在浩瀚的人海中，每个人都是独特的个体。而我们的心态，正是塑造人生之路的指南针。今天，让我们携手探讨“心态与人生：塑造无敌人生”，开启一段精彩的旅程。

Amid the vast sea of humanity, each person is a unique individual. And it is our mindset that serves as the compass shaping our path in life. Today, let's join hands to explore "Mindset and Life: Crafting an Invincible Life," and embark on an exciting journey.

1. 朋友您好：我很同情你的不幸和遭遇，愿意承担你心灵的一切痛苦，同时把消除痛苦的妙法送给你。这是人生的无价之宝，可以改变你的命运，希望您能接受。

1. Dear friend: I deeply sympathize with your misfortune and tribulations. I am willing to bear all the pain in your heart, and at the same time, I would like to bestow upon you the exquisite methods to alleviate suffering. This is a priceless treasure in life, capable of changing your destiny. I hope you will accept it.

2. 抑郁症者一般有下面一些表现：性格脆弱、思想封闭、情绪低沉、郁闷不乐、孤独无助、少言寡语、空虚自卑、任性固执、郁闷不乐、多愁善感、忧思焦虑、失眠多梦、恐惧多疑、悲伤厌世、惊异胆怯、焦躁不安、暴躁愤怒……等等多种情况。除了注意饮食、中西医药物治疗以外，侧重谈一谈心理疗法。产生这些现象和问题的原因有种：经济拮据、住房原因、失业问题、恋爱坎坷、婚姻不幸、家庭暴力、夫妻矛盾、工作压力、身体生理、疾病缠绕…等等都是诱发抑郁的因素。不分国籍、不论年龄、不管身份、也不分贫富、性别……几乎地球上的每一个人都有不同的烦恼和痛苦，只不过痛苦的时间上有长短之别；程度上有轻重之分罢了。没有钱无法生存是痛苦；钱少了有很多东西买不起；钱多了又担心失窃，无法花出去也是痛苦。各种影响和诱惑，灯红酒绿，五光十色，真是让人防不胜防，难以抗拒。简直我们就像在痛苦的海洋里游泳，不知何时沉入海底。人生痛苦，苦不堪言那！人生最大的敌人是自己的负面情绪；人生最宝贵的是快乐的心情！

2. Individuals with depression generally exhibit the following symptoms: fragile personality, closed thinking, low mood, gloominess, loneliness, helplessness, few words, emptiness and inferiority,任性固执, gloominess, melancholy, worrying, anxiety, insomnia with frequent dreams, fear and suspicion, sadness and aversion to the world, astonishment and timidity, impatience and restlessness, irritability and anger... etc. In addition to paying attention to diet and traditional Chinese and Western medicine treatment, I will focus on discussing psychological therapy. The causes of these phenomena and problems include: financial difficulties, housing issues, unemployment, difficulties in love, unhappy marriage, domestic violence, marital conflicts, work pressure, physical and physiological conditions, and being缠身 by diseases... etc., all of which can trigger depression. Regardless of nationality, age, status, wealth, or gender... almost everyone on Earth has different troubles and sorrows, but the duration of the pain varies, as well as its intensity. The pain of being unable to survive without money; the pain of having little money to buy things; and the pain of having a lot of money but worrying about theft and not being able to spend it. All sorts of influences and temptations, the glittering lights and the colorful scene, are indeed so hard to guard against and resist. It's as if we are swimming in an ocean of pain, not knowing when we will sink to the bottom. Life is full of suffering, which is indescribable! The greatest enemy in life is one's negative emotions; the most precious thing in life is a joyful mood!

3. 总之，人类的痛苦不外乎精神层面的、物质层面的和身体疾病三个方面的痛苦。而这三个方面痛苦还是心灵上的痛苦最多、最复杂、持续时间最长、最难以解除。而物质层面的和身体层面的痛苦还和精神层面的痛苦有着密不可分的联系。中医说：怒伤肝，悲伤肺，惊喜伤心，恐伤肾。物质影响精神，情绪反作用于身体，处理不好，恶性循环。那么究竟什么是痛苦呢？其实所谓的痛苦就是万事万物在我们精神层面中的一种认识、一个定位而已。我们认为它是痛苦，就感觉它是痛苦；我们认为它是幸福，就感觉它是幸福。有的人并没有很多钱，但是也活得很潇洒自在啊！所以有些看似痛苦的其实是虚假的；有些所谓的痛苦其实是幸福；是由于我们不知足和心理的偏差而误认为痛苦。你看这个世界上，有多少富人自杀，有多少歌星跳楼，难道他们缺少金钱吗？不缺。他们缺少健康的心理；缺少解开痛苦的钥匙；缺少与人沟通的桥梁和渠道。如此说来，那么痛苦就是客观事物在我们意识里的一个心理定位、一种精神感觉。如果我们把它定位在痛苦的层面，那他精神就痛苦；如果把它定位在幸福的层面，那他就是幸福，而不管它本身的精神取向和别人什么看法。所以痛苦和幸福的决定因素是我们的心态如何，确切地说是我们的心态如何，也就是我们的生命目标、生命目的和人生的核心价值观？

3. In summary, human suffering can be categorized into three aspects: spiritual, material, and physical diseases. Among these, the spiritual suffering tends to be the most prevalent, complex, enduring, and difficult to alleviate. The suffering in the material and physical aspects is also inextricably linked to spiritual suffering. Traditional Chinese medicine says: anger harms the liver, sadness harms the lungs, joy and surprise harm the heart, and fear harms the kidneys. Material factors influence the spirit, and emotions can have a reciprocal effect on the body. If not handled properly, it can lead to a vicious cycle. So, what is suffering? In essence, the so-called suffering is just a recognition and a positioning of all things in our spiritual realm. We feel it as suffering because we perceive it as such; we feel it as happiness because we perceive it as happiness. Some people may not have a lot of money, but they live a carefree and easygoing life! Therefore, some things that seem painful are actually false; some so-called sufferings are actually happiness; they are mistakenly perceived as suffering due to our lack of contentment and psychological bias. Look at the world, how many rich people commit suicide, how many singers jump to their deaths, do they lack money? No, they don't. What they lack is a healthy psychology, the key to alleviating suffering, and the bridges and channels for communication with others. So, suffering is an objective psychological positioning and a spiritual feeling in our consciousness. If we position it as suffering, then it is suffering; if we position it as happiness, then it is happiness, regardless of its inherent spiritual orientation and others' opinions. Therefore, the determinant of suffering and happiness is our mindset, more precisely, our life goals, life purposes, and the core values of our life.

4. 一般人的生命目标、生命目的都是以自私自利、自我贪得、自我获取为目的，来划自己的生存、生活的人生轨迹。世俗的层层迷雾遮住了人们的双眼和心灵，这就是造成人们痛苦的总根源。人生百年，活在世间，就像住在旅馆一样，生带不来，走带不去。在物欲横流的人世间，当别人和自己看法、观点、见解不一致时；或当别人和自己利益发生矛盾、冲突时，便会暴跳如雷、大发脾气，陷于无限的痛苦之中，以致恶性循环，不能自拔。一个人长期处于痛苦、悲伤、愤怒、焦虑……黑暗之中，身体必然会生出疾病来。接着又陷入病痛之中，为了治病又要花掉很多钱，物质层面的痛苦又接踵而来。真是人生之苦，苦不堪言、痛不欲生，直想一死了之、呜呼哀哉！所以，我们明白了痛苦的根源，想要解除痛苦，只有不断地学习，才能断除迷惑；断除迷惑才能断除欲望；断除欲望才能断除邪行；断除邪行才能断除痛苦；断除痛苦才能得到快乐。在心理最黑暗的时候一定要看到光明就在眼前，那怕看到一丝光明都会挽救人生最宝贵的生命啊！人身难得啊！尤其在人们的心情极度焦灼，情绪极度浮躁、心态极度脆弱的今天更是如此。愤怒只能恶性循环，仇恨只能再造新的痛苦；痛苦只能再生烦恼。欢喜一笑泯恩仇啊！消除人们心灵的痛苦便是救人一命啊！拔除一切大众的痛苦就是大爱；把快乐、幸福、健康毫不吝啬地施舍给大众，把自己生命的全部给予大众就是大爱，一切思维和行为都以大众的苦乐为生命的圆心，这就是快乐人生的境界。在我们现实生活中，总会感觉有几个人好像专和自己作对，过不去。是不是生活中有这种情况？其实是自己和自己过不去，和自己的心灵过不去。我们的心往往在热爱和仇恨之间；在宽容和嫉妒之间；在平和和愤怒之间；在快乐和痛苦之间徘徊，有时偏于后者是吧？我们的心总感觉世界不公平，总感觉对方全错了，是吧？从因果规律来看，这个世界一切现实都是合理的，都有一定的因缘关系。现在世界上的一切法律都是从构成前因后果的必然要素来判定是否有罪。其实痛苦也好，烦恼也好，一切不顺心的事情也好，说到底还是我们的爱心不够所造成的痛苦。要经常提示自己：我是世界上最自信的人，我是世界上最坚强的人，我是世界上最快乐的人，我是世界上最有爱心的人，我是世界上最成功的人！

4. The life goals and purposes of the general public are often driven by selfishness, greed, and self-gain, determining their own life轨迹 and life path. The secular mist envelops people's eyes and souls, which is the root cause of their suffering. Living for a hundred years in this world is like staying in a hotel; we can't bring it with us when we're born, and we can't take it away when we leave. In a world where material desires run amok, when others' views, opinions, or insights differ from ours, or when conflicts of interest arise, we may explode in anger, throwing ourselves into endless suffering, leading to a恶性循环 from which we can't pull ourselves out. If a person stays in the darkness of pain, sadness, anger, anxiety, and so on for a long time, their body will inevitably fall ill. Then, caught in illness, they have to spend a lot of money on treatment, leading to further material suffering. It truly is the bitterness of life, so unbearable and painful that one would rather die, alas! Therefore, having realized the source of pain, to relieve it, we must continuously learn, so as to dispel confusion; dispel confusion to overcome desires; overcome desires to end evil deeds; end evil deeds to relieve pain; relieve pain to find happiness. In the darkest moments of the mind, we must see that light is right in front of us, even if it's just a glimmer, it can save the most precious life! Life is so hard to come by! Especially in today's world, where people are extremely anxious, emotionally restless, and mentally fragile. Anger can only lead to a恶性 cycle, hatred can only create new suffering; pain can only bring forth more烦恼. A smile can erase enmities! Removing the pain from people's souls is like saving a life! Eradicating all suffering from the masses is great love; generously sharing joy, happiness, and health with everyone is great love; giving all of one's life to the masses is great love. All thoughts and actions should revolve around the joys and sorrows of the masses, which is the realm of a joyful life. In our daily lives, we often feel that some people seem to be constantly at odds with us, unable to get along. Is there really such a situation in life? In reality, it is ourselves who are at odds with ourselves, who are at odds with our own souls. Our hearts often wander between love and hate; between tolerance and jealousy; between peace and anger; between joy and pain. Sometimes, we lean more towards the latter. Our hearts often feel that the world is unfair, and that the other person is completely wrong. From the perspective of the law of cause and effect, all realities in this world are reasonable and have certain causes and effects. Currently, all laws in the world are determined by the inevitable elements of cause and effect. In fact, pain, worries, and all kinds of unpleasant things ultimately stem from our lack of love. We must frequently remind ourselves: I am the most confident person in the world, the strongest, the happiest, the most loving, and the most successful!

5. 人之所以痛苦就是没有明白道理；没有认识宇宙的真相、事物的规律；没有认识人与人之间的关系；没有认识人的本性；没有设身处地的换位思考；封闭固执的观念、对立的思维方式以及以自我为核心的价值观所造成的。始终处于和大众一种对立、乃至对抗的状态，殊不知和一个人对立就是和大众对立；就是和宇宙对立；就是和自己的心对立。这样，只能离我们的快乐越来越远了。原因是我们的心态发生了问题：不满、忧郁、浮躁、愁苦、埋怨、怨恨、伤害、仇恨、愤怒……甚至出现了杀害之心。再深一层说是因为我们太执着于自我、执着于私心、执着于名利、执着于多年形成的固有的死板的僵化的从一个视角、从一个方向、从一个立场思维的方法和习惯。甚至十头牛都拉不回来，大有鱼死网破之势。好像有人牵着我们的心，牵着我们的鼻子往痛苦的深渊里狂奔，我们做不了自己心的主人啊！所以事后反思感到很后悔吧，当时自己的心就像一匹没有缰绳的野马一样，根本就刹不住车。当一个人走路时，前面是一片火海、一座高山或者是一口深井，请问大家，他还会往前走吗？肯定不会。可是在现实生活中我们往往钻牛角尖，固执于一条死路而不放，结果还是痛苦临头，自己种苦因；自己尝苦果。其原因除了自私自利之外，就是多年死板、僵化、固定的思维模式和思维方法造成的。此时此刻，能回心转意——改变自己的心就是“悟”！中国人很智慧，你看悟字的写法，不就是我的心吗？谁能把控自己的心就是有觉悟的人啊！改变的越快，越及时，就是悟性很高了。能够自己主动的改变自我就是自觉。当然，在别人的提示下，觉悟了那也很好啊！怕的是执迷不悟啊！到离开这个世界的时候，心灵还在黑暗之中，还在和大众作对，还在和世界作对，还在和自己的心作对，身心还不和谐，还不能和大众融为一体，那真是痛苦一生啊!中国每年自杀的287万人，轻微的心理障碍几乎人人都有些。近年来随着时间的推移，大有蔓延、扩大的趋势。世界上不是很多人带着一生遗憾离开这个世界的吗？这些寻短见的人，其一没有想到白发人送黑发的时候悲痛欲绝。你一走了之，父母的心也跟你一起死了。你忘记了是母亲3、4百斤的乳汁——那可是母亲的血浆之恩还没有报答啊！其二你想一想你的爱人、孩子、（或恋人、）朋友…的感受吗？亲为哀泣、友为泪涟，你的亲人一生没人照顾了。其三你对不起自己啊！人生的美好和快乐你还没有真正看到啊！你只是看到人生的负面和消极。我在网上看到最小8岁、10岁的小孩想自杀。觉而不迷，醒而不惑。我当时如万箭穿心一般，十分痛心，眼泪像断线的珍珠一般滚落下来。我真替这些过早凋谢的花朵感到惋惜！今天所讲的都是肺腑之言，都是心灵深处的交流。依我看来，除此之外，再没有更好的方法可以挽回心灵的迷茫和黑暗了。我们理应十分珍惜，生命难得啊，可不要白来人间一趟，空手而归啊！所谓的超越不是我们大脑的作品，而是我们心灵的升华，精神境界的提升，是一念之间——七秒钟就可以完成的。可是有的人七十年心态都没有提升啊！真遗憾那！

5. The reason why people suffer is that they have not understood the truth; they have not recognized the true nature of the universe, the laws of things; they have not understood the relationships between people; they have not recognized human nature; they have not put themselves in others' shoes for empathy; it is caused by closed, stubborn concepts, contradictory ways of thinking, and self-centered values. They are always in a state of opposition, even confrontation with the masses, not realizing that opposing a person is opposing the masses; it is opposing the universe; it is opposing one's own heart. In this way, one can only move further and further away from happiness. The reason is that our mindset has gone wrong: dissatisfaction, melancholy, impatience, sorrow, complaining, resentment, harm, hatred, anger... even to the point of wanting to kill. To a deeper extent, it is because we are too attached to ourselves, to our selfish desires, to fame and fortune, and to the rigid, ossified ways of thinking and habits formed over the years. Even if ten oxen pull, it is as if one is determined to destroy the net and fish together. It seems as if someone is leading our hearts, pulling our noses into the abyss of suffering, and we cannot be the master of our own hearts! Therefore, after the fact, one feels very regretful, as if one's heart was like a wild horse without a bridle, unable to stop. When a person walks, if there is a fire sea, a high mountain, or a deep well in front of them, what will they do? They will definitely not go forward. However, in real life, we often get stuck in a dead end, stubbornly adhering to a path without giving up, only to suffer the consequences. The reason, in addition to selfishness, is the years of rigid, ossified, and fixed patterns of thinking and methods. At this moment, to change one's heart is to "awaken"! The Chinese are very wise; look at the character "wù" (awaken), isn't it my heart? Whoever can control their heart is an enlightened person! The faster and more timely the change, the higher the enlightenment. Being able to change oneself主动ly is self-awareness. Of course, it is also good to become enlightened with others' guidance! The fear is that one becomes stubborn and does not awaken! When leaving this world, if the mind is still in the dark, still opposing the masses, still opposing the world, still opposing one's own heart, the body and mind are not harmonious, and cannot merge with the masses, that is truly a life of suffering! China has 2.87 million people committing suicide every year, and almost everyone has some minor psychological disorders. In recent years, with the passage of time, there is a trend of spreading and expanding. Are not many people leaving this world with regrets? These people who take their own lives have not thought about the extreme grief of a parent losing a child. You just leave, and the parents' hearts die with you. You forget that it was the mother's 300 to 400 pounds of milk – that is the grace of the mother's blood that has not been repaid! Secondly, think about the feelings of your lover, children, (or lovers, friends...) Their families will mourn, and friends will weep. Your relatives will have no one to take care of for the rest of their lives. Thirdly, you are not doing yourself justice! You have not truly seen the beauty and happiness of life! You only see the negative and negative aspects of life. I saw on the internet that the youngest child who wanted to commit suicide was 8 years old, and the oldest was 10 years old. To be awakened but not confused, to be alert but not perplexed. At that moment, I felt as if I was pierced by ten thousand arrows, and my tears rolled down like pearls. I truly feel sorry for these flowers that wither prematurely! What I have said today are all from the bottom of my heart, all from the depths of my soul. In my opinion, there is no better way to save the confusion and darkness of the soul than this. We should cherish it, as life is rare, and we should not come to this world in vain, leaving empty-handed! So-called transcendence is not the work of our brain, but the sublimation of our soul, the improvement of our spiritual realm, which can be completed in a moment – within seven seconds. However, some people have not raised their mindset for seventy years! What a regret!

6. 有一位九十岁的老人说：“不管遇到什么事情，首先要检查自己啊！”所以当遇到痛苦时，千万不要找对方的毛病，不管对方的心态、目的如何，哪怕一丁儿点正确都没有呢；这是苍天出的一个考题，来考验我的心态来了，我应该怎样正确回答这道题呢？我们明白了处事做人的道理，我们永远再不犯以前的错误了，不但不能走到和大家对抗的地步，还从此打开了幸福快乐的大门。每天都清净自在、幸福吉祥、快乐欢喜，那该多好啊！这可是从地狱到天堂、从自私到博爱、从自利到利他、从凡夫到圣人的一步大超越啊！世间所有的烦恼、痛苦、磨难都是上天来提高和磨炼我的心志、来塑造的人格我而出的人生考题。所谓“人格”就是做人要及格啊。只有通过自己的痛苦，才能更加体会别人的痛苦，才能扩展自己的大爱、打开自我的心胸、磨练我的意志、擦亮我的慧眼、成就我的人生、铸就我的光辉前途。我们应该学会知足和感恩。我能广博无私地爱天下一切人，包括我的一切对立面；我的心胸如大海，比大海还广阔，我的心胸如宇宙，和宇宙融为一体，和天地合而为一，能装得下天下一切事物，能包容天下一切人，能容纳日月星辰！在这个世界上，其实最大的是我们的心；最小的还是我们的心。一念之间我们就觉悟了；不再固执错误就是觉悟；看透人生就是智慧；能够宽容一切人就是快乐。

6. A ninety-year-old man said, "No matter what happens, first check yourself!" So when faced with pain, never find fault with the other person, regardless of their mindset or purpose, even if there is not a bit of correctness in them; this is a test set by the heavens to examine my mindset. How should I correctly answer this question? We understand the principles of dealing with people and matters, and we will never commit the same mistakes again. Not only can we avoid reaching a point of confrontation with others, but we have also opened the door to happiness and joy. Every day is peaceful, happy, auspicious, and joyful, how wonderful it would be! This is a great leap from hell to heaven, from selfishness to love for all, from self-interest to altruism, from the ordinary to the sage. All the troubles, pain, and hardships in the world are the tests set by the heavens to strengthen and refine my will, and to shape the personality I am to be. What is meant by "personality" is that one must pass the test of being a good person. Only through my own pain can I better understand the pain of others, expand my great love, open my heart, strengthen my will, enlighten my wisdom, achieve my life, and forge my brilliant future. We should learn to be content and grateful. I can love all people in the world broadly and without bias, including all my adversaries; my heart is as vast as the ocean, even broader, my heart is as boundless as the universe, merging with the universe, uniting with the heavens and the earth, able to contain all things under heaven, embrace all people, accommodate the sun, the moon, and the stars! In this world, in fact, the greatest is our heart; and the smallest is also our heart. In a flash of thought, we are enlightened; giving up stubbornness is enlightenment; seeing through life is wisdom; being able to tolerate everyone is happiness.

7. 一切取决于我们的心态。在没有明白道理之前，我们的心性好比一头没有驯服的野马，横奔乱踢，根本不听话；经过慢慢驯服，渐渐地能让人骑了，再经过驯服能拉车上套了，但是还经常踢人尥蹶子；再经过不断地长时间地反复驯服，终于主动上套拉车不踢人了，而且驯驯服服，俯首帖耳。这是一个长时间的很痛苦的驯服过程，我们要驯服老虎一样驯服自己的心性，其实我们心性的磨炼也是如此这样一个漫长而痛苦的过程。《名贤记》里说，成人不自在，自在不成人。《古文观止》说“天将降大事于斯人也，必将劳其筋骨，饿其体肤，空乏其身，行拂乱其所为，增益其所不能。”“昔西伯（周文王）拘羑（you）里，演《周易》；孔子厄（饿）陈蔡作《春秋》；屈原放逐著《离骚》；左丘失明厥（jve才）有《国语》；孙子膑脚，而论《兵法》；不韦迁蜀，世传《吕览》；韩非囚秦，《说难孤愤》；《诗》三百篇，大抵贤圣发愤之所为作也。”现实的家庭生活、社会生活就是我们千锤百炼心性的大熔炉，人人都逃避不了，除非你跑到外星球上一个人生活。凤凰在烈火中涅槃，心性于熔炉里光明。如果不从调整自己的心态入手，到后来恐怕一生的结局都是竹篮打水——一场空啊！看在我们大家都不是外人，都是真实不虚的亲人的份上，把自己的心掏出来给大家！那怕能理解一点都能一生受用无穷啊！

7. Everything depends on our mindset. Before we understand the truth, our character is like an untamed wild horse, running amok and kicking without listening to anyone; after gradual taming, it can be ridden by people, and further taming allows it to pull a cart; but it still often kicks and resists. After continuous long-term and repeated taming, it finally submits to being harnessed to pull a cart without kicking, and becomes docile and compliant. This is a long and painful process of taming, where we need to tame our character as fiercely as a tiger, and in fact, the refining of our character is also such a long and painful process. As mentioned in the "Records of Famous Sages," "A grown person is not comfortable, and a comfortable person is not a grown person." As stated in "The Great Collection of Ancient Literature," "When heaven is about to bestow great events upon a person, it will fatigue their muscles and bones, starve their bodies, impoverish them, disrupt their actions, and increase their abilities." "Once, the Western Emperor (King Wen of the Zhou Dynasty) was imprisoned in Youli, where he interpreted the Book of Changes; Confucius, during his hardship in Chen and蔡, wrote the Spring and Autumn Annals; Qu Yuan was exiled and wrote the Lamentations of Chuan; Zuo Qiuming, after losing his sight, wrote the Book of the Rites; Sun Tzu, despite being crippled, discussed military strategy; Lü Buwei was exiled to Shu, and the world passed down the Book of Lü; Han Fei was imprisoned in Qin and wrote "On Difficulty and Solitude"; the Book of Songs consists of three hundred poems, mostly the work of sages and worthies who were driven to express themselves through frustration." The reality of family and social life is the great melting pot where we refine our character through countless trials, and no one can escape it unless they live alone on another planet. The phoenix rises from the ashes in the flames, and our character becomes enlightened in the melting pot. If we do not start by adjusting our mindset, it is likely that the outcome of our entire life will be as empty as trying to fish with a bamboo basket. Considering that we are all not outsiders but genuine family members, let's open our hearts to each other! Even if we can understand a little, it can benefit us for a lifetime!

8. 《太极图》里面有两条阴阳鱼，头尾相接在游动着。它给我们什么启示呢？

8. The Taiji Diagram contains two yin-yang fish, their heads and tails connecting and moving around. What insights does it give us?

9. 其一是说任何一个事物有阴阳两个方面；太阳是阳，月亮是阴：白天为阳，夜晚为阴：身体为阳，精神为阴；想法为阳，结果为阴；理想为阳，收获为阴；看见的为阳，看不见的为阴……追根溯源，阴阳这就是构成这个五彩斑斓的世界的基本要素。

9. The first is that any thing has two aspects of yin and yang; the sun is yang, the moon is yin; day is yang, night is yin; the body is yang, the spirit is yin; thoughts are yang, results are yin; ideals are yang, harvests are yin; what is seen is yang, what is unseen is yin... Tracing it back to its roots, yin and yang are the fundamental elements that constitute this colorful and vibrant world.

10. 其二说一个事物的两个方面不是对立的，而是相对的；彼此既有相对的独立性，又有互为依存的共性，这个道理用内行话说是阴阳互根。阴阳互根是讲阴阳相互依存、相互联系的复杂的矛盾又不矛盾的关系。

10. The second point is that the two aspects of a thing are not opposed to each other, but rather are relative; they both have relative independence as well as a commonality of interdependence. This principle, in the jargon of the professionals, is called the mutual foundation of yin and yang. The mutual foundation of yin and yang refers to the complex and yet non-contradictory relationship of yin and yang being interdependent and interconnected.

11. 其三说阴阳鱼头尾相连，是在不停游动着状态。整个宇宙，这个世界，我们周围的一切事物，我们的心态……都在不停地变化着。

11. The third saying is that the yin-yang fish are connected at the head and tail, constantly moving. The entire universe, this world, everything around us, our mindset... are all constantly changing.

12. 其一帮助我们认识世界、认识自己一定从两个方面，千千万万不要一点论。也就是说任何一个事物都有利害、成败、得失、取舍的两种或多种可能性。在现实生活实际中，往往有人专牛角尖，一条道跑到黑，结果是如何，大家去想象吧。所以说，人活的不仅仅是物质一个方面，更重要的是高昂的精神、快乐的心情、健康的情绪啊！

12. Firstly, understanding the world and ourselves must come from two aspects, and we should never be one-sided. That is to say, any thing has two or more possibilities of benefits and harms, successes and failures, gains and losses, choices and omissions. In reality, there are often people who stubbornly stick to a narrow-minded perspective, running down a dead-end street, and the outcome is left for you to imagine. Therefore, the value of human life is not merely in the material aspect, but more importantly in the exalted spirit, joyful mood, and healthy emotions!

13. 其二处理好人与人之间的关系。明确了人与人都是相互依存、相互联系的 关系，就会把我们对立、对抗乃至敌对的心态转变过来。这样你欢喜，我快乐，那该多好。伤害了别人也伤害了自己；要想自己快乐先让别人快乐。

13. The second is to handle the relationships between people properly. When it is clear that all people are interdependent and interconnected, our attitudes of opposition, confrontation, and even enmity will change. How wonderful it would be if you are happy and I am joyful. Hurting others also harms yourself; in order to be happy, one must first make others happy.

14. 其三认识了世界在变化，是说我们的思维要跟着变化；绝不是随波逐流，改变我们的做人的基本理念和原则。这点千千万万不要误解。比如你的车在高速公路上急速行驶，突然间路况发生了变化，前面有一个不可逾越的障碍物，你会怎样处理？肯定要减速刹车，或者调头回来，或者绕道而行。可是在现实生活实际中，当我们遇到问题时，我们的思维、我们的心理往往转不过这个弯来。人们之所以苦恼就是没有看破这个世界啊，没有完全认识自己啊！坚定不移的做人理念、原则和处理具体细节问题的灵活性相结合，我们就会减轻许多烦恼和不必要的痛苦。其实烦恼、痛苦每个人一生中都会遇到，关键是我们要有一个良好的心态、科学的思维方式和一个恰当的处理方法。正所谓烦恼天天有，不捡自然无。“上善若水”就是说人世宇宙间最高级的最好的对待一切事物的方法像水一样：处在一种既有形又无形的状态。水是什么形状、水的道路在哪里、水什么态度、什么心理？直道不通，迂回前进。条条大道通快乐，何苦要专牛角尖？

14. The third point is that recognizing that the world is changing means that our thinking should follow suit; it is definitely not about drifting with the current, changing our fundamental concepts and principles of being a person. This point should not be misunderstood. For example, if your car is speeding on the highway and suddenly the road conditions change, with an insurmountable obstacle ahead, how would you handle it? You would certainly slow down and brake, or turn around and return, or take a detour. However, in reality, when we encounter problems, our thinking and psychology often struggle to navigate this turn. People suffer because they have not seen through this world, and they have not fully understood themselves! The combination of unwavering principles of being a person, flexibility in handling specific details, will help us alleviate many troubles and unnecessary pain. In fact, everyone will encounter troubles and pain in their lives, the key is to have a good attitude, a scientific way of thinking, and an appropriate method of handling. As they say, troubles come every day, but if you don't pick them up, they naturally disappear. "The highest good is like water" means that the highest and best way to treat all things in the world is like water: existing in a state that is both tangible and intangible. What shape is water, where does the path of water lie, what attitude does water have, what psychology does water have? When the direct path is blocked, one should take a detour. All roads lead to happiness, why should one stubbornly pursue a dead end?

15. 所以不管遇到什么事情，首先我们要欢喜地接受他。第二要从本质上、从阴阳两个方面认识它、看透它；不要被它的假象迷惑。起决定作用的是我们的心态的转变，深一点说是我们的心性的把握！什么叫把握当下？把自己每一时每一刻的“心”把握住了，就是圣人。第三转化它。转化是转化自己的“心”，而不是改变对方。为自己，我自己的私利，这一念之间就是打开地狱之门的开关；为他人，为他人的利益，这一念之间就是打开天堂之门的开关。这一转化就是地狱天堂两重天啊！这一念的转化就是快乐、就是自在、就是从凡夫到圣人的升华。自己的心改变了，再看对方不但不生气，反而心存感恩、感激、感谢之情。知足感恩正是开启幸福之门的金钥匙。是大家给了我们生存的条件和空间，给了我们生活所必需的衣食住行，人民是我们的真正的亲人。没有他们我们就不能生存在人世间。如果能人人感恩、事事感恩、时时感恩，那么幸福、快乐、吉祥、自在永远在我们身边。看什么都顺眼、看什么都欢喜，那我们就是快乐的人。我真诚地希望天下所有人都幸福、快乐、平安、吉祥！

15. So, regardless of what happens, we should first joyfully accept it. Second, we should understand it and see through it in terms of its essence and the yin and yang aspects; do not be deceived by its superficial appearances. What determines everything is the change in our mindset, and more deeply, the mastery of our heart's nature! What does it mean to grasp the present? It means to grasp our "heart" at every moment and in every instant, and that is the way of the sage. Third, transform it. Transformation is about transforming our own "heart," not changing the other person. For self-interest, for my own private gains, that single thought is the switch that opens the gates of hell; for others, for their benefits, that single thought is the switch that opens the gates of heaven. This transformation represents the difference between heaven and hell! This transformation of thought is joy, is ease, and is the transcendence from the ordinary to the sage. When our own heart changes, looking at others not only stops anger but is filled with gratitude, appreciation, and thanks. Contentment and gratitude are the golden keys to opening the door to happiness. It is everyone who gives us the conditions and space for our survival, who provides us with the necessities of life such as food, clothing, shelter, and transportation. The people are our true relatives. Without them, we cannot exist in this world. If everyone can be grateful, grateful for everything, grateful at every moment, then happiness, joy, prosperity, and ease will always be with us. Seeing everything with favor, seeing everything with joy, that is the way of the happy person. I sincerely hope that everyone in the world will be happy, joyful, peaceful, and prosperous!

16. 在人生的旅途中，必然会经历很多痛苦、很多磨难。唐僧取经，历尽81难，难难要人命。经历了严寒就不怕冷了，经历了痛苦就不觉得苦了。只有大爱才能解除痛苦；只有理解才能消除烦恼；只有宽容才能溶化仇恨。人生就是从迷惑到醒悟不断地螺旋式上升的过程。从不了解自己到认识自己；从不了解生命到认识生命；从了解生命到彻底认识生命，不断提升做人的层次，提高人生的境界。宇宙中万事万物都是阴阳的结合，阴阳结合在一起才是和谐。而在现实生活中，我们往往把阴阳两个方面对立起来，这就违背了事物的发展规律，人为地制造矛盾和对立，我们的心能平静吗？这个世界能和谐吗？所以我们看问题千万不能一点论，一定要两点论，进而从多个角度来看同一个事物，要换位思考，多从别人的角度来观察事物，设身处地的为别人考虑，这样就不会太执着、太固执了。

16. In the journey of life, one is inevitably subjected to many sufferings and hardships. Tangseng's quest for the sacred scriptures involved 81 trials, each one life-threatening. After experiencing extreme cold, one no longer fears the cold; after experiencing pain, one no longer feels it as bitter. Only great love can alleviate suffering; only understanding can eliminate烦恼; only tolerance can dissolve hatred. Life is a process of continuous spiraling upward from confusion to enlightenment. From not knowing oneself to knowing oneself; from not understanding life to understanding life; from understanding life to a thorough understanding of life, constantly improving the level of being human, and elevating the realm of life. In the universe, all things are the combination of yin and yang, and it is only when yin and yang are combined that harmony exists. However, in reality, we often set the two aspects of yin and yang against each other, which goes against the laws of development of things and artificially creates contradictions and opposition. Can our hearts remain calm? Can this world be harmonious? Therefore, when we view problems, we must never take a one-sided view; we must adopt a two-sided view, and then look at the same thing from multiple perspectives. We should think from others' perspectives, observe things from others' standpoints, and consider others' situations. In this way, we will not be too stubborn or inflexible.

17. 如果把我们的心当成一个水杯，把人生的痛苦看成十吨食盐的话，一个小小的水杯能装得下十吨食盐吗？显然不能。如果把我们的心放大到一百立方米的游泳池，就能装得下十吨食盐了，虽然浓度变淡了，但是仍然很咸。如果再把我们的心放大成太平洋呢？那么再多的食盐放进去也不会感到一点咸味了。我们的心量放大了，就是广阔无边的大海我们都能承载它，更何况人生这一点点烦恼和痛苦呢？我们的心胸像大海，每一个痛苦像稍纵即逝的一朵浪花，都会留给我们最灿烂的微笑和最美丽的光彩！只有苦与甜融合在一起才是真正的人生，人生就是品味世间百味。这就是我对大家发自内心的肺腑之言！我真诚地希望天下每一个人远离痛苦，得到快乐，走向辉煌！

17. If we take our hearts as a cup of water and consider the sufferings of life as ten tons of salt, can a small cup hold ten tons of salt? Clearly, it cannot. If we expand our hearts to a swimming pool of one hundred cubic meters, we can hold ten tons of salt, although the concentration is diluted, it is still very salty. If we further expand our hearts to the Pacific Ocean, then no matter how much salt we add, we won't feel any saltiness at all. When our hearts are expanded, it is like an endless ocean, and we can bear it, let alone the little troubles and sufferings in life? Our broad-mindedness is like the sea, and every pain is like a fleeting wave, leaving us with the brightest smile and the most beautiful luster! Only when sweetness and bitterness are blended together is it truly life, and life is about tasting all the flavors of the world. This is my sincere and heartfelt words to all of you! I sincerely hope that everyone in the world can distance themselves from pain, find happiness, and move towards brilliance!

18. 人生每一分的痛苦和快乐都是人们心田里的一颗种子，都是人生旅途中的一分收获，都是人生历炼的一种成熟，都是整个人生必然的成果！细细品味人生经历中的每一分痛苦和快乐，才是人生真正的一种享受。我愿意替任何一个人承受他的每一分痛苦，我更愿意和任何一个人分享我的每一分幸福和快乐！——这就是我们的人生观、价值观、世界观。

18. Every bit of pain and joy in life is a seed in the hearts of people, a portion of harvest in the journey of life, a kind of maturity in life's experience, and an inevitable outcome of the entire life! To savor every bit of pain and joy in the life experience is truly a kind of enjoyment. I am willing to bear any person's pain, and I am even more willing to share my happiness and joy with anyone!—This is our outlook on life, our values, and our world view.

19. 无边无际的大海是我的心量，博爱是我永恒不变的的心房，日月星辰是我最光明的无量细胞，我是蓝天，我是白云，我是春风，我没有任何障碍，我在宇宙中自由的翱翔，我和蓝天融为一体。在时空坐标里我找到了我自己，——这就是我真正的根，真正的家园！不管是顺境还是逆境；不分是痛苦还是幸福；不论是荆棘还是鲜花……这都是我们美好生命家园的应有的不可或缺的生命要素，我永远不会浪费生命，我们生命的全部价值就是帮助大家尽量地消除一切痛苦；送给大家精神快餐！先天下之忧而忧，后天下之乐而乐！

19. The boundless ocean is the breadth of my heart, universal love is my eternal and unchanging chamber, the sun, the moon, and the stars are the most luminous and boundless cells in me. I am the blue sky, the white clouds, the spring breeze, I have no obstacles, and I freely soar in the universe, merging with the blue sky. In the coordinates of time and space, I find myself – this is my true root, my true homeland! Whether it is prosperity or adversity; whether it is pain or happiness; whether it is thorns or flowers... these are the indispensable elements of our beautiful life home. I will never waste my life, and the entire value of our lives is to help everyone as much as possible to eliminate all pain; to provide everyone with spiritual fast food! To worry about the worries of the world before others worry, and to enjoy the joys of the world after others do so!

20. 消除烦恼痛苦的有效方法是用人生名言，经常提示自己、开解自己、暗示自己、提醒自己、解锁自己——也就是醒悟的过程。逐渐培养自己的大爱心、理解心、知足心、感恩心、谦让心——这就是打开快乐幸福之门的金钥匙！其实生活并不缺少幸福和快乐，而是缺少发现幸福和快乐的慧眼和爱心！谁来打开？只能是自己，我代替不了。我只是把道理说给你，把开锁的方法交给你，具体行动必须是我们自己。解铃还须系铃人；开锁必须关锁人。贪欲心、嗔恨心、傲慢心、怀疑心、名利心、嫉妒心、仇恨心、伤害心、报复心、杀害心生起的时候——就是打开了烦恼痛苦的大门、打开了心灵死亡的大门、打开了地狱的大门！上面讲的一开一关就在我们自己的心灵一念之间。境由心造，境由心转。真是一念地狱，一念天堂啊！孔子说：“朝闻道，夕死可矣。”由此可见明白做人的道理多么重要。

20. The effective way to eliminate烦恼 (annoyance) and痛苦 (suffering) is to use proverbs of life, frequently remind ourselves, comfort ourselves, suggest to ourselves, remind ourselves, and unlock ourselves — which is the process of awakening. Gradually cultivate our great heart, understanding heart, contentment heart, gratitude heart, and modest heart — this is the golden key to opening the door to happiness and joy! In fact, life is not lacking in happiness and joy, but lacking in the wisdom and love to discover them! Who will open them? It can only be ourselves; I cannot replace you. I can only explain the principles to you and hand over the method to unlock; the specific actions must be taken by us ourselves. To untie the bell, you must tie it; to unlock, you must lock it. When greed, anger, arrogance, doubt, desire for fame and fortune, jealousy, hatred, hurt, revenge, and the heart of killing arise — it is the opening of the door to烦恼 and痛苦, the door to the death of the soul, and the door to hell! What was discussed, the opening and closing, is within the flicker of a thought in our own soul. Conditions are created by the mind, and conditions are transformed by the mind. It is truly a thought of hell or a thought of heaven! Confucius said, "If one morning I hear the truth, I would be willing to die that night." This shows how important it is to understand the principles of being a person.

21. 谨慎处理好与家人、亲属、朋友、邻里、同事的关系。尽量多谦让一点，多包容一点，多从对方考虑事情，那就一切事情好解决了。坚持长期做下去，快乐、吉祥就在我们眼前。我想大家在不远的明天都会得到这个快乐、吉祥的法宝。诸恶莫作，众善奉行。烦恼在帮人中消失，快乐于奉献里诞生。这样就找到了生命存在的真正价值，找到了生命的本源，找到了自己幸福快乐的根本！

21. Be cautious and handle the relationships with family members, relatives, friends, neighbors, and colleagues with care. Try to be more accommodating and tolerant, and consider matters from the other person's perspective. Then, all things will be easier to resolve. By persistently doing so over the long term, joy and auspiciousness will be right before our eyes. I believe that everyone will obtain this treasure of joy and auspiciousness in the near future. Avoid all evil and do good deeds. Troubles disappear among helpers, and joy is born from selfless dedication. In this way, we find the true value of life, the origin of life, and the root of our own happiness and joy!

22. 不断学习，懂得怎样做人的道理，培养自己的大爱之心、宽容之心、理解之心。提升自己做人的层次和境界。当一个人有了大爱心、大胸怀、大视野的时候，烦恼痛苦也就随之消失了。我最阳光、最有力量、最有勇气、最有信心！

22. Continuously learn, understand the principles of how to be a person, cultivate your heart of great love, tolerance, and understanding. Elevate the level and realm of your character. When a person possesses a heart of great love, a broadmindedness, and a wide perspective, their烦恼 (troubles and sufferings) also disappear. I am the most sunny, the most powerful, the most courageous, and the most confident!

23. 帮助他人，快乐自己；关爱他人，幸福自己；原谅他人，解脱自己。帮助他人这种快乐会抵消自己的负面情绪，改变人的命运。

23. Helping others brings joy to oneself; caring for others brings happiness to oneself; forgiving others liberates oneself. The joy derived from helping others can offset one's negative emotions and change a person's destiny.

24. 和知心的朋友倾诉，与君一席话，胜读十年书。效果好的话，一次交流，可以消除累积内心的多年烦恼痛苦，迅速开启心灵之窗。从“山穷水尽疑无路”到“柳暗花明又一村”。

24. Venting to a close friend is like reading ten years' worth of books in one conversation. If it's effective, a single exchange can eliminate years of accumulated inner烦恼 and pain, quickly opening the window of the soul. From feeling "at the end of the road with no way forward," to experiencing "a new village after the dark of the willows and the brightness of the flowers."

25. 热问题，冷处理。遇到发怒时不要急于处理问题。此时容易不理智。

25. Handle hot issues with a cool head. When you're angry, don't rush to deal with the problem. At this time, it's easy to act without rationality.

26. 换位思考，多从对方的角度看问题，可能就有好的答案了。

26. Put yourself in their shoes and consider the issues from their perspective; you might find a good solution.

27. 调整生活、休息习惯，不做无意义的事情。如赌博，游戏等。早睡早起。每天不得少于5小时的睡眠。

27. Adjust your lifestyle and rest habits, and avoid doing meaningless things such as gambling and gaming. Go to bed early and wake up early. You should get at least 5 hours of sleep every day.

28. 适当锻炼身体，多到郊外、水边散散步。发火是身体阴阳不平衡，以水调火，多喝点水，都是有效方法。

28. Engage in appropriate physical exercise and take more walks in the countryside or by the water. Getting angry is a sign of不平衡 in the body's yin and yang, and adjusting the fire with water is an effective method. Drinking more water is also helpful.

29. 少吃或不吃肉类和油炸食品；多吃含水量大的蔬菜类食物。尤其不要饮酒，抽烟，这些东西使人伤失理智、损害身体。

29. Eat less or avoid meat and fried foods; eat more vegetables with high water content. Especially do not drink alcohol or smoke, as these things can impair one's reason and harm the body.

30. 自我控制、自我调节、自我开锁。中医说：怒伤肝，悲伤肺，惊喜伤心，恐伤肾。心平气和不伤身。

30. Self-control, self-regulation, self-unlocking. Traditional Chinese medicine says: anger damages the liver, sadness damages the lungs, surprise damages the heart, and fear damages the kidneys. Keep the mind calm and the breath even to avoid harm to the body.

31. 每天早晨读一段有益的座右铭。如：烦恼天天有，不捡自然无；我何必为这点小事而烦恼：我要用爱心融化自己，融化整个世界。

31. Read a beneficial motto every morning. For example: Worry is a daily occurrence, but it's gone if not picked; why should I worry about such a trivial matter: I want to melt myself with love, and melt the whole world.

32. 每顿饮食不要太饱，吃到6到7层就可以了；吃得多了胃肠负担重，大脑缺血会昏昏沉沉，容易办糊涂事。

32. Do not overeat at each meal; eating to the point of 6 to 7 layers is sufficient. Eating too much puts a heavy burden on the gastrointestinal system, causing brain缺血 and making you feel drowsy, leading to a higher chance of making mistakes.

33. 每天静坐一会，把身心倒空，会得大智慧，处理事情非常理智。

33. Taking a moment to sit quietly each day, emptying both body and mind, leads to great wisdom and enables one to handle affairs with great reasonableness.

34. 改变自己的思维方式和方法，不要太固执、太死板；既要有原则性，还要有灵活性。

34. Change your way of thinking and methods; don't be too stubborn or rigid; you should have both principles and flexibility.

35. 每天晚上全身放松，双腿盘坐，双手合十，大拇指、食指相对，其余三指相扣，双目微闭，余光轻看食指尖，困意来时搓搓手，治疗失眠有特效。闭目静坐一会，反思一天或一周的言行，那些错误，那些不合适，需要改正。孔子说，吾日三省吾身是有道理的。

35. Every evening, relax your whole body, sit with your legs crossed, hands folded together, the thumbs and index fingers facing each other, the other three fingers interlocked. Close your eyes slightly and gently look at the tip of the index finger with the peripheral vision. When drowsiness comes, rub your hands together, which is an effective treatment for insomnia. Sit with closed eyes and be still for a while, reflecting on the words and actions of the day or week, those mistakes, those inappropriate behaviors that need to be corrected. Confucius said, "Reflecting on myself three times a day" is reasonable.

36. 自己的身心自己做主，不要追潮流、赶时髦；潮流、时髦有很多是经不起时间和历史考验的，是错误的。

36. Be the master of your own body and mind, do not chase trends or follow fashion; many trends and fashions cannot stand the test of time and history, and they are wrong.

37. 人生要过三关：财、色、权。要淡泊名利，贪欲是万恶之源。

37. In life, one must pass three trials: wealth, beauty, and power. One should be indifferent to fame and fortune, for greed is the root of all evil.

38. 从孝敬父母，为父母洗脚、伺候父母开始，进而“老吾老以及人之老，幼吾幼以及人之幼”。

38. Starting from showing filial piety to one's parents, such as washing their feet and taking care of them, one should then proceed to the principle of "honoring the aged among others as one honors one's own aged, and nurturing the young among others as one nurtures one's own young."

39. 看看网上《中华传统文化论坛》大有益处，可能改变一生的烦恼和痛苦。

39. It is very beneficial to read the "Chinese Traditional Culture Forum" online; it may even change the worries and pain of your entire life.

40. 千言万语，最关键的是把我们人生的立足点转变过来，从为自己的小圆里跳出来，跳到为大家的大圆里，就一切都圆满吉祥了。之所以痛苦不堪，就是我们的自私自利、以自我为中心的念头太重了。把自己的私利放下，把自我放下，我们就有了大心量、大思维、大视野、大宽容、大爱心、大快乐。我们一辈子看不破这个人世间的大道理，放不下自我，就一辈子快乐不了；今天明白做人的道理，今天快乐；明天明白做人的道理，明天快乐。谁都渴望快乐、谁都想拥有快乐，其实快乐离我们并不遥远，就在我们身边，就在我们一念之间，快乐就会回归到他的原点。三秒钟，也许就能将心情切换到快乐频道。受到挫折时，说一声：我决不垂头丧气，我最自信，深吸一口气，抬起头来，挺起胸膛，快乐就会在心头生长；觉得悲观，前途渺茫时，花上三秒钟喊一声：我决不自卑，让忧伤与空气为伴吧，也许就能提醒自己从悲观情绪中清醒过来，换一种眼光看待世界。要生气发火的时候，说一声：我何必要为这一点小事情而发怒？然后停顿三秒钟，也许就能化解一次大的灾难。朋友，请您把握这每一个一念之间，把握好每一个三秒钟，您就离神仙不远了。

40. No matter how many words we have, the most critical thing is to shift our focus from our own small circle to the big circle of everyone. Once we make this shift, everything will be perfect and auspicious. The reason we suffer so much is because of our excessive self-interest and egocentric thoughts. By putting aside our own interests and ego, we gain a big heart, big thinking, broad vision, great tolerance, great love, and great joy. If we cannot see through the great truths of this world and cannot let go of our ego, we will never be happy in our lifetime; if we understand the principles of being a person today, we are happy today; if we understand it tomorrow, we are happy tomorrow. Everyone desires happiness and everyone wants to have it, but in reality, happiness is not far from us; it is right beside us, and it is just a thought away. In three seconds, we may be able to switch our mood to the channel of happiness. When faced with setbacks, say: "I will never be defeated, I am the most confident. Take a deep breath, lift your head, and挺起胸膛, happiness will grow in your heart. When feeling pessimistic and seeing a bleak future, spend three seconds to shout: "I will never be inferior, let melancholy be accompanied by the air. Perhaps this can remind yourself to wake up from the pessimistic mood and look at the world with a different perspective. When you feel the urge to be angry, say: "Why should I get angry over such a trivial matter?" Then pause for three seconds, perhaps you can avert a major disaster. Friend, please grasp every thought in between, and every three seconds, and you will be close to becoming a god.

41. 大家算一笔账,每一个人都有父母、祖父、祖母，外祖父和外祖母。父亲、祖父和自己同一个姓氏，但是母亲、外祖父、外祖母和自己大都不是一个姓氏了。按此几何倍数（1-2-4-8…）推理，上溯推到31代累计为21亿474万3647人，推到33代累计为85亿8993万4591人，这也就是说，推算到31代时，全中国的人都有可能在我们的身体里流淌着他们的血液：推算到33代时，全世界的人都有可能是我们的祖先了；这就是宇宙的大道理。人生在世，连自己的父母、爷爷、奶奶、外公、外婆、祖先……都不爱，还能爱谁呢？羊羔跪乳，乌鸦反哺，博爱天下每一个人，孔子说：“仁者爱人”；孟子说：“老吾老以及人之老，幼吾幼以及人之幼。”这就是延续了几千年炎黄子孙传统文化的精髓；就是中华民族屹立于世界永远不倒的基石；就是华夏儿女腰杆挺直的真正脊梁！宇宙和大自然规律告诉我们：天下一切大众都是我们的亲人；阴阳规律告诉我们：命运把握在我们自己手里，开启快乐幸福之门的金钥匙就是大爱心；自然界的一切都在运动着、变化着。我们人类的命运也在变化。种瓜得瓜，种豆得豆。辩证法告诉我们：人类长期形成的僵化的固有的死板的以自我为中心的思维方式、思维方法需要改变！以大爱之心，做利人之事！孜孜不倦地向外寻求是永远找不到快乐的；只有深层次地挖掘自我的心灵，才能找到真正离苦得乐的金钥匙！这就是真正离苦得乐的唯一方法！快乐即在弹指间，转变心灵过难关。爱心开辟新世界，幸福吉祥喜无边。“大爱为怀，天地助你成功！”以上这些生命箴言，是无数生命血的代价换来的，供各位借鉴。真心希望世界上每一个人用自己的爱心编制出美丽、光彩的人生光环；创造出光辉灿烂的美好愿景；都活得快乐、幸福、阳光、吉祥如意！

41. Let's do some calculations. Everyone has parents, grandparents, grandmothers, and great-grandparents on both sides of the family. The father and grandfather share the same surname, but the mother, grandparents, and great-grandparents, as well as oneself, usually do not share the same surname. According to this geometric progression (1-2-4-8...), if we trace back to the 31st generation, the total number of people is 2,147,436,47 people. Tracing back to the 33rd generation, the total number of people is 8,589,345,591. This means that by the 31st generation, it is possible that the blood of everyone in China flows through our bodies. By the 33rd generation, it is possible that everyone in the world could be our ancestor; this is the great truth of the universe. If one cannot love their own parents, grandparents, grandmothers, uncles, aunts, ancestors, and so on, then who else can one love? The lamb bows down to drink milk, and the crow returns the favor; love everyone in the world, Confucius said, "The benevolent love others"; Mencius said, "Respect the elders of others as you would your own elders, and cherish the young of others as you would your own young." This is the essence of the traditional culture of the descendants of the Yellow Emperor and the Great Emperor that has been passed down for thousands of years; it is the foundation for the eternal standing of the Chinese nation in the world; it is the true backbone of the children of the Chinese nation! The laws of the universe and nature tell us that all people in the world are our relatives; the law of yin and yang tells us that the fate is in our own hands, and the golden key to opening the door to happiness and joy is great love; everything in nature is in motion and changing. The fate of our human beings is also changing. As the saying goes, "Plant melons and get melons; plant beans and get beans." Dialectics tells us that the rigid, inherent, and inflexible way of thinking and thinking that humans have formed over a long period of time needs to be changed! With a heart full of love, do things that benefit others! Perseverance in seeking externally will never lead to happiness; only by deeply exploring one's own soul can one find the true golden key to escape suffering and find joy! This is the only true method to escape suffering and find joy! Happiness is just a blink away, and the transformation of the mind overcomes difficulties. Love opens a new world, and happiness and prosperity are boundless. "With great love in mind, the heavens will help you succeed!" These life proverbs, which have been paid for with the blood of countless lives, are provided for everyone to learn from. I sincerely hope that every person in the world can weave a beautiful, brilliant halo of life with their love; create a brilliant and splendid vision; and live a happy, happy, sunny, and auspicious life!

42. 唯有保持积极向上的心态，凡是从正面思考、换位思维、知足感恩，就能激发自己无限的潜能，获得人生的真正的快乐和幸福。

42. Only by maintaining a positive and upward mindset, thinking positively, putting oneself in others' shoes, and being content and grateful, can one unleash their infinite potential and attain true happiness and well-being in life.

43. 什么是人生？曲曲折折是人生；痛苦快乐是人生；酸甜苦辣是人生。谁都改变不了的现实；谁也改变不了的自然规律，与其逃避还不如面对。这个世界并不缺少快乐，而是缺少发现快乐。这个世界并不缺少美，而是缺少发现美。请朋友和我一起高喊：我最坚强、我最勇敢、我最自信、我顶天立地、我能战胜一切障碍！我真心希望天下每一个人都能打开自我封闭已久的心灵什么是人生？曲曲折折是人生；痛苦快乐是人生；酸甜苦辣是人生。谁都改变不了的现实；谁也改变不了的自然规律，与其逃避还不如面对。这个世界并不缺少快乐，而是缺少发现快乐。这个世界并不缺少美，而是缺少发现美。请朋友和我一起高喊：我最坚强、我最勇敢、我最自信、我顶天立地、我能战胜一切障碍！我真心希望天下每一个人都能打开自我封闭已久的心灵之窗，让灿烂的阳光照进来，享受幸福之中的烦恼；痛苦之中的快乐，享受人生的美丽多彩。之窗，让灿烂的阳光照进来，享受幸福之中的烦恼；痛苦之中的快乐，享受人生的美丽多彩。让我们像一只英勇无敌的海燕，迎着暴风雨飞翔着歌唱；歌唱着飞翔！经受过严寒的考验才能享受到美丽的春天；经历了暴风雨才能欣赏到绚烂的彩虹！敬祝朋友平安幸福、笑口常心！

43. What is life? Twists and turns are life; pain and joy are life; sweet, sour, bitter, and spicy are life. It is an immutable reality that no one can change; it is a natural law that no one can alter. It's better to face it than to avoid it. This world is not lacking in joy, but in the discovery of joy. This world is not lacking in beauty, but in the discovery of beauty. Let's friends and I shout together: I am the strongest, the bravest, the most confident, I stand on my own two feet, I can overcome all obstacles! I sincerely hope that everyone in the world can open the long-closed window of their own heart. Let the brilliant sunshine shine in, enjoy the烦恼 in happiness; the joy in pain, enjoy the beautiful and colorful life. Let's be like a brave seagull, flying and singing in the face of storms; singing and flying! Only after enduring the test of severe cold can we enjoy the beautiful spring; only after experiencing storms can we appreciate the magnificent rainbow! I wish my friends peace, happiness, and a constant smile!

44. 抑郁症者一般有下面一些表现：性格脆弱、思想封闭、情绪低沉、郁闷不乐、孤独无助、少言寡语、空虚自卑、任性固执、郁闷不乐、多愁善感、忧思焦虑、失眠多梦、恐惧多疑、悲伤厌世、惊异胆怯、焦躁不安、暴躁愤怒……等等多种情况。除了注意饮食、中西医药物治疗以外，侧重谈一谈心理疗法。产生这些现象和问题的原因有种：经济拮据、住房原因、失业问题、恋爱坎坷、婚姻不幸、家庭暴力、夫妻矛盾、工作压力、身体生理、疾病缠绕…等等都是诱发抑郁的因素。近年来中国自杀的数量不断上升，这不能不引起人们的忧虑和关注。小者带来一个家庭的不幸，大者带来社会和国家的不安定。不分国籍、不论年龄、不管身份、也不分贫富、性别……几乎地球上的每一个人都有不同的烦恼和痛苦，只不过痛苦的时间上有长短之别；程度上有轻重之分罢了。没有钱无法生存是痛苦；钱少了有很多东西买不起；钱多了又担心失窃，无法花出去也是痛苦。男人有男人的烦恼，女人有女人的痛苦；大人有成年人的苦闷，儿童有儿童的苦恼。再加上家庭和社会大小环境的影响和诱惑，灯红酒绿，五光十色，真是让人防不胜防，难以抗拒。简直我们就像在痛苦的海洋里游泳，不知何时沉入海底。人生痛苦，苦不堪言那！人生最大的敌人是自己的负面情绪；人生最宝贵的是快乐的心情！

44. People with depression generally exhibit the following symptoms: fragile personality, closed-mindedness, low spirits, melancholy, loneliness, helplessness, few words, emptiness and self-doubt, obstinacy, irritability, melancholy, emotional sensitivity, worry and anxiety, insomnia and frequent nightmares, fear and suspicion, sadness and aversion to the world, surprise and timidity, restlessness, and impatience, and anger... etc. In addition to paying attention to diet and the use of Chinese and Western medicine, let's focus on psychological therapy. The causes of these phenomena and problems include: financial constraints, housing issues, unemployment, difficulties in love, unhappy marriage, domestic violence, marital conflicts, work pressure, physical and physiological conditions, and persistent illness... etc., all of which can trigger depression. In recent years, the number of suicides in China has been on the rise, which cannot fail to cause concern and worry among people. The smaller ones bring misfortune to a family, while the larger ones bring instability to society and the country. Regardless of nationality, age, identity, wealth, or gender... almost everyone on Earth has their own troubles and sufferings, differing only in the duration and severity of their pain. Lack of money is suffering; if money is scarce, many things cannot be bought; if money is abundant, there is a worry about theft, and it is also a form of suffering. Men have their own troubles, women have their own sufferings; adults have the frustrations of adulthood, and children have their own worries. Added to this are the influences and temptations from the family and the larger social environment, the glittering lights and colorful scenes, which are truly hard to guard against and resist. It's as if we are swimming in the ocean of suffering, not knowing when we will sink to the bottom. Life is full of pain, which is unbearable! The greatest enemy in life is one's own negative emotions; the most precious thing in life is a happy mood!

45. 人之所以痛苦就是没有明白道理；没有认识宇宙的真相、事物的规律；没有认识人与人之间的关系；没有认识人的本性；没有设身处地的换位思考；封闭固执的观念、对立的思维方式以及以自我为核心的价值观所造成的。始终处于和大众一种对立、乃至对抗的状态，殊不知和一个人对立就是和大众对立；就是和宇宙对立；就是和自己的心对立。这样，只能离我们的快乐越来越远了。原因是我们的心态发生了问题：不满、忧郁、浮躁、愁苦、埋怨、怨恨、伤害、仇恨、愤怒……甚至出现了杀害之心。再深一层说是因为我们太执着于自我、执着于私心、执着于名利、执着于多年形成的固有的死板的僵化的从一个视角、从一个方向、从一个立场思维的方法和习惯。甚至十头牛都拉不回来，大有鱼死网破之势。好像有人牵着我们的心，牵着我们的鼻子往痛苦的深渊里狂奔，我们做不了自己心的主人啊！所以事后反思感到很后悔吧，当时自己的心就像一匹没有缰绳的野马一样，根本就刹不住车。当一个人走路时，前面是一片火海、一座高山或者是一口深井，请问大家，他还会往前走吗？肯定不会。可是在现实生活中我们往往钻牛角尖，固执于一条死路而不放，结果还是痛苦临头，自己种苦因；自己尝苦果。其原因除了自私自利之外，就是多年死板、僵化、固定的思维模式和思维方法造成的。此时此刻，能回心转意——改变自己的心就是“悟”！中国人很智慧，你看悟字的写法，不就是我的心吗？谁能把控自己的心就是有觉悟的人啊！改变的越快，越及时，就是悟性很高了。能够自己主动的改变自我就是自觉。当然，在别人的提示下，觉悟了那也很好啊！怕的是执迷不悟啊！到离开这个世界的时候，心灵还在黑暗之中，还在和大众作对，还在和世界作对，还在和自己的心作对，身心还不和谐，还不能和大众融为一体，那真是痛苦一生啊!中国每年自杀的287万人，轻微的心理障碍几乎人人都有些。近年来随着时间的推移，大有蔓延、扩大的趋势。世界上不是很多人带着一生遗憾离开这个世界的吗？这些寻短见的人，其一没有想到白发人送黑发的时候悲痛欲绝。你一走了之，父母的心也跟你一起死了。你忘记了是母亲3、4百斤的乳汁——那可是母亲的血浆之恩还没有报答啊！其二你想一想你的爱人、孩子、（或恋人、）朋友…的感受吗？亲为哀泣、友为泪涟，你的亲人一生没人照顾了。其三你对不起自己啊！人生的美好和快乐你还没有真正看到啊！你只是看到人生的负面和消极。我在网上看到最小8岁、10岁的小孩想自杀。有一个16岁的男孩，父亲走了，母亲一个人和他茹苦含辛过了十几年，小男孩说：我再看看妈妈、姥姥最后一眼，每天就永远地走了。真是觉而不迷，醒而不惑。我当时如万箭穿心一般，十分痛心，眼泪像断线的珍珠一般滚落下来。我真替这些过早凋谢的花朵感到惋惜！今天所讲的都是肺腑之言，都是心灵深处的交流。依我看来，除此之外，再没有更好的方法可以挽回心灵的迷茫和黑暗了。我们理应十分珍惜，生命难得啊，可不要白来人间一趟，空手而归啊！所谓的超越不是我们大脑的作品，而是我们心灵的升华，精神境界的提升，是一念之间——七秒钟就可以完成的。可是有的人七十年心态都没有提升啊！真遗憾那！

45. The reason why people suffer is that they have not understood the truth; they have not recognized the true nature of the universe, the laws of things; they have not understood the relationships between people; they have not understood human nature; they have not thought from others' perspectives; and it is due to their closed, stubborn ideas, opposing ways of thinking, and values centered on the self. They are always in a state of opposition, even confrontation, with the masses, unaware that opposing a person is opposing the masses; it is opposing the universe; it is opposing one's own heart. In this way, they can only move further away from happiness. The reason is that their mindset has gone wrong: dissatisfaction, depression, impatience, sorrow, complaining, resentment, harm, hatred, anger... even to the point of homicidal thoughts. To a deeper extent, it is because they are too obsessed with the self, with selfish desires, with fame and fortune, and with the rigid, inflexible ways of thinking and habits formed over the years. Even if ten oxen were to pull them back, it seems like they would rather perish than give in. It seems as if someone is leading their hearts, pulling them by the nose into the abyss of suffering, and they cannot be the master of their own hearts! That is why, after the fact, they feel very regretful, as if their hearts were like a wild horse without a bridle, unable to stop. When a person is walking and there is a fire sea, a high mountain, or a deep well ahead, would they still continue to walk forward? Of course not. But in real life, we often stubbornly pursue a dead-end road, only to find ourselves in pain, sowing bitter seeds and reaping the bitter fruits. The reasons, aside from selfishness, are the years of rigid, inflexible, and fixed patterns of thinking and methods. At this moment, if one can turn back, change one's heart, that is "enlightenment"! The Chinese are very wise; look at the character for "enlightenment," isn't it like my heart? Who can control their own heart is an enlightened person! The faster and more timely the change, the higher the enlightenment. Being able to change oneself主动ly is self-awareness. Of course, it is also good to be enlightened with the help of others! The problem is to be stubbornly deluded! When the time comes to leave this world, if the soul is still in darkness, still opposing the masses, still opposing the world, still opposing one's own heart, and the body and soul are not harmonious, still not merging with the masses, that is truly a life of suffering! China has 2.87 million suicides every year, and almost everyone has some mild psychological disorders. In recent years, as time goes by, there is a tendency to spread and expand. Are not many people leaving this world with lifelong regrets? These people who take their own lives have not thought about the extreme sorrow of losing a child to an early death. You just leave, and the hearts of your parents die with you. You forget that it was the mother's 300 to 400 pounds of milk - that is the debt of her plasma that has not been repaid! Secondly, think about the feelings of your loved ones, children, (or lovers, friends)... They will weep and mourn, and your relatives will have no one to take care of. Thirdly, you are not good to yourself! You have not truly seen the beauty and joy of life! You only see the negative and消极 aspects. I have seen on the internet that children as young as 8 or 10 years old want to commit suicide. There was a 16-year-old boy whose father had passed away, and his mother struggled with him for over a decade. The little boy said: I just want to see my mother and grandmother one last time, and then I will leave forever every day. It is truly an awakening without confusion and an enlightenment without perplexity. At that moment, I felt like a thousand arrows piercing my heart, deeply saddened, and tears rolled down like broken pearls. I truly feel sorry for these premature flowers! What I have said today are all heartfelt words, all exchanges from the depths of the soul. In my opinion, there is no better way to turn back the confusion and darkness of the soul except for this. We should cherish it, for life is precious, and we should not come to this world empty-handed! The so-called transcendence is not a product of our brain, but the sublimation of our soul, the improvement of our spiritual level, which can be achieved in a single thought - it can be completed in seven seconds. However, some people have not raised their mindset for seventy years! What a regret!

46. 一切取决于我们的心态。在没有明白道理之前，我们的心性好比一头没有驯服的野马，横奔乱踢，根本不听话；经过慢慢驯服，渐渐地能让人骑了，再经过驯服能拉车上套了，但是还经常踢人尥蹶子；再经过不断地长时间地反复驯服，终于主动上套拉车不踢人了，而且驯驯服服，俯首帖耳。这是一个长时间的很痛苦的驯服过程，我们要驯服老虎一样驯服自己的心性，其实我们心性的磨炼也是如此这样一个漫长而痛苦的过程。《名贤记》里说，成人不自在，自在不成人。《古文观止》说“天将降大事于斯人也，必将劳其筋骨，饿其体肤，空乏其身，行拂乱其所为，增益其所不能。”“昔西伯（周文王）拘羑（you）里，演《周易》；孔子厄（饿）陈蔡作《春秋》；屈原放逐著《离骚》；左丘失明厥（jve才）有《国语》；孙子膑脚，而论《兵法》；不韦迁蜀，世传《吕览》；韩非囚秦，《说难孤愤》；《诗》三百篇，大抵贤圣发愤之所为作也。”现实的家庭生活、社会生活就是我们千锤百炼心性的大熔炉，人人都逃避不了，上天无路，入地无门，不论是君王还是平民；不论是富人还是乞丐；不论是男人还是女人，除非你不在地球上生活，跑到外星球上一个人生活。凤凰在烈火中涅槃，心性于熔炉里光明。如果不从调整自己的心态入手，到后来恐怕一生的结局都是竹篮打水——一场空啊！看在我们大家都不是外人，都是真实不虚的亲人的份上，把自己的心掏出来给大家！那怕能理解一点都能一生受用无穷啊！

46. Everything depends on our mindset. Before we understand the truth, our nature is like an untamed wild horse, running amok and kicking without any obedience; after gradual taming, it gradually becomes possible to ride, and then after further taming, it can pull a cart. However, it still often kicks and rears; after continuous and prolonged taming, it finally becomes willing to pull the cart without kicking, and is docile and compliant. This is a long and painful process of taming, and we need to tame our nature as fiercely as a tiger, which is actually a long and painful process of refining our nature. The Records of Famous Sages says, "A grown-up is not at ease, and an at ease person is not a grown-up." The Classic of the Ancient Texts says, "Heaven will bestow great matters upon a person, and will fatigue their muscles and bones, starve their flesh and skin, impoverish their body, disrupt their actions, and increase their deficiencies." In the past, when the Western Emperor (King Wen of the Zhou Dynasty) was confined in the Yousi (a prison), he interpreted the I Ching; Confucius was stricken with hunger in Chen and蔡and wrote the Spring and Autumn Annals; Qu Yuan was exiled and wrote The Lamentations; Zuo Qiuming was blind and wrote The Records of the Kingdoms; Sun Tzu was crippled and discussed The Art of War; Lü Buwei was exiled to Shu and the world passed down The Book of Lü; Han Fei was imprisoned in Qin and wrote The Difficulty of Persuasion and Solitude; The Book of Songs, with three hundred poems, is mostly the work of sages and saints who were frustrated. The real family life and social life are our great crucible for refining our nature through countless trials, which no one can escape, whether they are kings or common people, whether they are rich or poor, whether they are men or women, unless you don't live on Earth and live alone on another planet. The phoenix is reborn from the flames, and our nature shines in the crucible. If we do not start with adjusting our mindset, it is likely that the outcome of our entire life will be as empty as trying to catch water in a bamboo basket! Considering that we are all not strangers to each other, but genuine and true relatives, let's pour out our hearts to everyone! Even a little understanding can benefit us for a lifetime!