当生活变得稳定，不如让它更加精彩！🎉

When life becomes stable, why not make it more exciting! 🎉

1. ❹我努力赚钱，不是为了证明什么，只是不想在命运面前太狼狈。

1. I strive to make money not to prove anything, but just not to be too pitiful in the face of fate.

2. 婚姻不比恋爱时的风华岁月，两个人什么都不用考虑，你侬我侬，没事逛逛街，踏踏草坪，一起携手看夕阳，一幅岁月静好的模样，更多的是柴米油盐。尤其是有了小孩之后，负担多了几十倍不说，光是小孩子的哭闹，就足以让两人心力交瘁，生活一下子变成了一地鸡毛。

2. Marriage is not like the romantic days of courtship, when the two of you don't have to think about anything, and you are so in love with each other. You can just go for a stroll, walk on the grass, and hand in hand watch the sunset, presenting a serene scene of the years. More often than not, it's all about the mundane aspects of life, like buying rice and oil, and salt. Especially after having children, the burden increases several times over, not to mention that the constant crying and fussing of the little ones can be enough to exhaust the couple, turning their lives into a mess of feathers.

3. 在我们遇到困难的时候，抱怨，想办法去解决困难，坚强勇敢的妈妈，才可以弄出雄才大略、百折不挠的小孩。

3. It is only when a mother is strong and brave, complaining and trying to solve difficulties, that she can bring up a child with great ambition and unyielding spirit.

4. 现在的生活压力大，每个都会有情绪失控的时候，但是，这并不是你可以任性的理由。

4. The pressure of modern life is great, and everyone has moments when they lose control of their emotions, but that is not a reason for you to act capriciously.

5. ❼允许自己偶尔断电，带着遗憾拼命绽放。

5. Allow yourself to occasionally experience power outages, blossoming with all your might amidst regrets.

6. 爸爸爱妈妈，母亲教育孩子，充满正能量的家庭，才可以培养出幸福快乐、身心健康的孩子。

6. Dad loves mom, mom educates the children, a family filled with positive energy can cultivate happy and healthy children.

7. 如果你连自己的心情都无法控制，就别以为自身能去操纵一个孩子，教育是推动和疏通，并不是紧追不舍和领导独裁。

7. If you cannot control your own emotions, don't think you can manipulate a child. Education is about propulsion and guidance, not relentless pursuit and autocratic leadership.

8. 每一个孩子出世全是一张白纸，爸爸妈妈管理方法好自己的情绪，就是为小孩造就最幸福的生活自然环境。稳定的生活环境里，孩子才能成长为乐观开朗得人。好好地管理方法自己的心情，做一个顽强、英勇、乐观的母亲，孩子会追随你的脚步，迈向美好的未来。

8. Every child is born as a blank slate. For parents to manage their emotions well is to create the most happy living environment for their child. In a stable living environment, children can grow up to be optimistic and outgoing individuals. Manage your own emotions well, be a resilient, courageous, and optimistic mother, and your child will follow in your footsteps, moving towards a beautiful future.

9. 不要忘了，日常生活本来就是这样，有压力才有动力，有孩子才有希望。就是我们并没有把孩子送到这世界上，也未经孩子的允许，生活的压力更不应该强加于小孩。

9. Don't forget that this is the nature of everyday life: there is pressure, there is motivation; there are children, there is hope. It is not as if we have sent the children into this world without their consent, and the pressure of life should not be imposed on children any more.

10. ❿生活不会一直苦，除非……你的‘甜’正在派送中。

10. Life will not always be bitter, unless... your 'sweet' is on its way.

11. ❾虽然慢了点，但我始终在向前走。

11. Although it's a bit slow, I have always been moving forward.

12. ❷成年人的世界，连崩溃都是讲究性价比的。

12. ❷ In the world of adults, even collapse is something that is concerned with cost-effectiveness.

13. 孩子的安全感来源于母亲，如果你是一个脾气暴躁得人，孩子的内心便是充斥着惶恐不安的，你是一个不快乐的人，孩子也会不自信抑郁。

13. A child's sense of security comes from their mother. If you are a person with a bad temper, the child's inner world will be filled with fear and anxiety. If you are an unhappy person, the child will also lack confidence and become depressed.

14. 好友雪儿就是嫁了一个情绪超级不稳定的男人。

14. My friend Xue'er is married to a man whose emotions are extremely unstable.

15. ❶后来我学会把情绪调成静音模式，毕竟不是所有人都想听你的故事。

15. ❶ Later, I learned to put my emotions on mute, after all, not everyone wants to hear your story.

16. 一个好妈妈，总是会从自己孩子的的身上发现很多的优点，当孩子发生错误，也对他说，这没什么不对，你一定能行。不随便批评孩子，多鼓励孩子，你能获得一个信心浓浓的小孩。

16. A good mother will always find many merits in her child. When the child makes a mistake, she will also tell him that there's nothing wrong with that, and that he is definitely capable of succeeding. She doesn't criticize the child at will, but instead encourages him more, and this will help her raise a child full of confidence.

17. ❸生活不是电影，没有那么多‘多年以后’的圆满结局。

17. ⑧Life is not a movie, and there are not as many perfect endings as "many years later."

18. 情绪稳定的人，对事不对人，不会在外受了脾气，发泄在爱自己的人身上，；不会一会上天，一会下地；不会把心里满满的负能量倾泻给周围的人；不会让身边的人都胆战心惊、如履薄冰、小心翼翼。

18. A person with stable emotions treats things rather than people, will not vent their anger on those who love them after being upset outside; will not fluctuate between heaven and earth; will not pour out a heart full of negative energy on those around them; and will not make everyone around them live in fear, as if walking on thin ice, or be overly cautious.

19. 情绪稳定的人，你跟他在一起，会觉得很踏实，有他在，做所有事情都不用带脑，跟着他就对了。

19. A person with stable emotions, when you are with them, you will feel very secure and grounded. With them around, you don't have to think too much while doing anything; just follow them is the way to go.

20. 余生太长，婚姻艰辛，愿你我都能做彼此情绪稳定的爱人，从此携手一生笑看风雨。丶

20. Life is too long, marriage is arduous. May we both be the emotionally stable lovers for each other, and from now on, hold hands through life, smiling through storms and sunshine. ...

21. 但问题是，有外人在的时候，她丈夫也是如此，一副“老子最大”的样子，一定要在言语上压过雪儿，无论对错，永远都是，他说的就是真理，雪儿必须无条件服从，好几次，都弄得雪儿下不了台面，被羞辱得满脸通红。

21. But the problem is that when there are outsiders present, her husband is the same, acting like the "big shot," determined to outtalk Xue'er in words, no matter right or wrong. It's always the case that whatever he says is the truth, and Xue'er must obey unconditionally. Several times, this has landed Xue'er in an embarrassing situation, with her face flushed red in shame.

22. 做妈妈难以，压力非常大，我从来都不否定这一点，许多的压力都是因为有了孩子，出来工作赚钱，节衣缩食为孩子的未来考虑到。照顾家庭，不愿为孩子的吃穿用住受一点憋屈，在我们很累的时候，也会在内心静静地想：“我为什么要生一个孩子，来折磨自己。”

22. It's difficult to be a mother, and the pressure is immense. I never deny this. Much of the pressure comes from having children, going out to work and earn money, and living frugally for the children's future. Taking care of the family, not wanting to endure any discomfort for the children's food, clothing, and housing, even when we are exhausted, we may silently wonder in our hearts: "Why did I have a child to torture myself?"

23. ❽我变了很多，但依然讨厌别人用‘你变了’来绑架我。

23. I have changed a lot, but I still hate it when people use 'you have changed' to tie me down.

24. ❻热情有限，别浪费在那些让你‘已读不回’的人身上。

24. ③ Be passionate, but don't waste it on those who leave you 'read but don't reply'.

25. 在这种情况下，没有外人在也还不算什么，等双方都气消了再沟通就好，毕竟，两个人搭伙过日子，总会磕磕碰碰的，如果总想着争输赢，日子也难以开展下去。

25. In this case, it's not a big deal to have no outsiders present; it's better to communicate after both parties have cooled down. After all, living together as a couple is bound to have its ups and downs. If you always think about who wins and who loses, it will be difficult to carry on with your life.

26. 一个人，连自己的情绪都无法控制，又何以控制人生，又怎能承受得住生活的风吹雨打，耐得住性子好好地待你呢？

26. If a person cannot control their own emotions, how can they control their life? How can they withstand the storms and trials of life, and be patient enough to treat you well?

27. 一个能控制住情绪的人，比一个能拿下一座城的人更强大。

27. A person who can control their emotions is stronger than one who can conquer a city.

28. 两个人在一起，无论是面对什么问题，情绪稳定可太重要了。因为在情绪稳定的前提下，才能更好地思考如何处理或者解决所面临的问题。那么如果情绪不稳定，就可能出现很大的争执，进而使问题进一步的激化，从而更不利于问题的解决。当然了，这也适用于各种关系，例如，亲人间、朋友间等等。

28. When two people are together, emotional stability is extremely important regardless of the problems they face. Because only with emotional stability can one better think about how to handle or resolve the issues at hand. If emotions are unstable, it may lead to major disputes, which in turn can further exacerbate the problems, making it even more difficult to find a solution. Of course, this applies to various relationships, such as between family members, friends, and so on.

29. 当所有的压力聚集在一起的时候，心态再好的人，也难免有点厌气，如果这时候双方不懂得及时调整过来，家里就很容易出现战火纷飞的现象。

29. When all the pressures accumulate together, even the most positive-minded person may feel a bit tired. If both parties do not know how to adjust in time at this moment, it is easy for domestic conflicts to erupt into a whirlwind of disputes.

30. ❺有些人只是路过你的生命，连告别都是静悄悄的。

30. ❺ Some people just pass through your life, even their farewell is quiet and unobtrusive.

31. 生活中总会有许多的艰难，你是在埋怨中让步，或是开朗地知难而上呢？妈妈就是孩子的榜样，假如你是前面一种，就不要抱怨小孩没有食欲学习培训的辛苦，不愿自身解决困难。

31. Life is always full of difficulties. Are you giving in with complaints or facing them cheerfully? As a mother is a role model to a child, if you are the former, then do not complain about the child's lack of appetite for learning and the hardships of training, or their reluctance to solve their own difficulties.

32. 如果连恋爱的时候，经济压力还没有那么大的状态下，遇到一点不顺心，都不能的好好调整自己的心态，每次把情绪都发泄在你的身上，过后再道歉，这种爱人，是不具备爱人的能力。

32. If even during the time of dating when the economic pressure is not so great, one cannot properly adjust one's mindset when faced with a bit of misfortune, and each time vents their emotions on themselves, apologizing afterward, such a lover does not possess the ability to love.

33. 她的丈夫可以前一秒温柔似水地对她说：“娶到你真的是我这辈子最有福气的一件事。”后一秒一旦言语不和，她丈夫马上翻脸，指责她伤害了他的自尊心，进而上升到对雪儿的人格侮辱，每次都得逼着雪儿低头认错才罢休。

33. Her husband could be gentle and soft the second before, telling her, "Marrying you is truly the greatest fortune of my life." The next second, once there was a discrepancy in their words, he would flip, accusing her of harming his self-esteem, and then escalate to insulting her personality. Each time, he would force Xue'er to bow her head and admit her mistake before he would stop.

34. 在我们的生活中，细心观察，不难看出，一个自我控制能力强的人，他的事业和生活质量都是属于中等偏上，并且在各种人际关系处理起来游刃有余。相反，遇到一点烦心事就暴跳如雷的人，通常工作都是比较普通的，生活过得很窝心，人际关系也是一团糟。

34. In our lives, with careful observation, it is not difficult to see that a person with strong self-control tends to have a career and quality of life that are moderately above average, and they handle various interpersonal relationships with ease. Conversely, those who lose their temper over trivial matters usually have quite ordinary work, live in a way that is far from satisfactory, and have a mess of interpersonal relationships.