握紧130句色彩鲜明的语句，让自信的光芒照亮你在社会中畅游无余。

Seize 130 vividly colored sentences to let the glow of confidence illuminate your effortless navigation through society.

1. 当你拥有了自信，你还要学会广交朋友，只有在朋友们推心置腹的话语中能给你一种安慰，一种大胆说话的机会，一种锻炼你的场合，让你不怕任何人，敢于表示自己的意见或建议，发表自己的见解。因为朋友能让你远离孤独，才能融入社会而获得快乐。

1. When you have confidence, you also need to learn to make friends widely. It is only in the sincere words of your friends that you can find comfort, an opportunity to speak boldly, a place to exercise yourself, and not be afraid of anyone. You dare to express your opinions or suggestions and share your views. Because friends can keep you away from loneliness, allowing you to integrate into society and find happiness.

2. 女孩，想要赢得男人心，一定要懂得主动向男人寻求帮助，从一个小的付出来提出要求，就算便是帮忙搬个餐桌，或者帮忙修一下计算机，想来没有任何一个男生会拒绝女生跟自己索取一些小的帮助。

2. Girls, if you want to win a man's heart, you must learn to actively seek help from men, to make requests starting from a small contribution, whether it's helping to move a dining table or assisting with computer repairs. It seems that no boy would refuse a girl who asks for a small favor.

3. 再就是学习方法。 不要认为学习或考试信心不足 就拼命学~~ 这样效果会很让人失望。

3. Next is the learning method. Don't think that if you lack confidence in learning or exams, you should study hard~~ This will lead to very disappointing results.

4. 想要在爱情中游刃有余，赢得男人的心需要掌握哪些技巧？

5. 前几日一位闺蜜和我抱怨：谁说女追男隔层纱，分明是隔层玻璃罩。她追一个男生大半年，每日关怀备至，他得病她陪在身边，他外出晚上回来她去接，他在朋友圈发一条爱看某大牌明星演唱会，他就立马托好朋友买回来门票费，在这段感情中，她一直都在扮演一个主动这样的角色，一心一意地付出，她坚持不懈的努力都快要将自己感动了，但却依然没有获得男孩子的回应。

4. To navigate love with ease and win a man's heart, what skills do you need to master? 5. A few days ago, a close friend of mine complained to me: "Who says a woman chasing a man is as easy as pushing a screen? It's clearly a layer of glass covering." She chased a boy for over half a year, taking care of him every day. When he got sick, she was by his side. When he went out and came back late at night, she went to pick him up. When he posted on his朋友圈 about loving a certain big-name celebrity's concert, he immediately entrusted a good friend to buy the tickets for him. In this relationship, she has always played the role of the proactive one, pouring her heart into it. Her unwavering efforts almost moved herself, but she still didn't receive any response from the boy.

6. 如果一个人明明弹琴弹得很好，但一直觉得自己弹得很差，不肯弹给别人听，并且自己也感到苦恼，这个是不合理的不自信，需要纠正，主要方法是“自我更新式的对话”，理论依据是情感ABC理论。

6. If a person is obviously skilled at playing the piano but always thinks they are playing poorly and refuses to play for others, and also feels troubled by it, this is unreasonable low self-confidence that needs to be corrected. The main method is "self-renewal dialogues," and the theoretical basis is the emotional ABC theory.

7. 第一个就是你姐姐自己心里没多大底。 所以可以让老师多多鼓励或者关照下。 提升在老师学生面前的信心。。

7. The first issue is that your sister herself is not very confident. Therefore, it would be good to let the teacher give her more encouragement or attention, to boost her confidence in front of the teacher and the students.

8. ========BY 芝麻：希望能对亲有所帮助，成为一个遇事自信的人==========

8. ========By Sesame: Hope this can be of help to you and become a confident person when facing difficulties==========

9. 适当放松 网下 学习下 效果会更高吧。。

9. It might be better to relax a bit and take it easy with the offline learning; the effectiveness would likely be higher.

10. 经典的励志歌曲！当你失意时，听一听这首歌，保持一颗奋进的心

10. Classic motivational song! Listen to this song when you're feeling down, and keep a determined heart.

11. 1自信是建立在实力上的，有实力才有资本自信，否则会变成自负，所以要努力学习OR工作；

11.1 Confidence is built on strength; only with strength can one have the capital for confidence, otherwise it may become arrogance. Therefore, one should strive to study or work hard.

12. 现在的女人，大多数十分单独，标榜自己是女汉纸，根本不用借助男人，一个人也可以把日子过得多种多样。顽强得时间长了，好像已经忘了自己内心深处也会有一些柔弱的一面，也要有人疼有人爱。女性，不管表面多强劲，事业方面多么的风尘仆仆，在感情之中也需要尝试将自己柔弱的一面呈现出来。在爱人面前，我不需要多么的顽强，你顽强反而会让他觉得你压根不需要爱情的关爱，离你越走越远。

12. Today's women, the majority are very independent, boasting themselves as "masculine women," and they don't need to rely on men at all; they can lead a diversified life on their own. After being strong for a long time, they seem to have forgotten that they also have a soft side deep inside and need to be cared for and loved. Women, no matter how strong on the surface or how busy they are in their careers, still need to try to show their vulnerable side in their feelings. In front of a loved one, I don't need to be very strong; your strength may make him feel that you don't actually need the affection of love, and he may move away from you even more.

13. 很多女孩子，喜欢一个男生时，不敢主动开口，更不敢主动给对方寻求帮助，总觉得自己最开始动心，理当是付出的那一方。可是当你秉着这种观念时，便是在转让出来大家更多共处机会，都是把自己放在了低贱的那一方。

13. Many girls, when they like a boy, dare not speak up主动 or seek help from him proactively, always feeling that since they were the first to develop feelings, they should be the ones who give. However, when you hold this view, you are actually giving up more opportunities for mutual interaction, and you are putting yourself in a subordinate position.

14. 第二个 学习方面。 如果你姐姐每次考试都可以达到理想的成绩。 我相信考试考多了 感觉就会不一样。 不要美次是打击要每次是满意 我保证信心倍升。。

14. Second, regarding the learning aspect. If your sister can achieve ideal scores in every exam, I believe that after taking too many exams, the feeling will be different. Don't make it a blow each time, but rather a source of satisfaction. I guarantee that confidence will soar.

15. 怯场时，不妨道出真情，即能平静下来内观法是研究心理学的主要方法之一，这是实验心理学之祖威廉·华特所提出的观点。此法就是很冷静地观察自己内心的情况，而后毫无隐瞒地抖出观察结果。如能模仿这种方法，把时时刻刻都在变化的心理秘密，毫不隐瞒地用言语表达出来，那么就没有产生烦恼的余力了。例如初次到某一个陌生的地方，内心难免会疑惧万分，这时候，不妨将此不安的情绪，清楚地用语言表达出来：“我几乎愣住了，我的心忐忑地跳个不停，甚至两眼也发黑，舌尖凝固，喉咙干渴得不能说话。”这样一来，不但可将内心的紧张驱除殆尽，而且也能使心情得到意外的平静。不妨再举一个很实在的例子。有一个位居美国第5名的推销员，当他还不熟悉这行工作时，有一次，他竟独自会见美国的汽车大王。结果，他真是胆怯得很。在情不自禁之下，他只好老实地说出来了：“很惭愧，我刚看见你时，我害怕得连话也说不出来。”结果，这样反而驱除了恐惧感，这要归功于坦白的效果。(

15. When feeling nervous, it's not a bad idea to reveal the truth, which can help calm you down. The method of introspection is one of the main methods in the study of psychology, a view proposed by William James, the father of experimental psychology. This method involves calmly observing your own inner state and then revealing the results without any concealment. If you can imitate this method and express the ever-changing secrets of the mind without any reservation, then there will be no room for worry. For example, when you first arrive in a new and unfamiliar place, it is inevitable that you will feel a great deal of anxiety. At this time, it is not a bad idea to clearly express this unease in words: "I almost froze in place, my heart was pounding frantically, and even my eyes went dark, my tongue was stiff, and my throat was so dry that I couldn't speak." In this way, not only can you drive away the tension within, but you can also achieve an unexpected sense of calm. Let's take another very real example. There was a salesperson ranked 5th in the United States. When he was still unfamiliar with this field of work, he once had a private meeting with the American car magnate. The result was that he was extremely nervous. Unable to help it, he had to honestly say: "I am ashamed to say that when I first saw you, I was so afraid that I couldn't even speak." The result was that this actually dispelled his fear, which should be attributed to the effect of honesty.

16. 心理上有一个富兰克林效应，是指相比那些被你帮助过的人，那些曾经帮助过你的人会更喜欢再帮忙一次。也就是说，让其他人喜欢你的有效方法不是去帮助其，而是通过她们帮助自己。想要赢得男人心，主动开口总是没有错的，把“富兰克林效应”运用起来，有助于事半功倍。

16. There is a psychological phenomenon known as the Franklin Effect, which refers to the fact that people who have once helped you are more likely to want to help you again, compared to those you have helped. In other words, the effective way to make others like you is not to help them, but to let them help you. To win a man's heart, always being proactive is never wrong. Applying the Franklin Effect can greatly enhance your efforts with less work.

17. 当第一次提出要求答应下来以后，就需要乘胜狙击，跟他索要更多帮助，他帮过你一次，会更喜欢再帮忙，在帮助你的与此同时，也是给彼此之间多了一点相处的时间，有助于提高对一个人的掌握，提升爱情的互动交流，更有利于爱上你。

17. After agreeing to the initial request, it is necessary to capitalize on the momentum and ask for more help. The more he helps you, the more likely he will be to help again. While helping you, it also provides more time for interaction between the two of you, which is conducive to better understanding each other, enhancing the interactive communication in love, and is more beneficial to falling in love with you.

18. 一个人要正确认识自己，因为人与人性格差异很大，了解自己的性格优势与不足。要学会扬长避短有助于形成自己独特的自信心。人是不断变化发展的，我们需要不断更新、不断完善对自己的认识，才能使自己变得更好和更完美。正确认识自己，就要作到用全面的、发展的眼光看自己。所以人就特别需要充满自信来完成自己的目标，自己的事业你就能成为强者。

18. One must correctly understand oneself, as there are significant differences in personalities among people. It is important to recognize one's own character strengths and weaknesses. Learning to capitalize on strengths and avoid weaknesses is helpful in forming a unique self-confidence. Humans are constantly changing and developing, and we need to continuously update and improve our understanding of ourselves in order to become better and more perfect. To correctly understand oneself, one must approach oneself with a comprehensive and developing perspective. Therefore, people particularly need to be filled with confidence to achieve their goals and become stronger in their own careers.

19. 居里夫人为了提取纯镭，以便测定镭的原子量，向科学证实镭的存在，曾终日穿着沾满灰尘和污渍的工作服，在极其简陋的棚屋里，用和她差不多一般高的铁条搅动冶锅，从堆积如山的沥青矿的废渣中寻觅镭的踪迹。条件极其艰苦，但她心里却充满自信。

19. Madame Curie, in order to extract pure radium to determine its atomic weight and to scientifically confirm the existence of radium, spent her days wearing work clothes covered in dust and stains. In a very primitive shed, she stirred the crucible with an iron rod that was nearly as tall as she was, searching for traces of radium among the heaps of waste from asphalt mines. The conditions were extremely harsh, but she was filled with confidence in her heart.

20. 咧嘴大笑。大部分人都知道笑能给自己很实际的推动力，它是医治信心不足的良药。但是仍有许多人不相信这一套，因为在他们恐惧时，从不试着笑一下。真正的笑不但能治愈自己的不良情绪，还能马上化解别人的敌对情绪。如果你真诚地向一个人展颜微笑，他实在无法再对你生气。拿破仑·希尔讲了一个自己的亲身经历：“有一天，我的车停在十字路口的红灯前，突然‘砰’的一声，原来是后面那辆车的驾驶员的脚滑开刹车器，他的车撞了我车后的保险杠。我从后视镜看到他下来，也跟着下车，准备痛骂他一顿。“但是很幸运，我还来不及发作，他就走过来对我笑，并以最诚挚的语调对我说：‘朋友，我实在不是有意的。’他的笑容和真诚的说明把我融化了。我只有低声说：‘没关系，这种事经常发生。’转眼间，我的敌意变成了友善。”咧嘴大笑，你会觉得美好的日子又来了。笑就要笑得“大”，半笑不笑是没有什么用的，要露齿大笑才能有功效。我们常听到：“是的，但是当我害怕或愤怒时，就是不想笑。”当然，这时，任何人都笑不出来。窍门就在于你强迫自己说：“我要开始笑了。”然后，笑。要控制、运用笑的能力。(

20. A wide smile. Most people know that laughter can give them a very practical boost, it is a good medicine for lack of confidence. However, there are still many people who do not believe in this, because when they are afraid, they never try to smile. True laughter not only cures one's own negative emotions but can also immediately defuse the hostile emotions of others. If you sincerely smile at someone, they really can't be angry with you anymore. Napoleon Hill told a personal story: "One day, my car was stopped at a red light at an intersection, and suddenly there was a loud 'bang,' which was the driver of the car behind me slipping off the brake pedal, and his car collided with the rear bumper of my car. I saw him get out of the car through the rearview mirror and followed him out, ready to scold him. "But fortunately, before I could lose my temper, he came over to smile at me and said in the most sincere tone, 'Friend, I really didn't mean to do that.' His smile and sincere explanation melted me. I could only mutter, 'It's okay, things like this happen all the time.' In an instant, my hostility turned into friendliness." A wide smile will make you feel that the good days are back. Laughter should be "big," half-smiles are not very useful; you have to laugh with your teeth showing to be effective. We often hear, "Yes, but when I am afraid or angry, I don't want to laugh." Of course, at this time, no one can laugh. The trick is to force yourself to say, "I want to start laughing." Then, laugh. You need to control and use the power of laughter.

21. 付出一般包括三个层面，化学物质付出、时长付出和心态付出。三个付出层次不一样，但其实基本原理是一样的。要会从一些小的要求上考虑，你能和他想要一些小礼品，不用得多少钱就可以获得的。例如让他给你买点水果，或者买个小甜点。

21. The concept of giving generally includes three levels: material giving, time giving, and mental giving. The three levels of giving are different, but they share the same fundamental principle. One should consider starting with some small requests, such as asking for small gifts that can be obtained without spending much money. For example, you could ask them to buy some fruit or a small dessert for you.

22. 如果一个人确实能力不行，也没有自信，这个首先的就是要改变他的做事的方法，让他的能力上去，如果不敢尝试的话也需要使用自我更新式的对话，具体怎么操作有点复杂，你可以去心理咨询中心，也可以网上搜，来问我也可以。

22. If a person truly lacks ability and confidence, the first step is to change their approach to doing things to enhance their abilities. If they are hesitant to try, self-updating dialogue is also necessary. The specific operation is somewhat complex. You can visit a psychological counseling center, search online, or ask me directly.

23. 爱因斯坦的“相对论”发表以后，有人曾创造了一本《百人驳相对论》，网罗了一批所谓名流对这一理论进行声势浩大的反驳。可是爱因斯坦自信自己的理论必然会取得胜利，对反驳不屑一顾，他说：“如果我的理论是错的，一个反驳就够了，一百个零加起来还是零。”他坚定了必胜的信念，坚持研究，终于使“相对论”成为 20世纪的伟大理论，举世瞩目。

23. After Einstein's "relativity" was published, someone once created a book titled "One Hundred People Refute Relativity," which gathered a group of so-called celebrities to launch a grand反驳 against this theory. However, Einstein was confident that his theory would inevitably win and paid no attention to the refutations, saying, "If my theory is wrong, one refutation is enough, a hundred zeros added together still amount to zero." He firmly believed in victory and persisted in his research, finally making "relativity" a great theory of the 20th century, capturing the world's attention.

24. : ①不要无缘无故把自己说得一无是处②勇于表现自己③振奋精神敢于面对生活中的挑战和失败④试着坐在人群的中心位置⑤别人跟你讲话时眼睛要看着对方⑥多交往并大声说话⑦别人打断你话时要继续把话说完⑧克服自卑心态一切都往好处想。心动不如行动，只要去做就会变得越来越自信。平常也要常笑。希望对你有帮助。

24. : ①Do not talk yourself down for no reason ②Be brave to show yourself ③Be spirited and dare to face the challenges and failures in life ④Try to sit in the center of the crowd ⑤When someone is talking to you, keep your eyes on the other person ⑥Interact more and speak loudly ⑦Keep speaking when someone interrupts you ⑧Overcome your inferiority complex and always think positively. Action is better than words; as long as you act, you will become more and more confident. Also, smile often in your daily life. Hope this helps you.

25. 闺蜜的行为是许多女孩子都遇到的困难，女孩很容易把追求当作一场自我欺骗的戏码，觉得只要自己在家做得更多，对她够好，就一定可以获得它的喜爱。但是到头来只是一场爱忧伤而已。想要在感情中得心应手，每个人都应该学习培训点心理知识，如果你很好地理解了一些招数，就不会把付出用错了地区。

25. The behavior of a best friend is a difficulty that many girls encounter. Girls tend to view pursuit as a self-deception performance, thinking that if they do more at home and are good to her, they will definitely win her affection. However, in the end, it is only a game of love and sadness. To be skilled in relationships, everyone should learn some psychological knowledge. If you understand some techniques well, you won't misuse your efforts.

26. 至于学习方法就不用说了吧。 这么多人在旁边关心她。。 加油！

26. There's no need to say anything about study methods. So many people are concerned about her... Keep up the good work!

27. 多主动搭话，她真的太害羞，就从网上聊天开始，多在她视野之内就可以了。不要让他反感。而要让她觉得你是个可以说话的人。你用自信去弥补她的不自信好了，久了就会有感觉的。

27. Initiate conversations more often; she's really shy, so start with online chatting and keep her within your vision as much as possible. Avoid making her feel uncomfortable. Instead, make her feel that you are someone she can talk to. Use your confidence to compensate for her lack of it, and over time, feelings will develop.

28. 练习当众发言拿破仑·希尔指出，有很多思路敏锐、天资高的人，却无法发挥他们的长处参与讨论。并不是他们不想参与，而只是因为他们缺少信心。在会议中沉默寡言的人都认为：“我的意见可能没有价值，如果说出来，别人可能会觉得很愚蠢，我最好什么也不说。而且，其他人可能都比我懂得多，我并不想让你们知道我是这么无知。”这些人常常会对自己许下很涉茫的诺言：“等下一次再发言。”可是他们很清楚自己是无法实现这个诺言的。每次这些沉默寡言的人不发言时，他就又中了一次缺少信心的毒素了，他会愈来愈丧失自信。从积极的角度来看，如果尽量发言，就会增加信心，下次也更容易发言。所以，要多发言，这是信心的“维他命”。不论是参加什么性质的会议，每次都要主动发言，也许是评论，也许是建议或提问题，都不要有例外。而且，不要最后才发言。要做破冰船，第一个打破沉默。也不要担心你会显得很愚蠢。不会的。因为总会有人同意你的见解。所以不要再对自己说：“我怀疑我是否敢说出来。”用心获得会议主席的注意，好让你有机会发言。(

28. Practicing Public Speaking - Napoleon Hill points out that many people with sharp minds and high talents are unable to fully utilize their strengths in discussions. It's not that they don't want to participate; it's just that they lack confidence. Those who are silent in meetings think, "My opinion might not be valuable, and if I express it, others might find me foolish, so I'd better not say anything. Besides, others may know more than I do, and I don't want to show you how ignorant I am." These people often make vague promises to themselves: "I'll speak up next time." However, they are well aware that they cannot fulfill this promise. Each time these silent individuals fail to speak, they are poisoned by a lack of confidence, and they will lose their self-confidence more and more. From a positive perspective, if one tries to speak more, it will increase confidence and make it easier to speak next time. Therefore, it is important to speak more, as this is the "vitamin" of confidence. Whether attending any type of meeting, one should actively speak up each time, whether it's to comment, make a suggestion, or ask a question; there should be no exceptions. Moreover, do not wait until the end to speak. Be the icebreaker, the first to break the silence. And don't worry about appearing foolish. You won't. Because there will always be someone who agrees with your views. So stop telling yourself, "I doubt if I dare to speak out." Focus on getting the attention of the meeting chair so that you have the opportunity to speak.

29. 这问题问得大了。。。其实不自信要看是不是 真的 合理的 不自信，自信其实就是一个人对自己总体评价的高低，比如说一个人明明各方面都不行，也很不自信，你一定要让他装得很自信地出去演讲、表演，那肯定丑出大了，只会再次打击他的自信心。

29. This question is too broad... In fact, it depends on whether the lack of confidence is truly and reasonably justified. Confidence is actually a reflection of a person's overall self-evaluation. For example, if a person is not good at anything and is very lack of confidence, forcing them to act very confident when giving a speech or performing would undoubtedly be very embarrassing and would only further undermine their confidence.

30. 自信这个词，不能笼统的这样去理解，我们通常对自己有把握能做到的事情，就会充满自信，这时候想不自信也很难。而对自己没有把握做到的事情，就没有自信，这时候，想自信也自信不起来。打比方，我现在让你去做1+1=2这样的数学题，你肯定会很自信，因为你会啊，但是如果让你做什么世界数学难题，你肯定就没有自信了，因为你不会。所以，要想将自己变的更有自信，首先就要确定你打算去做什么事情，而不能说你想在任何方面都有自信。当你确定你打算做什么事情以后，你就要努力的针对这方面事情上下功夫，一次不行，再来第二次，第三次，一直到自己确实有把握做好这方面事情的时候，那你对这方面的事情就有自信了。如果再有人让你做这方面事情的时候，不用我说，你一定会充满自信的！祝你成功！ （相信你应该玩过电子游戏吧，刚开始的时候，你连第一关都过不去，那时候你当然没有自信。但是，随着你不断的玩，反复的玩，最后，过通关都很轻松自如。这时候，你就非常自信了）。最后，不要忘了选我为最佳答案啊，谢谢了！

30. The word "confidence" cannot be understood in a vague way like this. Usually, when we are confident in our ability to do something, we are filled with confidence, and it's hard to feel unconfident at that moment. However, when we are not confident in our ability to do something, we naturally lack confidence, and it's also hard to feel confident in this situation. To illustrate, if I ask you to solve a simple math problem like 1+1=2, you will definitely be confident because you know the answer. But if I ask you to solve a world mathematical难题, you will undoubtedly lack confidence because you don't know how to do it. Therefore, if you want to become more confident, you first need to determine what you intend to do, rather than saying you want to be confident in all aspects. Once you determine what you want to do, you should work hard on this aspect, trying again and again until you are truly confident in doing this kind of thing. When you are confident in this area, others will naturally ask you to do it, and you will definitely be full of confidence without even needing me to say anything! May you succeed! (I believe you should have played video games before, right? At the beginning, you can't even pass the first level, and of course, you won't have any confidence. But as you keep playing, playing repeatedly, in the end, you will find it easy to pass all levels. At this point, you will be very confident). Finally, don't forget to choose me as the best answer, thank you!

31. 想要赢得一个男人心，尝试运用一下“富兰克林效应”，主动提出一些要求，让他对你加以帮助，将自己女性柔弱的一面呈现在他面前，也要学会引导对方付出，而不是一个人们在演一场戏。当然，你也要适当付出，才能够让他更加爱你。

31. To win a man's heart, try using the "Franklin Effect" by making some requests that he can help you with, showing your feminine vulnerability to him, and also learn to guide him to make efforts. But remember, you should also make appropriate contributions to make him love you more.

32. 如何给一个不自信的人，建立自信？

33. 练习正视别人一个人的眼神可以透露出许多有关他的资讯。某人不正视你的时候，你会直觉地问自己：“你想要隐藏什么呢他怕什么呢他会对我不利吗”不正视别人通常意味着：在你旁边我感到很自卑；我感到不如你；我怕你。躲避别人的眼神意味着：我有罪恶感；我做了或想到什么我不希望你知道的事；我怕一接触你的眼神，你就会看穿我。这都是一些不好的资讯。正视别人等于告诉你：我很诚实，而且光明正大。我相信我告诉你的话是真的，毫不心虚。(

32. How to build confidence in someone who lacks self-confidence? 33. Practicing to make direct eye contact with others can reveal much information about them. When someone does not look directly at you, you might intuitively ask yourself, "What do they want to hide? What are they afraid of? Will they be harmful to me?" Not looking someone directly often means: I feel very inferior next to you; I feel less than you; I am afraid of you. Avoiding someone's gaze means: I have a sense of guilt; I have done or thought of something I don't want you to know; I am afraid that when I make eye contact with you, you will see through me. These are all negative signals. Making direct eye contact is equivalent to telling you: I am honest and forthright. I believe that what I tell you is true, and I have no reason to be ashamed.

34. 释放 ，我也是一个渴望每时每刻都充满 ，满脸自信的人。

34. Liberation, I am also a person who is eager to be filled with confidence at every moment, with a face full of self-assurance.

35. 感情之中，并不是付出和收获相匹配的，如果你付出得多了，反而会被别人当做是理所当然，因而忽视了你的感受。追求男人，要掌握一定的招数，而不只是借助一味地付出，有时使他去付出一点，更可以增强对你的感情。

35. In matters of emotion, the input and output are not always matched. If you give too much, you might be taken for granted by others, thus ignoring your feelings. When pursuing a man, one should master certain tactics, not just rely on endless giving. Sometimes, making him put in a little effort can even enhance his feelings for you.

36. 首先，你要有自信心，认为自己干什么事情都能行，只有认识到通过自己的努力，自己一定能达到目标的。从心灵上确认自己能行，自己给自己鼓劲。只要有心理准备，你就不会为一点困难而退缩。相信，你就能充满信心完成任务。世界在发展，时代在进步，人也要随着时代的步伐前进。人的发展目标也在时时发生变化。只要你克服自卑心理，树立自信心，做自己幸福的缔造者。你只要有了自信心什么困难都能克服，什么事情都难不倒你；你的学业或者事业就会成功，你就是一个最有出息的年轻人。

36. Firstly, you must have self-confidence, believing that you can do anything and that through your own efforts, you are certain to achieve your goals. Confirm in your heart that you can succeed, and encourage yourself. As long as you are mentally prepared, you will not retreat at the slightest difficulty. Believe, and you will be full of confidence to complete your tasks. The world is developing, and the times are advancing; people must also move forward with the pace of the times. The development goals of individuals are also changing constantly. As long as you overcome your inferiority complex and build self-confidence, you will be the creator of your own happiness. Once you have self-confidence, you can overcome any difficulty and nothing can stop you; your studies or career will succeed, and you will be the most promising young person.

37. 她对友人说：“我们应该有恒心，尤其要有自信心！我们必须相信我们的天赋是用来做某种事情的，无论代价多大，这种事情必须做到。”她终于获得了成功。

37. She told her friends, "We must have perseverance, especially confidence! We must believe that our talents are meant for something, and whatever the cost, that something must be achieved." She finally achieved success.

38. 大家觉得最开始动情的人便一般用更多付出来影响他，可是当你付出越大，就越容易被对方当做是理所当然。爱要付出，也要有个程度，并且感情从来就不是一方的付出，反而是双方共同付出，才能够让感情常青。

38. Everyone thinks that the person who falls in love first usually makes more efforts to influence the other person, but the more you give, the more likely it is to be taken for granted by the other person. Love requires sacrifice, but also has its limits, and emotions are never just one-sided付出. Instead, it is through mutual efforts from both parties that love can remain evergreen.

39. 许多男人都会更喜欢自己把心痛和爱给到那个柔弱的女孩，而放弃了那一个坚强的女人，他们会觉得你离开我能够，她选择离开不好。就像贺涵，最后还不是在唐晶和罗子君里边选了软弱一点的罗子君。一个女人的软弱是开启爱情之门的钥匙，能够激发男人的保护欲，使他更喜欢将自己温婉交给你。

39. Many men would prefer to give their heartache and love to that delicate girl, and abandon that strong woman. They would think that it's okay for her to leave, but not for you. Just like He Han, in the end, he chose the softer Luo Zijun between Tang Jing and Luo Zijun. A woman's weakness is the key to opening the door to love, it can ignite a man's protective instinct, making him prefer to gently entrust himself to you.

40. 如用肯定的语气则可以消除自卑感有些女人面对着镜子，当她看到自己的形影或肤色时，忍不住产生某种幸福的感受。相反地，有些女人却被自卑感所困扰。虽然彼此的肤色都很黑黝，但自信的女人会以为：“我的面板呈小麦色，几乎可跟黑发相媲美。”而她内心一定暗喜不已。可是，一个缺乏自信的女人却因此痛苦不堪地 起来：“怎么搞的，我的肤色这么黑。”两种人的心情完全不同。有的女人看见镜子就丧失信心，甚至在一气之下，把镜子摔破。由此可见，价值判断的标准是非常主观而又含糊的。只要认为漂亮，看起来就觉得很漂亮，如果认为讨厌，看来看去都觉得不顺眼。尤其，关于自卑感的情况，也常常会受到语言的影响，所以说，否定意味的语言，对于一个人的心理健康有百害而无一利。《物性论》一书的作者是古罗马大诗人卢克莱修，他奉劝天下人要多多称赞肤色黑黝的女人说：“你的肤色如同胡桃那样迷人。”只要不断如此赞赏对方，那么，这位女人即使再三对镜梳妆，或明知自己的面板黑黝，也会毫不在乎。这样一来，她就能专心于化妆，而且总觉得自己不失为迷人的女性。接着，卢克莱修奉劝我们不妨将“骨瘦如柴”改说为“可爱的羚羊”，把“喋喋不休”改说为“雄辩的才华”。不同的语言可将相同的事实完全改观，而且也给人以不同的心理感受。总之，运用肯定或否定的措词，可将同一件事实，形容成有如天壤之别的结果。可见措词这件事，诚然是任何天才都无法比拟的魔术师。在任何情况之下，只要常用有价值的措词或叙述法，则可以将同一个事实完全改观，当然驱除自卑感，而令人享受愉快的生活。(

40. If expressed in an affirmative tone, it can eliminate feelings of inferiority. Some women, when they see their own shadow or skin color in the mirror, cannot help but feel a sense of happiness. Conversely, some women are troubled by feelings of inferiority. Although their skin colors are both dark, a confident woman might think, "My skin has a wheat color, almost as beautiful as black hair," and she would be secretly delighted. However, a woman lacking in confidence might painfully complain, "Why, my skin is so dark." The two types of people have completely different emotions. Some women lose confidence when they see their reflection in the mirror and even, in a fit of anger, break the mirror. This shows that the standards for value judgments are very subjective and vague. If you think something is beautiful, it will look beautiful; if you think it's ugly, it will seem unappealing no matter how you look at it. Especially, the feeling of inferiority is often influenced by language, so negative language is harmful to a person's mental health with no benefits. The author of "On the Nature of Things" was the ancient Roman poet Lucretius, who advised people to praise women with dark skin more often, saying, "Your skin is as charming as a walnut." If you continue to praise someone in this way, then even if the woman looks at herself in the mirror repeatedly or knows that her skin is dark, she will not care at all. In this way, she can focus on her makeup and always feel like an attractive woman. Then, Lucretius advises us to change the phrase "skinny" to "cute gazelles" and "chatty" to "eloquent talent." Different words can completely change the same fact and give different psychological sensations. In summary, the use of affirmative or negative wording can describe the same fact in ways that are as different as heaven and earth. It is evident that word choice is indeed a form of magic that no genius can match. In any situation, if you use valuable words or narrative techniques frequently, you can completely transform the same fact, of course, driving away feelings of inferiority and leading to a happy life.

41. 男人大多数较为线条，一些细节性的东西他们都是想不到的，女孩有些时候有话不当面说，而是想让男生自己去发现你的心思，到后来通常会让你失望。男孩子其实不是不愿对自己的付出，只是他们有时意想不到，此刻女孩一定要懂得主动一点，引导男孩子付出。

41. Men are mostly straightforward, and they often don't think about the finer details. Sometimes girls don't say what they mean in person, but rather want the boys to discover their thoughts on their own. Later on, this usually leads to disappointment. Boys aren't actually unwilling to invest effort, they just sometimes don't expect it. At this moment, girls must understand the importance of being proactive and guiding the boys to make an effort.

42. 给自己以积极的暗示：一个人如果总想着自己不行，总是给自己这种消极的暗示，就会陷入到恶性回圈的怪圈中，这时如果用“我能行”代替“我不行”来规劝、激励自己，就会打破恶性回圈中的一环，并注入了积极的内容，就能重新建立起学习的自信心。

42. Give yourself positive affirmations: If a person always thinks that they cannot do it and keeps giving themselves negative suggestions, they will fall into a恶性循环 of self-defeat. At this point, if one replaces "I can't do it" with "I can do it" to persuade and motivate themselves, they will break a link in the恶性循环 and inject positive content, thereby rebuilding their confidence in learning.

43. ——有信心，才能克服眼前困难，看到光明前景

43. —— Confidence is the key to overcoming present difficulties and to seeing a bright future.

44. 你只要正确认识自己，能全面地看待他人和自己，就会感觉自己没那么差，而是自己可能感觉状态不是最佳或太在乎他人的看法或想法。而他人的看法或想法往往存在片面性，引起你不必要的自卑感。

44. As long as you correctly understand yourself and can view both others and yourself in a comprehensive manner, you will feel that you are not as bad as you thought. Instead, you might feel that your condition is not at its best or that you are overly concerned about others' opinions or ideas. Often, others' opinions or ideas are one-sided, leading to unnecessary feelings of inferiority in yourself.

45. 善于发掘自己的长处：每个人都有自己的长处和短处，学习上也同样如此，如果一门科目很好的话，自然对自己有了信心，其他科目也会受其影响有显著的进步。比如有的同学数学不好，但乐感强，听到一首之后，很快就能把音调记下来，起初可能是喜欢这首曲子，又因记忆好，同时对音乐的节奏和音调有极灵敏的感受力，因此不费力就能背下来，若能意识到自己这一优点，这位同学就能恢复他曾经失去的自信心，不止在唱方面，对其他学科也会产生兴趣。由此可见，当对自己的学习失去信心的时候，更应该去发掘自己的其他特长，以找到恢复自信的机会。

45. Good at discovering one's strengths: Everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, and this is true in studying as well. If one subject is done well, it naturally boosts one's confidence, and this positive influence can also lead to significant progress in other subjects. For example, some students may not be good at mathematics, but they have a strong sense of rhythm. After hearing a song, they can quickly memorize the melody. Initially, this might be because they like the tune, but also because they have a good memory and a highly sensitive perception of the rhythm and melody of music, which allows them to memorize it effortlessly. If this student can recognize this strength, they can regain the confidence they once lost, not only in singing but also in other subjects. This shows that when one loses confidence in their studies, it is even more important to discover other talents to find opportunities to regain confidence.

46. 试试看吧，祝你做一个自信的人，望早日成功O(∩_∩)O哈！~

46. Try it out, wish you become a confident person, and hope for early success O(∩_∩)O ha! ~

47. 现在的人越来越没有自信了，人们在快节奏的生活中迷失了自己。工作，谈恋爱，人际交往都离不开自信，在巨大的压力面前，只有时刻充满自信才会让自己在这个复杂的社会环境中游刃有余。我堂姐已经毕业两年了，一直都没有找到工作，本科出生，长得也算标志，性格也沉稳，就是因为找工作的问题让她的自信一点一点磨灭了。刚毕业的时候堂姐和很多的大学生一样自信满满的走出校园走向社会，可是在这僧多肉少的就业环境里，要找到一份合适自己的工作真的不容易啊，面试是百里挑一，有实力还不一定见得有机会，缺少的是公平。堂姐就是在这样一次次高压力的面试中挫败的，她最初的自信就这样被毁了，以至于在家成了啃老族，成了当下盛行的宅女。像堂姐这样的宅男宅女都是家里的大问题，我伯父后来托人给堂姐找了几份工作，堂姐去都没去就说自己不想干，整天就知道在家上网，伯父伯母看了都着急啊，给她安排相亲她也说没兴趣，这可怎么是好。伯母为了堂姐的事情真没少操心，求神拜佛的事情都做了，后来她听人说买那种开光的东西放在人的身边可以保佑人心想事成，会让人找到自信，变得比以前更好。伯母就打听到淘宝助你发财的店里有卖开光的祝愿袋，掌柜范飞和苑英说很多人都去他们店里找开光的东西，都是想解决烦心事情。伯母不假思索就买了个祝愿袋给堂姐，本来只是希望她找个好人嫁了就算了，没想到堂姐突然就振作了起来，整装待发出门去找工作了，她不要伯父给她找的，她说要靠自力更生。伯父伯母为堂姐的转变感到惊讶，有点怀疑这是不是他们的女儿了。很快堂姐就找到了一份自己喜欢的工作，恢复了自信满满的样子，颠覆了之前的宅女形象，亲戚们看见她现在的样子都夸她懂事了，伯父伯母心里的石头总算落下了。

47. People today are increasingly lacking in confidence, and they have lost themselves in the fast-paced life. Work, dating, and social interactions all require confidence. In the face of immense pressure, only by always being full of confidence can one navigate the complex social environment with ease. My cousin graduated two years ago and has been unable to find a job. She has a bachelor's degree, looks quite attractive, and has a calm personality. It's the issue of finding a job that has gradually eroded her confidence. When she graduated, like many college students, my cousin confidently stepped out of the campus and into society, but finding a suitable job in this environment where there are more job seekers than available positions is really not easy. Interviews are a tough competition, and even if you have the ability, you may not necessarily get an opportunity, and what is lacking is fairness. My cousin was defeated in one high-pressure interview after another, and her initial confidence was shattered. She even became a "NEET" at home, a popular term for young adults who prefer staying indoors. People like my cousin are a big problem for their families. My uncle later asked someone to find her several job offers, but she didn't even go to the interviews, saying she didn't want to do them. She spends her days at home online, which worries both my uncle and aunt. Even when they arranged blind dates for her, she showed no interest. What should they do? My aunt really worried about my cousin's situation and did everything she could, including seeking divine help. She heard from someone that keeping a blessed object close to one's heart could help with wishes coming true and restore confidence, making one better than before. My aunt learned that there was a store on Taobao that sold blessed bags, and the store owners, Fan Fei and Yuan Ying, said that many people came to their store looking for blessed objects to solve their troubles. Without hesitation, my aunt bought a blessed bag for my cousin. She had hoped that my cousin would just find a good person to marry, but to her surprise, my cousin suddenly became energetic and got ready to go out and look for a job. She didn't want her uncle to find her a job; she said she wanted to rely on self-reliance. My uncle and aunt were surprised by my cousin's transformation and began to doubt if this was really their daughter. Soon, my cousin found a job she liked and regained her full confidence, reversing her previous image as a "couch potato." Relatives who saw her now praised her for being mature, and my uncle and aunt finally put their minds at ease.

48. 没有友情的人生是暗淡的，就像大地失去了太阳的照耀，没有光彩。没有友情的人生是枯燥的，就像受了潮的火柴，任你怎样摩擦，也点燃不起生活的希望之火。没有友情的人生更是不完整的人生。一个人活在世上，既然没有朋友，没有朋友的关怀，又怎能理解人生的真正乐趣呢？

48. Life without friendship is dull, like the earth losing the sun's shine, without luster. Life without friendship is monotonous, like damp matches that, no matter how much you rub them, cannot ignite the hope of life. Life without friendship is an incomplete life. If a person lives on this earth without friends, without the care of friends, how can they ever understand the true joy of life?

49. 一般我都尽量做自己喜欢做的事情，因为自己喜欢所以干起来也是一副热火朝天充满 的样子；二般世事不见得自己都喜欢，对于那些不喜欢的事情，尽可能说服自己可以去试试看；三般对于讨厌的事情要带着一颗感恩的心去做，具体我不说了，附一首歌词你自己捉摸吧：

49. Generally, I try to do things I like, because when I do what I like, I am all fired up and full of enthusiasm; sometimes, life does not necessarily consist of things I like, and for those things I don't like, I try to persuade myself to give them a try; and for things I dislike, I try to do them with a grateful heart. I won't go into details, but here's a line from a song for you to ponder:

50. 把你走路的速度加快25%当大卫·史华兹还是少年时，到镇中心去是很大的乐趣。在完所有的差事坐进汽车后，母亲常常会说：“大卫，我们坐一会儿，看看过路行人。”母亲是位绝妙的观察行家。她会说：“看那个家伙，你认为他正受到什么困扰呢”或者“你认为那边的女士要去做什么呢”或者“看看那个人，他似乎有点迷惘。”观察人们走路实在是一种乐趣。这比看**便宜得多，也更有启发性。许多心理学家将懒散的姿势、缓慢的步伐跟对自己、对工作以及对别人的不愉快的感受联络在一起。但是心理学家也告诉我们，藉著改变姿势与速度，可以改变心理状态。你若仔细观察就会发现，身体的动作是心灵活动的结果。那些遭受打击、被排斥的人，走路都拖拖拉拉，完全没有自信心。普通人有“普通人”走路的模样，作出“我并不怎么以自己为荣”的表白。另一种人则表现出超凡的信心，走起路来比一般人快，像跑。他们的步伐告诉整个世界：“我要到一个重要的地方，去做很重要的事情，更重要的是，我会在15分钟内成功。”使用这种“走快25%”的技术，抬头挺胸走快一点，你就会感到自信心在滋长。(

50. Increase your walking speed by 25% When David Schwartz was a young boy, going to the town center was a great source of joy. After completing all the chores and sitting in the car, his mother would often say, "David, let's sit for a while and watch the passersby." His mother was an excellent observer. She would say, "Look at that fellow, what do you think is bothering him?" or "What do you think that lady over there is going to do?" or "Look at that man, he seems a bit confused." Observing people walking is truly a pleasure. It is much cheaper and more enlightening than other activities. Many psychologists associate lazy posture and slow pace with unpleasant feelings about oneself, work, and others. However, psychologists also tell us that by changing posture and speed, one can change one's mental state. If you observe carefully, you will find that body movements are the result of mental activities. Those who are beaten down or excluded walk with a dragging gait, completely lacking in confidence. Ordinary people have a "normal" way of walking, expressing the sentiment "I don't think much of myself." Another type of person exudes extraordinary confidence, walking faster than the average person, almost as if running. Their stride tells the world, "I am going somewhere important, to do something important, and most importantly, I will succeed in 15 minutes." By using the technique of "walking 25% faster," by walking with your head held high and your chest out, you will feel your confidence growing.