1. 清醒的人对自己负责。他不会因为一时空虚就随随便便找一个情人，更不会与之结婚，他会考虑这样做对自已是不是真的好；他也不会让父母决定他读什么专业，而当以后发现这专业不适合自己时又去抱怨父母；他了解自己，又能管理自己，所以他知道自己需要什么，也知道该怎样做才能获得自己所需要的，所以他比一般人更有能力为自己负责。

1. A清醒的人 is responsible to himself. He would not casually find a lover just because he feels empty at a moment, nor would he marry one. He would consider whether doing so is really good for him. He would also not let his parents decide what major to study, and then complain about his parents when he later finds that major is not suitable for him. He understands himself and is able to manage himself, so he knows what he needs and how to achieve it. Therefore, he is more capable of taking responsibility for himself than the average person.

2. 清醒的人是无为的，这不是说不进取，而是指不强求不可求的东西。他们不会希望事事十全十美，因为知道那是不可能的。他们也不会按自己的理想去改造恋人，因为他知道每个人都有保持自己本性的权力。人只能按自己的本性生活。一个人想改变别人是很难的，所能做到的也是有限的。

2. The wise are inactive, which does not mean they do not strive for progress, but rather that they do not force what is unattainable. They do not expect everything to be perfect, knowing that is impossible. They also do not seek to transform their lovers according to their own ideals, for they recognize that everyone has the right to maintain their own nature. People can only live according to their own nature. It is difficult for one person to change another, and what can be achieved is limited.

3. 他们是勇敢的。所谓勇敢不是说敢动不动就打架、不怕死。因为死不是最可怕的事，成千上万的人敢参军打仗，但是有些事却很少有人敢做。敢打仗的人也大多不敢做。比如，承认自己的错误，在一些人看来，就是比死都可怕的事。有几个人敢坦然面对自己，承认自己犯了错误？而清醒的人就敢这样做。

3. They are brave. By brave, I don't mean that they are always ready to fight or unafraid of death. Because death is not the scariest thing; thousands upon thousands of people are willing to join the military and fight, but there are few things that few dare to do. Even those who dare to fight often dare not do other things. For example, admitting one's own mistakes is considered by some to be even scarier than death. How many people dare to face themselves and admit they have made mistakes? But those who are clear-headed dare to do so.

4. 在顾及他人感受之前，不妨再想想，他人是否顾及过你的感受，需要费力维持的关系，便没有存续下去的必要了。

4. Before considering others' feelings, it might be worthwhile to reflect on whether others have ever considered yours. Relationships that require an effort to maintain are not necessarily worth continuing.

5. 自幼怕鬼，可鬼从未伤我丝毫，诚心待人，人却将我伤得遍体鳞伤。这世间，最可怖的不是鬼，而是那难以捉摸的人心。

5. I have been afraid of ghosts since I was a child, but the ghosts have never hurt me in the slightest. I treat people with sincerity, yet they have injured me all over. In this world, the most terrifying thing is not the ghosts, but the elusive human heart.

6. 一路行来，不见敌人，满是师长，一课接着一课，课课入心灵，节节刻入骨。

6. As I traveled along, there were no enemies in sight, only commanders. From one lesson to the next, each lesson seeped into the soul, each step was etched into the bones.

7. 两人在一起，肯定是因为他让你觉得舒服，打心眼里开心快乐。那才想跟他在一起，天天想跟他在一起。

7. When two people are together, it must be because he makes you feel comfortable and truly happy from the bottom of your heart. That's why you want to be with him, and you think about being with him every day.

8. 支持对方在各自的工作领域成长。这样两人可以一起成长，成就彼此。

8. Support each other in growing in their respective work fields. In this way, both individuals can grow together and achieve each other's success.

9. 若道理不是自己领悟出来的，任谁说都无济于事，过来人的经验，未经历过的人是听不进去的。

9. If the truth is not realized by oneself, no matter who says it, it is of no help. The experiences of those who have gone through it are not something that those who have not can comprehend.

10. 成熟的恋爱的前提是你是成熟的人，成熟的一大标志就是能够控制自己的情绪。

10. The premise of a mature love is that you are a mature person, and one of the signs of maturity is the ability to control your own emotions.

11. 你无法让所有人都满意，毕竟并非所有人都配称之为人。

11. You cannot satisfy everyone, after all, not everyone deserves to be called a person.

12. 他让你觉得舒服，你也让他觉得舒服，面对的就是彼此最真实自然的状态，没有刻意为了迎合对方，让自己太累了。

12. He makes you feel comfortable, and you also make him feel comfortable. The state you face is the most authentic and natural one between you two, without any deliberate effort to please the other, which would make you too tired.

13. 成熟的恋爱是势均力敌的。你参考太阳的后裔就知道了。

13. A mature love relationship is a fair match. You can see this from "The Heirs."

14. 因此，真实的过好每一天，你的心不累，才会开心幸福。

14. Therefore, truly enjoy each day, and your heart will not be tired, leading to happiness and well-being.

15. 其实恋爱没有成熟和幼稚之分，只要你能在这段感情中成长，以及让另一半也能成长。就是好的恋爱。1彼此相处快乐舒服

15. In fact, there is no distinction between mature and immature love. As long as you can grow in this relationship and also help your partner grow, it is a good love. 1 Enjoying each other's company happily and comfortably.

16. 人有众多面孔，心有千般变化，知晓的别全说出来，听到的莫全信。在这薄情的社会里，永远弄不清是谁在算计谁。

16. People have many faces and hearts with a thousand changes. Know but don't speak all you know, and don't believe everything you hear. In this indifferent society, it's always unclear who is scheming against whom.

17. 你跟他在一起，信任他，放心他所做的一切，不会因为他的工作，他所处的环境，就对他不放心，担心他，多了一个小心眼。

17. You are with him, trust him, and have confidence in everything he does. You won't be worried about him or have doubts about him because of his work or the environment he is in. You don't have an extra suspicious mind.

18. 我不清楚顺其自然能有多自然，可我晓得现实是何等的现实，不发生些糟心事，永远看不透身边人的真面目。

18. I'm not sure how natural it is to let things take their course, but I know how realistic reality truly is. Without experiencing some bad things, one can never see the true face of the people around them.

19. 与人交往时，他们懂得尊重他人，并关注别人的内心，他们对人友好而坦诚，因此别人对他们大多也是友好的。

19. When interacting with others, they understand the importance of respecting others and pay attention to the inner feelings of others. They are friendly and honest, and as a result, most people are also friendly towards them.

20. 他们也可以去追求金钱、地位，去完成事业，但是在这个过程中并不患得患失。他们知道，真正重要的是心灵。外在成功只是内在完美的一种体现而已。他们不贪财，但是如果做企业家，他们会发最大的财，因为会以轻松的心态发挥出最大的潜能。同理，他们不重名却也最容易成名。

20. They can also pursue wealth, status, and career achievements, but they do not become overly concerned with gains or losses in the process. They know that what truly matters is the soul. External success is merely a manifestation of inner perfection. They are not greedy for wealth, but if they were entrepreneurs, they would amass the most fortune, as they would tap into their maximum potential with a relaxed mindset. Similarly, they do not place a high value on fame, yet they are the easiest to become famous.

21. 挤不进的圈子就别硬挤了，既碍了他人的眼，又累了自己的心。

21. Don't force your way into a circle you can't fit into; it only offends others' eyes and burdens your own heart.

22. 清醒的人是可以自控的，但是他们的自控不是自我压抑。一般人的“理智人”对欲望的“原始人”是不善领导的，要么是压制“原始人”，要么是纵容“原始人”。而清醒的人就如同一个好领导，他可以让“原始人”做必要的事，而且是高高兴兴地做。

22. People who are clear-headed can control themselves, but their self-control is not self-suppression. The "rational man" in the general public is not good at leading the "primitive man" in desires; either he suppresses the "primitive man" or he indulges him. But a clear-headed person is like a good leader; he can make the "primitive man" do necessary things, and do them happily.

23. 两人在一起，不会把对方占为己有，各自是独立的个体，是自由的，两人可以有商有量。

23. When two people are together, they do not possess each other, each being an independent individual, free and able to consult with each other.

24. 快乐分享给错的人，就变成了炫耀；忧伤倾诉给错的人，就沦为了笑话。

24. Sharing happiness with the wrong person becomes showiness; pouring out sorrow to the wrong person turns it into a joke.

25. 两个人在一起了，总会是因为彼此的某个特征吸引了对方，心心相惜，这股吸引力一直凝聚着两人的关系。

25. When two people are together, it is always because some feature of one attracts the other, and there is a mutual admiration between them. This attraction always keeps the relationship between the two people凝聚 together.