在纷繁复杂的职场世界中，有一种独特的现象——职场PUA。它究竟隐藏着怎样的秘密？让我们一探究竟。

In the intricate and complex world of the workplace, there is a unique phenomenon known as workplace PUA. What secrets does it hide? Let's delve into it to find out.

1. 只有坚强的人才能拥有神圣的意志，谁打谁就能赢。歌德

1. Only the strong can possess a sacred will, and those who strike can win. - Goethe

2. 执着追求并获得最大快乐的人，是胜利者。梭罗

2. The one who persists in pursuing and attains the greatest happiness is the victor. — Thoreau

3. 对于一个学者来说，决心是最重要的。孙逸仙

3. For an academic, determination is the most important. Sun Yat-sen

4. 因为无论何时，他们都在打着自己的小算盘，合作的时候，他们总是挑着简单的事，困难的、需要担责的事给人家做。分奖金的时候，最好自己能多一些，其他人都少一些。讲功劳的时候，人家功劳小一些，自己功劳多一些。升职的时候，总是想着法儿帮自己争利益。

4. Because at any time, they are always thinking of their own little plans. When they cooperate, they always pick the easy tasks, leaving the difficult and responsible ones for others. When it comes to dividing the bonus, they always try to get more for themselves and less for everyone else. When it's time to talk about contributions, they make others' contributions seem smaller and their own contributions seem larger. When it's time for promotions, they always think of ways to fight for their own interests.

5. 前几天易江说，孩子跟他抱怨，说一起工作的同事，做事太慢，而且总是下班后还加班，弄得孩子不知道该不该也留下来加班。

5. A few days ago, Yi Jiang said that his child complained to him, saying that the colleagues they work with are too slow and always work overtime after work, which made his child unsure whether he should also stay and work overtime.

6. 找时间想想你一天做了什么，不管是积极的还是消极的。如果是正面的，那就是好的。如果是负面信号，那就采取措施。季米特洛夫

6. Take some time to think about what you have done throughout the day, whether it is positive or negative. If it's positive, that's good. If there are negative signals, take measures. - Dimitrov

7. 生是杰出的人，死也是鬼。至今怀念项羽，不肯过江东。李清照

7. A man is distinguished in life, and a ghost in death. Even today, people remember Xiang Yu and refuse to cross the Eastern River. — Li Qingzhao

8. 在几个月的时间里，他参与了部门的几个核心项目。而且每次开会，他们都准备挨骂，反击。工作人员与领导进行反击，为之争论，每一次反击都是合乎逻辑的，有理有据的。有时候领导故意转移话题，他却一次又一次地拉回来。你骂我，我就笑着和你投射；你再骂我，我就笑着回答，直到我发现领导根本不讲理，就把笔记本(记笔记的笔记本)扔了出去。啪的一声，摔在了桌子上。然后继续讲项目。然后就是疏远他，用自己的方式处理他。让他感受到被冷落的感觉。这个效果应该不会太好。后来领导主动维护了部门的同事，关系变得轻松了很多，因为员工被简单的打压和责骂，员工没有还手之力，也没有什么反应。就好像他省下了足够的精力，打棉花一样。一点脾气都没有。

8. Over a few months, he participated in several core projects of the department. And every time they had meetings, they were prepared to be scolded and to counterattack. The staff would counterattack against the leaders, arguing about it, and each counterattack was logical and well-supported. Sometimes the leaders deliberately changed the subject, but he would bring it back time and time again. You scold me, and I would laugh and reflect it back to you; if you scold me again, I would laugh and answer, until I realized that the leader was fundamentally unreasonable, and then I threw the notebook (the notebook for taking notes) out. With a bang, it landed on the table. Then we continued to discuss the project. After that, he was gradually distanced from, and dealt with in his own way. He felt the sense of being ignored. This effect might not be too good. Later, the leader actively defended the colleagues in the department, and the relationship became much more relaxed, because the employees were simply suppressed and scolded, with no means of retaliation and no reaction. It was as if he had saved enough energy to hit a cotton ball. He had no temper at all.

9. 人们常常把真理和错误混在一起教导人们，却坚持错误。歌德

9. People often mix truth and error when teaching, yet they persist in the error. - Goethe

10. 勇敢面对逆境。贺拉斯

10. Bravely face adversity. Horace

11. 只有失败过的人才知道生活中取胜的秘诀。魏科林斯

11. Only those who have experienced failure know the secret to success in life. Wei Colins.

12. 成功不在于力量，而在于坚持多久。约翰逊

12. Success does not lie in strength, but in how long one can persevere. - Johnson

13. 强有力的理由导致强有力的行动。莎士比亚

13. Strong reasons lead to strong actions. - Shakespeare

14. 谁有吃苦的意志，谁就能实现任何目标。米南德

14. Whosoever has the will to endure hardship can achieve any goal. — Menander

15. 很多人用青春的快乐作为成功的代价。莫扎特

15. Many people use the joy of youth as the price of success. Mozart

16. 自私自利的人是永远存在的，当你有一个自私自利的同事时，你常常会被他弄得崩溃。

16. Self-centered individuals will always exist, and when you have a self-centered colleague, you often find yourself driven to the brink of collapse by them.

17. 作为领导，你的权威都来自于你的以身作则，你的表率，而不是你的岗位。岗位能带来的只是体系内的权利，而不是你个人的魅力。

17. As a leader, your authority comes from your role as a role model, from your example, not from your position. The position can only bring rights within the system, not your personal charm.

18. 嘴巴毒直接体现出来的就是，对方听了不舒服。尽管可能你说的是真话，你认为你是良药苦口利于病。但连医生都知道太苦了的药需要加裹一层糖衣，太苦的中药也会要求添加一些蜂蜜。

18. The direct manifestation of bitter words is that the other person feels uncomfortable after hearing them. Although what you say might be the truth, and you believe that bitter medicine is good for the illness, even doctors know that medicine that is too bitter needs to be coated with a layer of sugar, and bitter traditional Chinese medicine also requires the addition of some honey.

19. 所以，嘴巴毒的人在职场上很难让人喜欢。你在私人场合毒一下就算了，如果你在公众场合也同样如此的话，即使公司会给你机会，估计也有同事会想办法把你弄下去。

19. Therefore, people with a venomous tongue are hard to please in the workplace. If you are venomous in private, it's one thing, but if you are also venomous in public, even if the company gives you a chance, it's likely that some colleagues will try to get you out of your position.

20. 3反制pua:我们会向领导对待我们一样对待领导，基础工作要完成，也就是我们不理你。你可以为所欲为，但不要让自己养成一种听天由命的状态。这只是反击措施，不是投降。不断提升自己的能力，不断提升自己，未来会越来越广阔！

20. 3 Counteraction to PUAs: We will treat our leaders as they treat us. The basic work must be completed, which means we will ignore you. You can do as you please, but don't let yourself become complacent. This is just a countermeasure, not a surrender. Continuously enhance your abilities and self-improvement, and the future will become increasingly broad!

21. 在我们的职场上，你该请客就得请客，该参加宴会，就得参加宴会。

21. In our workplace, you should treat when it's necessary, and attend banquets when required.

22. 人生的目标是唯一值得寻找的财富。斯蒂文森

22. The goal of life is the only wealth worth seeking. - Stevenson

23. 虽然我性格内向，但我很固执。他告诉我他想对抗他们的领导。我惊呆了，以为他要出格了。然后过了几个月，他不出声了，我们互相聊了聊，交流了最新的情况。直到有一天，他说：“我们领导被我暗算了，部门氛围比以前好多了。”我很迷茫，不知道。他说：“从他到公司，他算了一下，部门的离职率很高，很多人受不了领导的作风，选择离职逃避。”他虽然不想留在公司，但就是不信邪灵，想跟领导“干”。

23. Although I am an introverted person, I am very stubborn. He told me that he wanted to stand up against their leadership. I was shocked and thought he was about to go overboard. Then after a few months, he stopped talking, and we chatted and exchanged the latest situations with each other. Until one day, he said, "Our leader has been tricked by me, and the department atmosphere is much better than before." I was confused and didn't know what to think. He said, "Since he came to the company, he calculated that the department had a high turnover rate, and many people couldn't stand the leader's style, so they chose to quit and escape." Although he didn't want to stay in the company, he refused to believe in evil spirits and wanted to "confront" the leader.

24. 我宁愿靠自己的力量打开自己的未来，也不愿寻求有权势的人的青睐。雨果

24. I would rather open my future with my own strength than seek the favor of the powerful. Hugo.

25. 自私的人没有人会喜欢。对人马列主义，对己自由主义，不管是领导还是同事，都不得人心。

25. People do not like selfish individuals. Whether it's Marxism for others and liberalism for oneself, neither leaders nor colleagues can win the hearts of people.

26. 真不知道这个世界上能事业有成的人，有多少是因为放过了难得的时间而默默无闻的。莫泊森

26. I truly don't know how many people have achieved success in their careers in this world who have silently faded away because they let slip those precious moments. - Maupassant

27. 真理是时间的孩子，不是权威的孩子。布莱希特

27. Truth is the child of time, not the child of authority. Bertolt Brecht

28. 因为没人会喜欢毒舌的人，这样的人太让人讨厌。

28. Because no one likes a sarcastic person, such individuals are too讨厌.

29. 人患志，何苦愁使名不正邪？刘义庆

29. People are troubled by ambition, why be distressed over the name not being right and evil? Liu Yike.

30. 孩子说，上班时间，他的工作早就做完了，甚至帮着同事也做了一些，可是同事能力不行，即便这样还是不能在上班时间内做完，只能加班，弄得孩子不知所措。

30. The child said that during working hours, he had already finished his work and even helped some colleagues, but the colleagues were not competent. Even so, he couldn't finish the work within working hours and had to work overtime, leaving the child at a loss.

31. 生命是以时间为基础的，浪费别人的时间等于谋财害命，浪费自己的时间等于慢性* *。鲁迅

31. Life is based on time; wasting others' time is tantamount to committing financial and mortal harm, while wasting one's own time is akin to a chronic illness. —Lu Xun

32. 职场上，也总有一些人，说话太难听，嘴巴非常毒。

32. In the workplace, there are always some people who speak very harshly and have a very venomous tongue.

33. 直接冷酷对待每一个人的话，你很难在职场上有同盟军，有谁喜欢热脸贴冷屁股呢？

33. If you treat everyone directly and coldly, it will be hard to gain allies in the workplace, who would like to be on the receiving end of a cold shoulder?

34. 事情不明确才有效，而且没有证明。王冲

34. The matter is effective because it is unclear, and there is no proof. -- Wang Chong

35. 人就像手表，它的价值是由行动决定的。欧洲

35. People are like watches, their value is determined by action. Europe

36. 白石以勇气驯服大海，以青春豪气走向千山。林·

36. Bai Shi tames the sea with courage and strides towards a thousand mountains with the spirit of youth. Lin ·

37. 克服困难是胜利的机会。丘吉尔

37. Overcoming difficulties is the opportunity for victory. - Churchill

38. 做你害怕的事，恐惧自然会消失。Rove 华多爱默生2。一个人一旦被打击就失去信心，永远是个失败者。毛姆

38. Do the things you fear and the fear will disappear. – Ralph Waldo Emerson. Once a person is defeated, they lose confidence and will always be a loser. – Somerset Maugham.

39. 慢慢来做一件事，但是一旦开始，就要坚持下去。偏见

39. Take your time to do something, but once you start, you should persevere. Bias.

40. 1采用亲密关系：大多数时候，领导会对你采用pua，因为他可以在你身上找到优越感，发泄自己的情绪。但是，如果你们之间的关系很亲密，那么在非办公时间整饬烧烤、唱歌，关系就会缓和，你对他了解得越多，所谓的pua就会自动消失。

40. 1 Adopting an intimate relationship: Most of the time, leaders will use PUA (Pick-up Artist techniques) on you because they can find a sense of superiority in you and vent their emotions. However, if your relationship with them is very close, then in non-working hours, by engaging in activities like barbecuing and singing, the relationship will become more harmonious. The more you understand them, the so-called PUA will automatically fade away.

41. 胜利不会向我们走来。我必须自己走向胜利。穆尔

41. Victory will not come to us. I must go towards victory myself. - Moore

42. 不同的同事，你也需要来分析判断，采用不同的策略来建立同事之间的关系。

42. With different colleagues, you also need to analyze and judge, adopting different strategies to establish relationships with them.

43. 易江说，前几天一个员工找他反应，他的领导总是喜欢PUA他们，弄得他们工作不能专心于本身，总是担心害怕着领导的PUA。

43. Yi Jiang said that a few days ago, an employee came to him to complain that their leader always likes to use PUA techniques on them, which makes it impossible for them to focus on their work and they are always worried and scared about the leader's PUA.

44. 那就只能是心里抱怨，甚至决定以后绝对不跟这位同事再有工作上的合作关系。

44. That could only be a grumble in one's heart, even deciding never to have any further professional cooperation with this colleague in the future.

45. 如果我们真的想知道我们的心情，我们应该先看看我们的行动。陀吴威尔逊

45. If we really want to know our mood, we should first look at our actions. - Tao Wu Wilson

46. 辛苦一天，可以睡个好觉；如果你一生都在努力，你可以睡得很开心。Da 雀类

46. After a hard day's work, you can sleep well; if you have been striving all your life, you can sleep happily. Da, birds.

47. 其实这种在职场上能力不行，还爱加班的行为，是特别让同事忌讳的事。跟着你加班，实在是不情愿，不跟着加班，被领导发现了同事加班，你不加班，感觉影响不好。

47. Actually, the behavior of being incompetent at work and loving to work overtime is particularly something that colleagues are wary of. It's really not their desire to work overtime with you, and if they don't, and the leader finds out that their colleagues are working overtime while they are not, they feel it affects the team negatively.

48. 智慧、勤奋和天才高于权贵和财富。贝多芬

48. Wisdom, diligence, and genius are higher than nobility and wealth. Beethoven

49. 杰出的人的一大优点是他们在不利和困难的遭遇中坚持不懈。贝多芬

49. One of the great virtues of outstanding individuals is their perseverance in the face of adversity and difficulties. Beethoven

50. 在这个世界上有所成就的人，都在努力寻找自己想要的机会。如果找不到，他们会自己创造。萧伯纳的

50. Those who have achieved something in this world are all striving to find the opportunities they desire. If they can't find them, they will create them themselves. As George Bernard Shaw said...

51. 人生最大的幸福不在于你拥有什么，而在于你追求什么。班廷

51. The greatest happiness in life does not lie in what you possess, but in what you pursue. - Bunting

52. 这种冷酷表现出来的就是没有人情味。我们都知道中国就是个人情社会，如果你用国外的一套，认为职场不讲人情，估计你在中国的职场，很难让别人信服。

52. This coldness manifests itself as a lack of human warmth. We all know that China is a society that values interpersonal relationships. If you apply a foreign set of principles, believing that the workplace does not involve human warmth, it's estimated that you would have a hard time convincing others in China's workplace.

53. 异想天开，实事求是，是科学工作者的独特风格。让我们在无尽的宇宙中探索无限的真理！郭沫若

53. Daydreaming and being realistic are the unique styles of scientific workers. Let us explore the infinite truth in the boundless universe! Guo Moruo

54. 只要你不断努力，不懈奋斗，就没有什么是你征服不了的。美远志

54. As long as you keep striving and never give up, there is nothing you cannot conquer. As far as the willow is concerned.

55. 同样的事情发生在我的童年。虽然他是个男孩，成绩很好，但他不擅长说话。进入一家传统企业，他们部门的领导一般都在40岁左右，但是入职第一天他就瑟瑟发抖。因为部门领导会在会上直接骂人，名字很难听。入职第一天，三个女生被骂哭了，一个第二天离职。

55. The same thing happened during my childhood. Although he was a boy and did well in his studies, he was not good at speaking. When he joined a traditional company, the leaders of his department were generally around 40 years old, but on his first day, he trembled with fear. This was because the department leaders would directly swear and use offensive names during meetings. On the first day, three girls were sworn at and cried, and one of them resigned the next day.

56. 一天天，不怕千里；经常做，不怕千头万绪。金英

56. Day by day, not afraid of a thousand miles; with frequent practice, not afraid of a thousand tangled threads. Jin Ying.

57. 2辞职：虽然这个方法不可取，但还是一个方法。但是要提醒一点：除了离职，还要记得提升自己的意志力、职场能力、自信心。用实力说话，帮助自己走得更远。

57. 2 Resignation: Although this approach is not advisable, it is still a method. However, a reminder is needed: in addition to leaving, remember to enhance your willpower, professional skills, and self-confidence. Speak with your strengths and help yourself go further.

58. 而且PUA本身就不是一个正常的管理模式，没有人会喜欢一个PUA的领导。

58. Moreover, PUA is not a normal management model at all, and no one would like to have a PUA leader.

59. 我为真理而生，为真理而死。除了真相，我没有自己的东西。王若飞

59. I am born for the truth and die for the truth. Other than the truth, I have nothing of my own. Wang Roufei

60. 总有人不管什么时候，都非常冷静，甚至冷酷无情。

60. There is always someone who remains incredibly calm, even ruthless, at any time.

61. 当然，我朋友的方法不一定适用于所有职场PUA。

61. Of course, my friend's method may not be suitable for all workplace PUA.

62. 最容易犯错误的人是那些只按自己想法行事的人。编织网

62. The most prone to make mistakes are those who only act according to their own ideas. Weaving a net.

63. 不管是什么层级的领导，其实只要是PUA下属的，就不可能得到下属们的喜欢。

63. Regardless of the level of leadership, in fact, if someone is under the supervision of a PUA (Pick-Up Artist), it is impossible for them to gain the favor of their subordinates.

64. 在职场中，我们总会遇到各种棘手的问题，但有一种“慢性毒药”，不及时制止很容易被困住，就是职场pua。很多职场新人在面对的时候，刚开始会觉得别扭，但是说不出来。领导批评他们能力不足不是很正常吗？然而，如果你经常处于非常沮丧的状态，那么你应该警惕你的老板是否正在为你实施工作场所pua。这种带有强烈情感色彩的词汇会让很多职场人走入误区，让自己越来越自卑，逐渐削弱个人意志。

64. In the workplace, we will always encounter various difficult problems, but there is a "chronic poison" that is easy to get trapped in if not stopped in time, and that is workplace PUA (Pick-up Artist). Many newbies in the workplace may feel uncomfortable at first when faced with it but find it hard to put into words. Isn't it normal for leaders to criticize their subordinates for being incompetent? However, if you often find yourself in a very depressed state, you should be vigilant about whether your boss is implementing workplace PUA on you. Such emotionally charged terms can lead many people in the workplace to fall into误区, making themselves increasingly self-deprecating and gradually weakening their personal willpower.

65. 希望是厄运的忠实姐妹。普希金

65. Hope is the faithful sister of misfortune. - Pushkin

66. 我只后悔一件事。日子太短，过得太快。一个人永远看不到他完成了什么，只能看到他应该做什么。居里夫人

66. I only regret one thing. Life is too short and goes by too quickly. A person can never see what they have accomplished, but only what they should do. Madame Curie.

67. 后来经过一番开导，她开始准备面试。虽然过程不是很顺利，但自从她加入新公司后，状态好多了。甚至有一次她说：“我以为所有公司都是那样的。我出来才知道原来自己的想法那么蠢。”

67. After some persuasion, she started preparing for the interview. Although the process was not smooth, she has been in much better shape since joining the new company. In fact, she once said, "I thought all companies were like that. I only realized how naive my own thoughts were after stepping out."

68. 勇士有自己的野心:永远转型，从零开始；一切可耻的衰退只能让人视其为敌人，一脚踩进沙子里。郭小川

68. The勇士has their own ambition: to transform forever, to start from scratch; any despicable decline can only make one regard it as an enemy, stepping into the sand with a foot. Guo Xiaochuan