在探讨支付回报表与情感账户的差异时，我们首先需明确两者在语义上的细微差别。本文将围绕“支付回报表”与“收取”这一关键词，浅析两者之间的区别。

When discussing the differences between the payment return statement and the emotional account, we first need to clarify the subtle semantic distinctions between the two. This article will focus on the keywords "payment return statement" and "collection" to briefly analyze the differences between the two.

1. 所以，即使你感觉自己不再像以前那么爱他（她），但只要你选择去使用对方的爱语，并让他（她）感受到，对方一定会以你的爱语来回报你，你会发现，一旦你选择了去爱，婚姻是可以再生的，也许这种说法不够浪漫，因为爱情在我们心目中，原本是一种美好的感觉，感觉爱了才是爱，如果感觉不在，爱情便消失了。但有时生活并不容许我们这么洒脱，也许是自身的情感放不下，也许是责任，或是别的一些原因，与其在漫长的余生去忍受不爱的痛苦，不如选择去爱那你以为不再可爱的，这是一种爱的能力。当我们能感受到彼此的爱时，才会在这样的爱里充满安全感，世界也会明亮起来。我们可能因为被肯定而发挥出最大的潜力，也会因为伴侣更多精心的陪伴和小惊喜而感受到生活的美好。因此这样的爱更为健康，也更为持久。

1. Therefore, even if you feel that you are not as in love with them as you used to be, as long as you choose to express your love in their love language and make them feel it, they will definitely reciprocate in their own love language. You will find that once you choose to love, marriage can be renewed. Perhaps this isn't a very romantic way of saying it, because in our hearts, love is supposed to be a beautiful feeling – the feeling of loving is what makes it love. If the feeling is gone, love disappears. But sometimes life doesn't allow us to be so carefree. It could be because we can't let go of our own emotions, or it could be due to responsibilities, or other reasons. It may be better to choose to love the person you once thought was unlovable, which is a form of love. When we can feel each other's love, we will feel secure in this kind of love, and the world will become brighter. We may bring out our full potential due to affirmation, and we may also feel the beauty of life due to our partner's more thoughtful companionship and small surprises. Therefore, such love is healthier and more enduring.

2. 不是所有的努力都会有回报，为了回报而付出永远不会有回报！

2. Not all efforts will be rewarded, and there will never be any return for giving in pursuit of reward!

3. 1花钱买礼物。生活中， 有一些观点会认为，女人需要礼物就是比较物质，还有一些人认为没必要花钱去买一些不实际的东西，内心对对方好就可以了。但查普曼博士告诉我们，如果接受礼物是我们伴侣的主要爱语，那么你或许需要改变你对金钱的态度。 实际上，送礼物是一种最好的投资，因为你在不断的往你们的情感账户里储蓄，用送礼物的方式不断的填满对方的爱箱，而对方有了一个满溢的爱箱，也会乐于用你喜欢的方式来回报你，这样你们的婚姻才会不断充满各种期待与惊喜，越来越稳固。

3.1 Spending money on gifts. In life, some people might think that needing gifts is a sign of materialism in women, and there are also those who believe that it's not necessary to spend money on things that are not practical, as showing care from the heart is enough. However, Dr. Chapman tells us that if receiving gifts is your partner's primary love language, then you might need to change your attitude towards money. In fact, giving gifts is one of the best investments, because you are constantly making deposits into your emotional account, continuously filling up your partner's love tank through gift-giving. When your partner has a full love tank, they will also be happy to reciprocate in the way that you like, making your marriage filled with various expectations and surprises, and becoming increasingly stable.

4. 对于人来说，最大的快乐和幸福就是把自己的精神力量奉献给别人。

4. For humans, the greatest happiness and joy is to dedicate one's spiritual strength to others.

5. 2把自己当做礼物。这是一种无形的礼物。在她最需要你出现的时候，陪伴在身边，比如她的生日，或者对于她来说意义非常重要的一次活动，因为这种时候对于她来说，你就是爱的象征，比其他任何事情都重要。

5. 2 Treat yourself as a gift. This is an intangible gift. Be present by her side when she most needs you, such as on her birthday or during a significant event that holds great meaning for her, because at such times, to her, you are the symbol of love, more important than anything else.

6. 前段时间，看到一个很火的韩国短视频——《30天的约定》。视频中这对夫妻，像大多数人一样，经历了甜蜜的恋爱，最终步入婚姻的殿堂。但随着时间的流逝，婚后他们慢慢没有了共同的语言。回到家里，他们一言不发的各自吃饭，各自看手机，不再像以前一样相拥而睡。虽然习惯了彼此，但再也不会像恋爱时一样去表达对彼此的爱。日复一日，婚姻变成了一种煎熬。终于，丈夫提出了离婚，而妻子的唯一要求是，在接下来的30天里，丈夫每天答应自己一个要求，可以拥抱，亲吻，可以是说“我爱你”，也可以送礼物准备惊喜30天过去了，当他们准备去办离婚手续时，丈夫想起了他们当初恋爱时的情节，想起之前他们经常牵手，拥抱，彼此表白，而他已经很长时间忽略了这些这30天，让他又找回了恋爱时的感觉最终，两人放弃了离婚。

6. Recently, I saw a very popular South Korean short video called "The 30-Day Agreement." In the video, this couple, like most people, experienced a sweet romance and eventually got married. However, as time went by, they gradually lost their common language after marriage. When they returned home, they ate their meals in silence, each looking at their phone, no longer hugging each other to sleep as they used to. Although they were accustomed to each other, they no longer expressed their love towards each other like they did during their romance. Day by day, marriage turned into a torturous experience. Finally, the husband proposed a divorce, and the wife's only request was that for the next 30 days, the husband would promise to fulfill her one request each day, which could be a hug, a kiss, saying "I love you," or sending gifts to prepare surprises. 30 days passed, and when they were preparing to go through the divorce procedures, the husband remembered the scenes of their romance in the beginning, thinking about how they used to hold hands, hug, and confess their love to each other, while he had ignored these things for a long time. These 30 days brought him back the feeling of romance. In the end, the two abandoned the idea of divorce.

7. 父爱是一盏明灯，让你的灵魂即使在黑暗的边缘也能看到光明的道路。

7. Fatherly love is a beacon of light, guiding your soul to see the path to brightness even at the edge of darkness.

8. 你更像无名的根，让小树茁壮成长，让枝头结满丰硕的果实，却不求任何回报。

8. You are more like an anonymous root, nurturing the robust growth of young trees, and bearing bountiful fruits on the branches without seeking any reward in return.

9. 不能只帮别人，不允许别人帮自己，一心想零存整取，以后找别人帮大忙。互相帮助，有时甚至会加深彼此之间的感情。别人帮你，要回报每一个善意。

9. One cannot only help others while not allowing others to help themselves, always wanting to save up small amounts for a big withdrawal in the future. Mutual assistance can sometimes even deepen the feelings between each other. When others help you, you should reciprocate every good intention.

10. 在《爱的五种语言》一书中，查普曼博士举了一个例子。比尔和贝蒂夫妇，虽然他们已经学会了使用肯定的言语，对比尔来说，结果也非常满意，但贝蒂却仍然不能感觉到比尔非常爱他。查普曼博士在交谈中了解到，贝蒂抱怨比尔不跟他一起做事，不花时间跟她在一起，而是总在忙于自己的工作，因此，她仍然感觉不到比尔的爱。原来，贝蒂的主要爱语是精心的时刻，而比尔却没有了解和使用到这种正确的爱语。于是，查普曼博士让比尔列了一张贝蒂希望他陪伴去完成的事情清单，每周去陪她完成一件。很多年过去，比尔和贝蒂的感情越来越好，他们彼此鼓励和陪伴，爱箱一直都是常满的状态。

10. In the book "The Five Love Languages," Dr. Chapman shared an example. Bill and Betty, a couple who had learned to use affirming words, found that it was very satisfying for Bill, but Betty still couldn't feel that Bill loved her very much. During the conversation, Dr. Chapman learned that Betty complained that Bill didn't do things with her, didn't spend time with her, but was always busy with his own work, so she still didn't feel Bill's love. It turned out that Betty's primary love language was quality time, but Bill had not understood or used this correct love language. So, Dr. Chapman asked Bill to make a list of things that Betty wanted him to accompany her to do, and he would spend time with her to complete one thing every week. Years passed, and the relationship between Bill and Betty grew better and better, encouraging and accompanying each other, and the love box was always full.

11. 一味的让别人为你买单，但是让你买单的时候，你就跑了。还在抱怨别人没等你？

11. You always expect others to pay for you, but when it's time for you to pay, you run away. Are you still complaining that others didn't wait for you?

12. 其实我知道，你愿意为我付出任何代价，哪怕没有尊严，只为我但那样的他，世上再无重复！

12. In fact, I know that you are willing to pay any price for me, even at the cost of dignity, just for him. But such a person is unique in the world, without a duplicate!

13. 情感账户也就是人际关系的一种比喻，这个账户里我们每个人都学会去给它存信任，价值，情感。人际关系处理的本质就是在这个账户里存款和取款的行为！所以当我们在生活工作的人际交往中，都看成是在他人的情感账户里存款的机会。

13. The emotional account is a metaphor for human relationships, where each of us learns to deposit trust, value, and emotions into it. The essence of handling interpersonal relationships is the act of depositing and withdrawing from this account! Therefore, when we interact with others in our daily lives and work, we should view it as opportunities to deposit into their emotional accounts.

14. 不要群发私信求赞，不要拉朋友进群，能自己百度解决的事情就不要去麻烦别人。不要乱挥霍自己的人情。

14. Do not send group private messages for likes, do not pull friends into groups, and don't bother others for things that you can solve yourself with a simple Baidu search. Don't squander your favors.

15. 无论我们使用哪一种爱的方言，最关键的是我们要认清爱的本质： 爱的目的不是得到你想要的，而是为了你所爱之人的福祉去做些什么。因此肯定的言词，需要真诚，需要同理心，需要注意我们说话的方式和表达愿望的方式。

15. Regardless of which dialect of love we use, the most crucial thing is to recognize the essence of love: the purpose of love is not to get what you want, but to do something for the well-being of the person you love. Therefore, positive words require sincerity, empathy, and attention to the way we speak and express our wishes.

16. 向前走，就要一路种花，因为你再也不会走同一条路了。

16. As you walk forward, plant flowers along the way, for you will never walk the same path again.

17. 你需要付出的，只是心里的一点点柔情，从此坚硬如铁。

17. All you need to give is a bit of tenderness in your heart, and from then on, you'll be as hard as iron.

18. 每个人都渴望被人所爱，这是人类最重要的情绪需求。如果把这种需求比作一个箱子，每个人心中都住着一个”爱箱“，等待着被填满爱。在婚姻中，能一直感受到伴侣的爱，保持“爱箱“常满，是婚姻得以维持的必要条件。如果彼此拖着一个空虚的爱箱，这样的婚姻是毫无幸福可言的，要么彼此将就冷漠，痛苦一生，要么以离婚收场。人们常常说'七年之痒",这确实就是现代婚姻中的一个普遍现象。

18. Everyone yearns to be loved, and this is the most important emotional need for humans. If we liken this need to a box, everyone has an "love box" in their heart, waiting to be filled with love. In marriage, continuously feeling the love of a partner and keeping the "love box" constantly filled is a necessary condition for the maintenance of the marriage. If both parties drag around an empty love box, such a marriage has no happiness to speak of. Either they will endure a life of indifference and suffering, or the marriage will end in divorce. People often say "the seven-year itch," which indeed is a common phenomenon in modern marriages.

19. 爱是一种选择。也许一开始，我们会不习惯去使用对方的爱语，比如，我们从不习惯去赞美，也不喜欢陪对方看自己最不喜欢的**，但如果我们选择去调适，去选择我们不曾习惯的这些方式，对方会渐渐感受到被爱包围，我们会发现对方给的回报也多了，有了积极的回想，我们会更加乐意去付出，去使用他的爱语。这个过程到后来，变成了一种心甘情愿的过程，一个快乐付出，收获幸福的过程。

19. Love is a choice. Perhaps at first, we may not be accustomed to using the love language of the other, such as, we are not used to praising, nor do we like accompanying the other to watch something we dislike the most. But if we choose to adjust, to choose these ways that we are not accustomed to, the other person will gradually feel loved. We will find that the return we receive is also greater, with positive recollections. We will be more willing to give and use his love language. This process, later on, becomes a process of wholeheartedness, a process of happy giving and reaping happiness.

20. 父爱是一片海，让你的灵魂即使遭遇电闪雷鸣也是善良宽容的。

20. A father's love is an ocean, making your soul kind and宽容 even when it faces thunder and lightning.

21. 当索取的情绪出现，满脑子都是伴侣，无法冷静下来时，如何调整自己在特定时间、地点或者不分时间、地点以对方为中心的情绪呢？

21. When the emotional desire to seek out a partner arises, and your mind is filled with thoughts of them, making it impossible to calm down, how can one adjust their emotions to be centered around the other person at specific times and places, or at any time and place?

22. 想要别人对你好，你得先付出。就算你的付出不一定有回报，至少你对得起你的心。因为我做到了，我的心是安全的。你不会留下太多遗憾。

22. If you want others to be good to you, you need to give first. Even if your efforts may not always be rewarded, at least you can be true to your heart. Because I have done so, my heart is at peace. You won't leave behind too many regrets.

23. 触景生情是人类产生情绪的特征之一，要理解当自己的情绪处于无处安放的困境，一定要得到对方的回应才能产生动能的情况时，需要找到除了那个人以外，值得你痴迷的事件或者物品。

23. The characteristic of being moved by scenes is one of the ways humans generate emotions. To understand the situation where one's emotions are in a dilemma with nowhere to go, and one must receive a response from the other person in order to generate momentum, it is necessary to find an event or item that is worth being obsessed with, besides that person.

24. 人们常说，陪伴是最长情的告白。不管我们的事业多么成功，最终我们渴望的仍然是奋斗过程中有最爱的人陪伴，成功也跟最爱的人一起分享。所以，精心的陪伴，在我们的婚姻中非常重要。如果我们的伴侣，主要爱语是精心的时刻，那么试着放下手机，仔细倾听他（她）在说什么，理解他（她）的感受，给于真诚的回应。多抽一些时间，一起去做一些事，没有任何打扰。当我们在做这些事情的时候，集中注意力，关注对方的情感，相信我们的伴侣一定能感受到满满的爱。

24. It is often said that companionship is the longest declaration of love. No matter how successful our careers are, what we ultimately desire is still to have our dearest loved ones by our side during the struggle, and to share our success with them as well. Therefore, careful companionship is very important in our marriage. If our partner's primary love language is quality time, then try to put down your phone, listen carefully to what they are saying, understand their feelings, and give a sincere response. Spend more time together doing things, without any interruptions. When we are engaged in these activities, focus our attention on the other person's emotions, and believe that our partner will definitely feel the fullness of love.

25. 2思考你最希望你的伴侣为你做一些什么事？你最希望对方为你做的事，也许就是你的主要爱语。

25. 2 Think about what you would most hope your partner does for you? What you most hope your partner will do for you may just be your primary love language.

26. 人生有太多的无奈。有时候，为了得到我们想要的，我们不得不强迫自己去做我们不喜欢的事情。

26. Life is filled with too many regrets. Sometimes, in order to get what we want, we have to force ourselves to do things we don't like.

27. 从现在起，尝试着为你的他（她）精心准备一些小礼物，或是出差旅行的纪念品，或是一份特别定制的生日礼物，一束心仪的花不需要昂贵，只在乎意义。特别是对于视接受礼物为主要爱语的伴侣来说，他（她）一定会觉得你是如此爱他（她），你让他的爱箱满溢，从而更好的回报给你，你们的婚姻也一定会越来越美好。

27. From now on, try to prepare some thoughtful little gifts for him/her, whether it's souvenirs from a business trip, a specially customized birthday present, or a bouquet of flowers that speak to your heart. The cost is not important; what matters is the meaning behind it. Especially for partners who regard receiving gifts as a primary language of love, they will definitely feel that you love them deeply, filling their love box to the brim, and in turn, they will better reciprocate your love. Your marriage is sure to become increasingly beautiful.

28. 2鼓励的话语。 保持同理心，了解什么对于伴侣来说是最重要的，真诚的鼓励他（她）去做喜欢做的事，真诚的鼓励，能最大限度的激发起对方的潜能。

28. 2 Encouraging Words. Maintain empathy, understand what is most important to your partner, and sincerely encourage them to do what they like. Sincere encouragement can maximize the potential of the other person.

29. 服务的行动，强调的是心甘情愿，不应该出于被逼，愧疚等原因。但有的时候，对方所希望我们做的事，并不是我们喜欢或适合去做的，那怎么办呢？ 如果对方的主要爱的语言就是服务的行动，那么请你尝试去改变，学习和使用对方的语言，尝试去做一些伴侣希望你去做的事情，也许一开始会不习惯，但只要你坚持这么做了，随着对方的爱箱渐渐填满，你一定会感受到对方也在使用你的爱语来回报你！

29. The action of service emphasizes willingness and should not be forced or due to guilt and other reasons. However, sometimes, what the other person wants us to do is not something we like or are suited to do. What should we do in that case? If the other person's primary love language is the act of service, then please try to change, learn, and use their language. Try to do some things that your partner hopes you will do. It may not be accustomed to it at first, but as long as you persist in doing so, as the other person's love box gradually fills up, you will definitely feel that the other person is also using your love language to reciprocate you!

30. 1回顾你经常抱怨你的伴侣没有做到的爱的方式，比如，你经常会抱怨他从不送你礼物，你对此事一直耿耿于怀，那么很有可能你的主要爱语就是接受礼物。

30.1 Look back at the ways you often complain about your partner not showing their love, such as, you often complain that he never gives you gifts, and you have been fixated on this matter, then it's very likely that your primary love language is receiving gifts.

31. 当幸福悄然而至时，可能需要我们无私的奉献。拒绝付出又敢于付出，回报无疑是失去和拥有。如果你有足够的勇气支付，你可以享受一个送人花留余香美丽。

31. When happiness quietly arrives, it may require our selfless dedication. To refuse to give and yet dare to give, the reward is undoubtedly the loss and the gain. If you have enough courage to pay, you can enjoy the beauty of giving flowers and leaving a lingering fragrance.

32. 我们怎样才能保持爱箱满溢呢？美国著名的婚姻辅导专家，畅销书作家-盖瑞查普曼博士, 在《爱的五种语言》一书中为我们解答了这个问题： 每个人都说着不同的爱的语言。婚姻中，我们需要学会说对方能领会的爱的语言，满足对方的需要，才能真正让对方感受到爱，填满他（她）的爱箱，从而影响或改变对方的行为。就像视频中的这对夫妻，当他们开始用对方希望的方式去满足对方时，婚姻的氛围便慢慢发生了改变，他们感受到了来自对方的爱，从而也愿意去回报对方，最终让婚姻重生。

最终翻译如下： 32. How can we keep the love box full? The renowned marriage counselor and best-selling author, Dr. Gary Chapman, answers this question for us in his book "The Five Love Languages": Everyone speaks different love languages. In marriage, we need to learn to speak the love language that our partner understands, meet their needs, and truly make them feel loved, fill their love box, and thereby influence or change their behavior. Just like the couple in the video, when they started to satisfy each other in the way they wanted, the atmosphere of their marriage gradually changed, they felt the love from each other, and were also willing to reciprocate, ultimately reviving their marriage.

33. 你的爱，太阳一般是温暖的，春风一般是温暖的，春天一般是甜蜜的。你的爱比父爱更严厉，比母爱更细腻，比友爱更纯粹。你师爱是世界上最伟大最干净的。

33. Your love is as warm as the sun, as gentle as the spring breeze, and as sweet as spring itself. Your love is stricter than parental love, more delicate than maternal love, and purer than friendly love. Your teacher's love is the greatest and cleanest in the world.

34. 你最好理解，别人不爱你，那是本分（哪怕是恋人、家长）；爱你，那是情分。感谢和欣赏他人的爱，但是也不要期望对方一定给。因为这不是义务。

34. You had better understand that if someone does not love you, that is their duty (even if it's a lover or a parent); if they do love you, that is a favor. Appreciate and cherish the love of others, but do not expect that the other person will always give it. Because this is not an obligation.

35. 一个没有奉献精神的人永远做不了大事。

35. A person without dedication can never accomplish great things.

36. 我想要你更好，愿意为之付出，即使没有任何其它的回报。这种形式可能是夸奖他人让人开心，也可能是帮助处于困难的人。

36. I want you to be better, and I am willing to make the effort for it, even without any other rewards. This form may be to praise others and make them happy, or to help those in difficulties.

37. 付出不一定有回报。我觉得这就是没有明确目标的人说的话。还有一个就是你想要的回报其实是不够的。

37. Not all effort guarantees a return. I think that's what someone without a clear goal would say. Another thing is that the return you want may not be enough.

38. 很多人往往想着“等到有一天，我遇到一个对我很好很爱我的人，然后我会去爱他。这还是自私。做人的一个基本修养，就是学会去给予爱。这不仅仅是指”爱你的人“，而是更广泛意义上的，例如周围的人、甚至陌生人。

38. Many people often think, "One day, when I meet someone who treats me well and loves me deeply, then I will love them back." This is still selfish. One of the basic virtues of being a person is to learn to give love. This does not merely refer to "the person who loves you," but in a broader sense, such as to the people around you, even to strangers.

39. 爱和其它事情一样，要做好需要实力。例如同样是想让对方开心，有可能就是做不到，大家在一起很枯燥。你想要关心，但是可能老是打在对方不需要的地方。

39. Love, like other things, requires strength to do well. For example, even if you want to make the other person happy, there may be times when you can't, and the time spent together may be quite dull. You want to show concern, but it may often fall on places where the other person doesn't need it.

40. 婚姻中，我们应该不断去尝试，真诚的使用各种肯定的语言，多肯定对方的优点，鼓励对方，并且说出来让对方知道，同时，少一些抱怨和指责，让对方感觉到自己是有价值的，她的潜能也会被激发出来。特别是对于主要爱语是肯定的言词的伴侣来说，你的真诚的赞美和鼓励，能够让她深深感受到你的欣赏和对他（她）的爱，从而他（她）也会在行动上回报你，让婚姻中充满积极肯定的氛围。

40. In marriage, we should continuously try to use sincere affirming words, highlighting the partner's strengths, encouraging them, and expressing these affirmations so that they are aware of them. At the same time, we should reduce complaints and指责, making the partner feel valued and their potential can be stimulated. Especially for partners whose primary love language is words of affirmation, your sincere praise and encouragement can deeply make them feel your appreciation and love for them, and in return, they will also act to repay you, filling the marriage with a positive and affirming atmosphere.

41. 首先，我们需要清楚自己的主要爱语。 也许在婚姻中，你的伴侣为你做了很多爱的事情，你的爱箱本来就很满，因此你无法区分到底哪种才是你的主要爱语；也许也有一些人，爱箱长期处于空虚的状态，已不记得什么才能使他们感觉到爱。那么，不烦试一下以下方法，来发现你自己的主要爱语：

41. First, we need to be clear about our primary love language. Maybe in a marriage, your partner has done many loving things for you, and your love box is already full, so you can't distinguish which one is your primary love language; or maybe there are also some people whose love box has been empty for a long time, and they no longer remember what can make them feel loved. Then, why not try the following methods to discover your own primary love language:

42. 所谓服务的行动，是指做你配偶希望你做的事情，并且以正面的精神来完成。你借着为她服务，而使她高兴，这是表达爱的一种方式。恋爱的时候，我们总是愿意为对方去做很多事 ，买个早餐，接送上下班，或是周末陪逛街因为你爱对方，并且想让对方感觉到你的爱,所以你心甘情愿去为她服务。而结婚以后，我们以往的一些刻板印象，或者日常的行为习惯，让我们产生了一些固定的模式，你可能会认为，家务就应该妻子来完成，一个丈夫不可能去做洗碗洗衣服之类的事情。但是你不明白，这些事情对于你的妻子来说有多么重要。

42. The so-called acts of service refer to doing the things that your spouse wishes for you to do, and completing them with a positive attitude. By serving her, you make her happy, which is a way to express love. In the early stages of romance, we are always willing to do many things for each other, like buying breakfast, picking up and dropping off at work, or accompanying each other on weekend shopping trips, because we love the person and want them to feel our love, so we are happy to serve them. However, after marriage, some of our previous stereotypes or daily behavioral habits lead us to develop certain fixed patterns. You might think that household chores should be done by your wife, and it's impossible for a husband to do things like washing dishes and clothes. But you don't understand how important these things are to your wife.

43. 爱这个东西，就像银行存款，是有金额和额度的。一开始你们之间存款低，关心对方、相处有趣、彼此理解沟通，账户往上涨。反过来，一味索取，情感账户数字下降会很快。

43. Love, like a bank deposit, has amounts and limits. Initially, the deposit between you is low, but as you care for each other, enjoy each other's company, and communicate and understand each other, the account increases. Conversely, if you keep on taking without giving, the numbers in the emotional account will drop rapidly.

44. 爱，首先意味着奉献，意味着把自己内心的力量给你爱的人，为你爱的人创造幸福。

44. Love first means dedication, it means giving your inner strength to the one you love, and creating happiness for the one you love.

45. 父爱是一缕阳光，让你的心即使在寒冷的冬天也温暖如春。

45. Paternal love is a ray of sunshine, warming your heart even in the cold winter as if it were spring.

46. 每种爱的语言，都具有正面的力量，只要我们在婚姻中坚持去使用，它们一定会创造一种很好的氛围，让我们的婚姻维持幸福和稳定，但前提是，我们得清楚彼此的主要爱语是什么，这样才能更好的用对方能感受到的方式来给与爱，有智慧的爱才能填满对方的爱箱。怎样才能清楚彼此的爱语呢？

46. Every language of love has a positive power, and as long as we persist in using them in our marriage, they will definitely create a great atmosphere that maintains the happiness and stability of our marriage. However, the premise is that we must be clear about each other's primary love language so that we can better give love in a way that the other person can feel. Wise love is what fills the love box of the other person. How can we understand each other's love language clearly?

47. 上帝赐予的生命是为了人类的繁荣、和平和幸福。

47. The life bestowed by God is for the prosperity, peace, and happiness of humanity.

48. 当你的配偶主要爱的语言是身体的接触时 ，尝试在每天早晨上班的时候，给她一个充满爱意的拥抱或亲吻，或者在他（她）坐着的时候，给他肩膀按摩，即使在家里有客人的时候，你也可以把手放在他（她）的肩膀上，让他知道你在意他，感受到你的爱意。而在她伤心难过的时候，没有什么比你一个深情的拥抱，更能安慰她内心，让她充满力量。如果你以前不习惯或忽视了这一点，从现在开始，去做这件事，并养成习惯，你会感受到这种爱的语言带来的神奇的改变。

48. When your partner's primary love language is physical touch, try to give them a loving embrace or kiss every morning when you leave for work, or give them a shoulder massage while they are sitting down, even if there are guests at home; you can still place your hand on their shoulder to let them know you care and feel your love. And when she is sad or upset, nothing can comfort her heart and fill her with strength like a tender embrace from you. If you were not used to this or had neglected it before, start doing this now and make it a habit. You will experience the magical change brought about by this language of love.

49. 2精心的会话。会话中最重要的是带着同理心去倾听，去体会和了解对方的感受和愿望，不要轻易打断对方，也不要急着给对方下结论和提供你的建议，除非对方需要。但我们也需要学习跟对方清楚表达我们自己的想法和情绪，让对方更好的了解我们。

49. 2 Deliberate conversation. The most important thing in a conversation is to listen with empathy, to understand and feel the other person's feelings and desires, not to interrupt them easily, and not to jump to conclusions or offer your suggestions too quickly, unless the other person needs it. But we also need to learn to clearly express our own thoughts and emotions to the other person, so that they can better understand us.

50. 生活中，其实每个人心中都有一盏灯。无论遇到什么挫折和黑暗，重要的是信念不能被抹去。

50. In life, in fact, everyone has a lamp in their hearts. No matter what setbacks and darkness one encounters, what is important is that the belief cannot be erased.

51. 如果你想拥有你从未拥有的，你必须付出你从未付出的！

51. If you want to have what you've never had, you must pay what you've never paid!