而且也是你无法得到。

8. 32 injuries are not only what you have completely lost, but also what you cannot obtain.

9. 36很多事情都是水到渠成的，急不得，燥不得，任何美好的状态都不会轻易降临，等吃够了当下的苦，未来的甜才会顺理成章地来，你也才能心安理得的享受。

9. 36 Many things come naturally as water flows in its channel. One cannot be impatient or restless. Any beautiful state will not descend easily. Only after enduring the bitterness of the present can the sweetness of the future come naturally, and then you can enjoy it with peace and reason.

10. 13只有知道衡量事情的轻重、缓急、先后，而明于进退与取舍的人，才能成功，也才不会落入别人的圈套。—— 刘墉 《超越自己创造自己肯定自己》

10. Only those who know the importance, urgency, and sequence of things, and are wise in advancing, retreating, and making choices, can succeed and will not fall into others' traps. —— Liu Ying, "Surpass Yourself, Create Yourself, and Affirm Yourself"

11. 17失去的永远是自己的，得到的永远是别人的。

11. What is lost is always one's own, and what is gained is always someone else's.

12. 49人就这么一辈子，欲望，就像手中的沙子，握得越紧，失去得越多。学会放手，甘愿舍弃，才能真正的得到。得与失，只是相对而言；认为得到时，或许正在失去；觉得失去时，也许正在得到。无意于得，就无所谓失。

12. There are only 49 people in this world, and life is like the sand in your hand. The tighter you grasp it, the more you lose. Learn to let go and be willing to let go, and you can truly gain. Gain and loss are just relative; when you think you are gaining, you may be losing; when you think you are losing, you may be gaining. If you have no desire to gain, then there is no loss to speak of.

13. 2人这一辈子，从某种意义上说，就是一场自己对自己的战争。每一个人的身上，都依附着两个自己：好的自己和坏的自己。让积极打败消极，让高尚打败鄙陋，让真诚打败虚伪，让包容打败计较，让开心打败忧郁，让勤奋打败懒惰，让坚强打败脆弱，让伟大打败猥琐只要你愿意，你完全能够一生都做最好的自己。

13. In a sense, for two people throughout their lives, it is a war against themselves. Each person carries two selves within them: the good self and the bad self. Let the positive defeat the negative, the noble defeat the despicable, the sincere defeat the deceitful, the tolerant defeat the nitpicking, the joyful defeat the melancholic, the diligent defeat the lazy, the strong defeat the fragile, the great defeat the base. As long as you are willing, you can be the best version of yourself throughout your life.

14. 10选择是个大难题，有时候，选择花去了你所有的时间，而你依然不知道，你能够做什么。

14. Choosing between 10 options is a big dilemma. Sometimes, it takes up all your time, and yet you still don't know what you can do.

15. 54还是先想着如何使自己变得更优秀吧，别整天奢望会遇见什么对的人，你还太年轻，就算遇见了也抓不住。

15. First think about how to make yourself better, don't spend the whole day dreaming of meeting the right person. You're still too young, and even if you meet them, you won't be able to hold on.

16. ❶人最难得的清醒，是看见自己的渺小，却不被它困住。

16. ❶ The most difficult clarity for a person to achieve is to see their own insignificance without being confined by it.

17. 42我离婚了，这样终于能和无法代替的人牵着手一起走了，已经不会再失去了，终于得到了胜利和原点。即使是倒在地上都必须去保护的大地。

17. 42 I am divorced, and now I can finally hold the hand of the irreplaceable person and walk together, no longer to lose, finally achieving victory and the starting point. Even if lying on the ground, I must go to protect the earth that needs to be guarded.

18. 29越长大，越知道，做事不容易，越知道，每个人都有难处，也就越不再随随便便发表评论，或者瞧不起谁。这不是虚伪，而是懂得体谅，温柔地和这个世界相处。

18. As I grow older, I realize that life is not easy. I come to understand that everyone has their own difficulties, and thus I become less inclined to make arbitrary comments or look down on others. This is not hypocrisy; it is an awareness of empathy and a gentle way of coexisting with the world.

19. 9人就像寒冬里的刺猬。如果它们彼此靠得太近，它们会感到刺痛；如果距离太远，他们会感到寒冷；人们必须保持适当的距离才能走得远。

19. Nine people are like hedgehogs in winter. If they get too close to each other, they feel stung; if they are too far apart, they feel cold; people must maintain an appropriate distance to go the distance.

20. 36学会放弃，放弃是一针清醒剂。让你静下心来反思，让你的头脑更加清晰。做什么事都得量力而行，你不会一伸手就能摸着天际。学会放弃，放弃是一个更新的起点。

20. 36 Learn to let go; giving up is a shot of clarity. It allows you to calm down and reflect, making your mind clearer. You must do things according to your abilities; you won't be able to touch the sky with a single reach. Learn to let go; giving up is a new starting point.

21. 23望掩埋了欢笑，失望掩饰了一切，我该做的就是学会忘记，寂寞与不安之间徘徊，如果不坚强软弱给谁看。

21. 23掩埋了欢笑，失望遮蔽了一切; what I need to do is learn to forget, to wander between loneliness and unease, for if I am not strong, who will I show my weakness to?

22. 49不自律的人生是一种什么样的体验？被命运反复羞辱，却毫无还手之力。

22. What is the experience of a life without self-discipline? Being repeatedly humiliated by fate, yet having no power to fight back.

23. 29选择任何一种生活方式，都有得有失。所以，不用羡慕什么，也不用抱怨什么。你所能做的，只是保持身体和内心的平衡。

23. 29 Choosing any lifestyle comes with its own gains and losses. So, there's no need to envy or complain. All you can do is maintain a balance between your body and your inner self.

24. 46在物质文明的现代战场我得到了一切却失去自己。

24. In the modern battlefield of material civilization, I have gained everything but lost myself.

25. 34如果有人让你不舒服了相信自己的感觉这人跟你不是一路人。

25. 34 If someone makes you uncomfortable, trust your feelings; this person is not on the same path as you.

26. 15虽然很多人说自己是人间清醒，但未必真的清醒，清醒的人都是在努力活着的人！

26. Although many people claim to be clear-minded in this world, it's not necessarily true that they are. The truly clear-minded are those who are striving to live!

27. 7没有不老的幸福，也没有不老的时光，能折腾的时候，别让自己闲着。

27. There is no eternal happiness, no eternal youth, so when you have the ability to make a mess, don't let yourself be idle.

28. 20得到和失去是一种偶然也是一种必然。只是我们不懂得而已。

28. Gaining and losing is both accidental and inevitable. It's just that we don't understand it yet.

29. 38人的感情就像牙齿。丢了就丢了，装假也是假的。不要捡起丢失的东西。接受突如其来的失落，珍惜意外的惊喜。

29. The emotions of 38 people are like teeth. Once lost, they are lost; pretending is just as fake. Don't pick up the lost things. Accept the sudden loss, and cherish the unexpected surprises.

30. 51其实人跟树是一样的，越是向往高处的阳光，它的根就越要伸向黑暗的地底。

30. 51 Just like trees, the more one aspires towards the sunlight of higher places, the deeper its roots must extend into the dark earth below.

31. 19即使阳光照耀的地方，也不一定会有温暖。

31. Even in places where the sun shines, warmth is not guaranteed.

32. 9心如莲花，人生才会一路芬芳。一个人生活一世，懂得取舍，懂得舍得，懂得满足，懂得知足，心才能开阔。

32.9 Like a lotus flower in the heart, life will be filled with fragrance along the way. A person who lives a lifetime understands to choose and let go, understands to be content, and understands to be satisfied, only then can the heart be broadened.

33. 43人生并非都是选择题或是是非题，大部分是应用题，要用我们一点一滴的论证，取舍的过程，做错了也没关系。

33. Life is not always a series of multiple-choice or true/false questions; most of it is like an applied problem, requiring us to argue and make decisions bit by bit. It's okay if we make mistakes along the way.

34. 11一个人的生命，我以为，是一半儿活在朋友中的。——刘金花《可爱的成都》

34. 11 In my opinion, one's life is half-lived among friends. — Liu Jinhua, "Lovely Chengdu"

35. 57任何人，任何事，都会成为过去，不要跟它过不去。

35. 57 Anyone, anything, will eventually become the past; don't hold onto it.

36. 36搭错车和错过车都不遗憾，遗憾的是都没有到达终点。

36. It's not regrettable to get on the wrong bus or miss the bus, but the regret is that neither has reached the destination.

37. ❸自律不是自我约束，而是把未来想要的自己，变成今天的习惯。

37. ❸ Self-discipline is not self-restraint, but the transformation of the future self one desires into today's habits.

38. 23后来我终于能明白，想要得到什么就一定要失去些什么，但是我很幸运，我终于失去了这世界上最好的。

38. 23 Later on, I finally understood that in order to obtain something, one must inevitably lose something else, but I am very fortunate, as I finally lost the best thing in this world.

39. 16他很有自己的内心的追求，看过繁华到过高处，才知何为真实和珍贵，早点懂得，早点取舍，早点开始直视自身，把握人生。

39. 16 He has his own inner pursuits, having seen the bustling and reached great heights, he knows what is real and precious. The sooner he understands, the sooner he makes choices, the sooner he starts to face himself and grasp life.

40. 52每一个想骂你的人 ，他都是你草船借来的箭 ，你就等东风一吹的时候再说吧！

40. 52 For every person who wants to骂 (insult) you, he is an arrow borrowed by your grass boat; wait until the east wind blows before you speak!

41. 33宁肯有尊严的失去，也不愿死乞白来地得到。

41. 33 Would rather lose with dignity than gain by begging.

42. 3放弃，是一种境界，是自然界发展的一种必由之路。

42.3 Renunciation is a state of being, a necessary path for the development of nature.

43. 24年轻时的爱情和友情总是千丝万缕，得到与失去经常在忽然之间。

43. Love and friendship in one's young 24 years are always entangled and intricate; gains and losses often occur suddenly.

44. 51人生，有多少事多少情绪是说不清道不明的呢？而等你想去说明的时候，已经没有机会了。在珍惜和忽略得到与失去之间，人不断地辗转。

44. In 51 years of life, how many things and emotions are unclear and indescribable? And by the time you want to explain them, there's no chance left. Between cherishing and neglecting gains and losses, people are constantly tossed about.

45. 14更辛苦的事情并不是自己的坚持，而是如何纠正他人对自己的看法。这种纠正不是因为在乎他人，而是不想委屈自己。

45. The more arduous task is not in persisting in one's own beliefs, but in correcting others' perceptions of oneself. This correction is not because one cares about others, but because one does not want to subject oneself to injustice.

46. 30有了宝宝，一切以她为重，所以决定搬家。人生就是这样，总是在舍与得之间做选择，为了爱的人，一切都值得。

46. With the baby, everything revolves around her, so we decided to move. Life is like that, always making choices between giving up and gaining, and for the loved ones, everything is worth it.

47. 17男人之所以跛得没天理，都是女人惯出来的。

47. The reason why 17 men are crippled without any justice is all because of the women who spoil them.

48. 40人生，要懂得取舍，要懂得选择，就像下雨天，大风大雨，有些人会买坚固的伞遮风挡雨，有些人选择雨天不出门 。

48. In the span of 40 years of life, one must learn to make choices and decisions, just as during a rainy day with strong winds and heavy rains, some people opt to buy a sturdy umbrella to shield themselves from the wind and rain, while others choose not to go out on rainy days.

49. 15我现在很乖了好好睡觉好好吃饭累了就看部**喝奶茶，想你了一定不找你，可是，我真的很想你。

49. 15 I am very well-behaved now, sleeping well, eating well. When I'm tired, I watch a movie and have a bubble tea. If I miss you, I don't look for you, but I really do miss you.

50. ❷真正的清醒，不是看透世界，而是看轻干扰，守住自己的节奏。

50. ❷ True wakefulness is not about seeing through the world, but about downplaying distractions and maintaining one's own rhythm.

51. 12爱情的故事往往是平凡的，正如春雨秋霜那样平凡。—— 刘金花《微神》

51. The stories of love are often ordinary, just as ordinary as spring rain and autumn frost. —— Liu Jinhua, "The Little Goddess"

52. 11孤单不必须不愉悦，得到不必须能长久；失去不必须不再有，转身不必须最软弱。

52. 11 Solitude does not necessarily have to be unpleasant, gaining does not necessarily last long; losing does not necessarily mean there will be no more, turning back does not necessarily mean one is the weakest.

53. ❹低级的欲望靠放纵，高级的欲望靠自律，顶级的欲望靠煎熬。

53. ❹Low-level desires are indulged, high-level desires are controlled by self-discipline, and top-level desires are achieved through suffering.

54. 13喜欢一个男人不能只看他的外面、他的财富，这些东西容易得到，也容易失去。

54. 13 One cannot only love a man for his outward appearance, his wealth; these things are easily obtained and easily lost.

55. 5有些人生来是为了赶路的…完成学业事业结婚生子，一切有条不紊按部就班，匆匆忙忙在前三十年生命里就完成了大部分任务，再用剩下的时间去修补与忍耐，并学着苦中作乐。而有些人的人生任务可能只完成了一半，但他们却看了别人几辈子才能看到的风景，你不能说任何一种选择是错。真的，自己开心就好。

55. 5 Some people are born to be on the go... to complete their education, build their careers, get married, and have children, everything is done in order and systematically, completing most of their tasks in the first thirty years of life in a hurry. Then, they spend the remaining time mending and enduring, and learning to find joy in adversity. And some people may only complete half of their life tasks, but they have seen the scenery that others may only see in several lifetimes. You can't say that any choice is wrong. Really, just be happy with yourself.

56. 56人生并非都是选择题，而是应用题，要我们一点一滴的论证，取舍的过程，做错了也没关系。

56. Life is not always a multiple-choice question, but rather an application problem, requiring us to argue and make choices bit by bit. It's fine if we make mistakes along the way.

57. 50失去的我不会再要，得到的我不会轻易放手。

57. I will no longer take back what I've lost, and I won't easily let go of what I've gained.

58. 57不沉迷于幻想，不茫然于未来，走今天的路，过当下的生活；不羡慕繁华，不刻意雕琢，对人朴实，做事踏实；不要太吝啬，不要太固守，懂得取舍。

58. 57 Do not indulge in daydreams, do not be confused about the future, walk the path of today, live the present life; do not envy the bustling, do not刻意 carve out, be simple in dealing with people, and steady in doing things; do not be too stingy, do not be too rigid, and know how to make choices.

59. 1用放大镜去看人生，人生则是一场悲剧；而用望远镜去看人生，人生则是一场喜剧。

59. 1 If you view life through a magnifying glass, life is a tragedy; but if you view it through a telescope, life is a comedy.

60. 8有欲而不执著于欲，有求而不拘泥于求。一个人，活得越平和，就会放下得越多。人平和之后，在生命外在状态上的具体体现是，笃定，泰然，从容，六根清净，万事不扰。

60.8 Possess desires but do not become attached to them; have ambitions but do not become fixated on achieving them. A person who lives in peace will let go of more. When a person achieves peace, the specific manifestations in their external state of life are steadfastness, composure, ease, purity of the six sense organs, and being undisturbed by all things.

61. 39如烟往事俱忘却，心底无私天地宽。—— 陶铸 《赠曾志》

61. All the past memories as smoke fade away; with an unselfish heart, the world and sky are vast. — Tao Zhusi, "Presented to Zeng Zhi"

62. 55得到了不一定是好事，失去了也未必是坏事。

62. It's not necessarily a good thing to have obtained 55, and it's not necessarily a bad thing to have lost it.

63. 33人可以在金钱上贫穷，但绝不能在精神上贫乏。你可以一无所有，但是绝不可以一无是处。

63. Thirty-three people can be poor in money, but they must never be poor in spirit. You can have nothing, but you must never be nothing.

64. 13生命要勇于尝试，给自己一个机会，没有试过怎么知道不行。

64. 13 Life should dare to try, give yourself a chance, how can you know it won't work if you haven't tried?

65. 31你一直在追求你失去的，得到的又不珍惜。

65. 31 You have been pursuing what you have lost, and you do not cherish what you have gained.

66. 20一个人想要幸福，就不能太聪明，也不能太傻，这种介于聪明与傻之间的状态叫做智慧。太聪明了让人防备，太傻了让人摆弄，难得糊涂。

66. To desire happiness, one cannot be too intelligent nor too foolish. This state that lies between intelligence and foolishness is called wisdom. Being too intelligent makes people wary, while being too foolish allows others to manipulate you. It's rare to be able to be naive yet wise.

67. 47相信奇迹的人，本身就和奇迹一样了不起。

67. Those who believe in miracles are as remarkable as the miracles themselves.

68. 10若是你的右眼叫你跌倒，就剜出来丢掉。宁可失去百体中的一体，不叫全身丢在地狱里。

68. 10 If your right eye causes you to stumble, pluck it out and cast it away. It is better to lose one part of your body than to have your whole body thrown into hell.

69. 24昨天是一张废弃了的支票，明天是一笔尚未到期的存款，只有今天是你可以支配的现金。

69. 24 Yesterday was a discarded check, tomorrow is an undeposited deposit, only today is the cash at your disposal.

70. 53青春路上，遗憾总是在所难免。每一次与遗憾的挥手作别，都是为了与美好的握手和相遇。

70. On the path of youth, regrets are inevitable. Each time we wave goodbye to regrets, it is to embrace and meet with the beautiful.

71. 32这世上根本不存在感同身受，只因你给的嬉笑太盛，无人在意你的心酸认真，所以别傻傻的摊开伤口向别人诉苦，这世上多的是撒盐的人。

71. In this world, there is no real empathy. It's because you provide too much laughter that no one cares about your sorrow and sincerity. So don't foolishly open up your wounds and complain to others, for there are plenty of people who like to sprinkle salt on others.

72. 25得到了想要的，却失去了最珍贵的，学会珍惜，因为最好的你总是留不住。

72. Got what you wanted, but lost the most precious, learn to cherish, because the best you can never be held onto.

73. 7不要太低调了，有时要强悍一点，被欺负的时候，一定要讨回来！但是一定不要记仇，小人之见随他们去好了。

73. Don't be too低调, sometimes you need to be a bit tough. When you're bullied, make sure to get revenge! But do not hold grudges, let the pettiness of others go with the wind.

74. 34不敢说的话，只能烂在心里；不能爱的人，只能放在心上。

74. What one dares not say can only fester in one's heart; what one cannot love must be kept in one's heart.

75. 28如果肚子疼痛时，就在腿上扎一刀，那么你的肚子就不疼了！

75. If you have stomach pain and you cut a slice on your leg, then your stomach pain will go away!

76. 4学会37、低调，取舍间，必有得失。做自己的决定，然后准备好承担后果。慎言，独立，学会妥协的同时，也要坚持自己的底线。明白付出并不一定有结果。过去的事情可以不忘记，但一定要放下。要快乐，要坚韧，要温暖，给予真诚。愿我做到这一切，只为久等的旧人

76. 4 Learn 37: Be modest, there must be gains and losses in the process of making choices. Make your own decisions and be prepared to bear the consequences. Speak cautiously, be independent, learn to compromise while also holding onto your own bottom line. Understand that not all efforts will have a result. You can't forget the past, but you must let it go. Be happy, be resilient, be warm, and offer sincerity. May I achieve all this, just for the long-awaited old friend.

77. 21当你失去爱情时，你会得到经验；当你得到爱情时，你会失去自我。

77. 21 When you lose love, you gain experience; when you gain love, you lose yourself.

78. 20放得下就不孤独，站得远些就清楚，不幻想就没感触，不期待也就不会有在乎。世上无难事，庸人自扰之。

78. If you can fit 20 things, you won't feel lonely; stand a bit farther away and things become clearer; without daydreams, there will be no feelings; without expectations, there will be no concern. There are no difficult things in the world; it's the ordinary people who worry themselves unnecessarily.

79. 11生活就像道选择题，有时是霸道的单项，有时是头痛的双项，有时是麻烦的多项。人就是支只有一盒墨水且不能更改的钢笔，总要有取舍，得了这失了那，得了那失了这，不知不觉就尝试了这叫人生的东西，个中滋味各人知。

79. 11 Life is like a multiple-choice question, sometimes a dominant single choice, sometimes a headache-inducing double choice, and sometimes a troublesome multiple choice. A person is like a fountain pen that has only one ink cartridge and cannot be changed, always having to make choices. You get this and lose that, you get that and lose this, and without realizing it, you try out this thing called life, the taste of which varies from person to person.