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1. 尽最大可能以对待平常人的态度去对待他，但要时刻提醒自己“害人之心不可有，防人之心不可无”，我们不能因为知道他是一个怎样怎样的人就区别对待（自己心里悠着点就行），那样不利人不利己。

1. Treat him as a normal person to the best of your ability, but always remind yourself that "you should not have the intention to harm others, and you should not neglect to be cautious." We should not treat him differently because we know what kind of person he is (just be cautious in your own mind), as that is not beneficial for either party.

2. 一个人如果处在相互关心爱护，关心密切融洽的人际关系中，一定心情舒畅，有益于身体健康。良好的人际关系能使人保持轻松平稳，态度乐观。不良的人际关系，可干扰人的情绪，使人产生焦虑、不安和抑郁。严重不良的人际关系，还会使人惊恐、痛苦、憎恨或愤怒。现代医学研究表明，恶劣的情绪实际上是对身心健康的最大摧残。据悉，最近美国科学家研究发现，有20%的美国人因惯于生气而使健康受到严重威胁。因此人的身心健康需要良好的人际关系。俗话说健康之道在于“和”，这个“和”是指身体内在的和，也指与自然和社会的和，同样也指人和，即人际关系的和谐。良好的人际关系的状况有利于人的身心健康。

2. If a person is in an interpersonal relationship characterized by mutual care and affection, close and harmonious interaction, they will inevitably have a comfortable and pleasant mood, which is beneficial to their physical health. Good interpersonal relationships can help maintain a relaxed and stable demeanor, with an optimistic attitude. Poor interpersonal relationships, on the other hand, can disrupt one's emotions, leading to anxiety, restlessness, and depression. Severe negative interpersonal relationships can also cause fear, pain, resentment, or anger. Modern medical research shows that severe emotional disturbances are actually the greatest harm to physical and mental health. It is reported that recently, American scientists have found that 20% of Americans are seriously threatened by their health due to the habit of being angry. Therefore, the physical and mental health of individuals requires good interpersonal relationships. As the saying goes, the path to health lies in "harmony," which refers not only to the inner harmony of the body but also to harmony with nature and society, as well as interpersonal harmony, that is, the harmony of interpersonal relationships. The state of good interpersonal relationships is conducive to the physical and mental health of individuals.

3. 适度的自我表达。在必要的时候，需要以适当的方式适度地展现自己，以坚定但又温和的方式表达自己的意见、看法和心理感受，这不论是正面的还是负面的。

3. Moderate self-expression. It is necessary to moderately demonstrate oneself in an appropriate manner when needed, expressing one's opinions, views, and emotional feelings in a firm yet gentle manner, regardless of whether they are positive or negative.

4. 接着你要学会夸奖别人，这里的夸奖，并不是指溜须拍马，而是发自内心的真诚的夸赞，或者是偶尔流露出的对对方的肯定，每个人都渴望得到别人的赞许，当有人赞许自己的时候，或许会不好意思，但心里却特别满足，自然想和他保持亲近，所以，不要吝啬你的赞美之词，要知道，这是协调人际关系的一剂良药。

4. Next, you need to learn to praise others. Here, "praise" does not refer to flattery or sycophancy, but rather to sincere compliments that come from the heart, or occasional expressions of affirmation towards others. Everyone desires to receive praise from others. When someone praises us, we may feel embarrassed, but internally, we feel particularly contented. Naturally, we want to maintain a close relationship with that person. Therefore, do not be stingy with your words of praise. Remember, this is a good medicine for harmonizing interpersonal relationships.

5. 尊重别人。我们每个人，都需要尊重对方——哪怕是地位最卑微、最低贱的人，都要保持一颗同情、怜悯和尊重的心，不仅尊重对方的行为、想法，也尊重别人的价值观。人人都是平等的，没有什么人可以不可一世、为富不仁恒久的。

5. Respect others. Every one of us needs to show respect towards others – even towards the most humble and lowly individuals. We should maintain a heart of sympathy, compassion, and respect, not only for their actions and thoughts but also for their values. All people are equal, and no one should be able to behave with arrogance or be unkindly wealthy for long.

6. 其次 良好的人际关系是人身心健康的需要

6. Secondly, maintaining good interpersonal relationships is a necessity for the physical and mental health of individuals.

7. 人生幸福还必然要求精神生活的满足。精神生活的状况，如思想道德、理想情操、心里境况等都与人际关系密切联系。人需要有思想感情上的交流。一个志同道合又积极向上的人际关系群体中，和谐健康的人际关系形成的是一个和谐、信任、友爱、团结、理解、互相关心的客观环境，在这种环境中，人与人思想感情上的交流，能使人们从中汲取力量和勇气，使人在碰到挫折、困难时得到别人及时的帮助，通过交流达到互相理解;能使人处在一种舒畅、快慰、奔放的精神状态中，容易形成乐观、自信、积极的人生态度，人们的精神情操、心里环境得到净化，思想境界得到升华;相反，不良的人际关系使人产生猜疑、冷漠、嫉妒，造成困惑、苦闷、孤寂、萎靡和痛苦的状态。

7. The happiness of life necessarily requires the satisfaction of spiritual life. The condition of spiritual life, such as thoughts and morality, ideals and sentiments, psychological state, etc., is closely related to interpersonal relationships. People need to have exchanges in terms of thoughts and emotions. In a group of interpersonal relationships with the same aspirations and an upward spirit, the harmonious and healthy interpersonal relationships form an objective environment of harmony, trust, love, unity, understanding, and mutual care. In such an environment, the exchange of thoughts and emotions between people can enable them to draw strength and courage from it, and to receive timely help from others when faced with setbacks and difficulties, achieving mutual understanding through communication; it can also keep people in a state of comfort, relief, and exuberance, which is conducive to the formation of an optimistic, confident, and positive attitude towards life. People's spiritual sentiments and psychological environment are purified, and their thoughts are elevated. Conversely, poor interpersonal relationships can lead to suspicion, coldness, jealousy, and cause states of confusion, distress, loneliness, weakness, and pain.

8. 人生的幸福是构建在物质生活和精神生活的基础上。人生幸福必然包含有物质生活的内容，创造人生物质生活的幸福，会受到人际关系的影响。良好的人际关系有利于营造使人在物质生产过程中充分发挥创造力的优化环境，人的积极性创造性的发挥，能增加物质财富的生产，丰富人们的物质生活;良好的人际关系也使得人与人之间的物质交往渠道畅通，人与人之间互通有无，互利互惠，可能得到更多的物质享受的幸福。

8. The happiness of life is built on the basis of material and spiritual lives. The happiness of life necessarily includes the content of material life, and the creation of material happiness for people is affected by interpersonal relationships. Good interpersonal relationships are conducive to creating an optimized environment that allows people to fully exert their creativity in the process of material production, and the expression of people's enthusiasm and creativity can increase the production of material wealth, enrich people's material life; good interpersonal relationships also ensure smooth channels for material exchanges between individuals, allowing for the mutual sharing and mutual benefit, which may lead to greater happiness through increased material enjoyment.

9. 第三，人们可以从友好协作的人际关系中吸取力量，增强信心，在人生业绩的创造中左右逢源，得心应手。反之，如果人与人之间互相拆台，互相牵制，积极性受到压抑，才能无法发挥，消磨意志，空耗时光，则根本谈不上人生业绩的创造。

9. Thirdly, people can draw strength from friendly and cooperative interpersonal relationships, enhance their confidence, and find smooth sailing in the creation of their life achievements. Conversely, if people are undermining each other and holding each other back, their enthusiasm is suppressed, their talents cannot be fully utilized, their willpower is eroded, and time is wasted, then there is no question of creating life achievements.

10. 第一，良好的人际关系能够促进人们共同协作，为完成特定的任务而共同奋斗。现代科学技术的发展，既为交往创造了快捷方便的条件，也对交往方式提出了更高的要求。现在许多社会工作任务，越来越不能靠单个人单枪匹马来完成要通过众多人的共同协作来完成。每个科研项目的攻关，也离不开众多科学家的联手合作，加强联系，共同研究。

10. Firstly, good interpersonal relationships can promote people's collaboration and joint efforts in completing specific tasks. The development of modern science and technology has not only created quick and convenient conditions for communication but also put forward higher requirements for the methods of communication. Now, many social work tasks can no longer be completed by individuals acting alone, but require the collaborative efforts of many people. The攻关 of each scientific research project also cannot be achieved without the joint cooperation of numerous scientists, strengthening their connections and conducting joint research.

11. 别试图在善用心机之人面前刷存在感，因为你的一举一动都会在他X眼光下分析判断的一清二楚，更别说你的动机和目的了，与其辛苦的对峙，不如简简单单的与之交往，你越是简单，其实越加让他安心，反而更容易走近他的心里，而那时他就会放下自己的防御，向你敞开自己的心扉，让你看到其实他的内心虽有一些沧桑，但也有很多的空白和简单，因为他也向往简单，只是担心恐惧比一般人还多，所以才有这样的防御和盔甲（即心机）护身。

11. Don't try to assert your presence in front of someone who is cunning, as every move you make will be scrutinized and judged by him in the X-light, let alone your motives and purposes. It's better to simply interact with them rather than engage in a strenuous confrontation. The simpler you are, the more it actually soothes him, making it easier to get close to his heart. When that time comes, he will put down his defenses and open his heart to you, allowing you to see that although his inner self is somewhat worn, there are also many blanks and simplicity within him. Because he also yearns for simplicity, but is more worried and fearful than others, which is why he has such defenses and armor (i.e., cunning) to protect himself.

12. 跟善用心机之人有话就直说，别藏着掖着，玩心机一定玩不过他，发生正面冲突也要吃亏，不如敞开面对他，还省了好多精力与时间，另外可能会有更好的效果，何不尝试一番？古人说“大道至简”，跟善用心机之人相处之道亦是同理，其实做人不就是这个理吗？只要我们不存害人之心，守住自己的道德底线，跟谁相处不都是一样的。

12. When dealing with someone who is skilled in cunning tricks, be straightforward with your words and don't hide or conceal anything. Playing tricks will never win against them; even in a direct confrontation, you will suffer losses. Why not face them openly? It will save a lot of energy and time, and you might even achieve better results. Why not give it a try? As the ancients said, "The great way is simple," and the way to deal with someone who is skilled in cunning tricks is the same. Isn't that the essence of being a person? As long as we do not harbor harmful intentions and uphold our moral底线, why should it matter with whom we interact?

13. 常常反省自我。我们需要时刻观察自己，了解自己与他人的互动状况，通过关心他人的需要与省察他人对自己的反应，根据一些新信息、新观念，以一个开放的心怀来随时检讨自己，修正自己的做法。

13. Often reflect upon oneself. We need to constantly observe ourselves, understand our interactions with others, and by caring for others' needs and examining their reactions to us, we should use new information and new ideas to examine ourselves with an open heart at any time, and correct our own behavior.

14. 保持愉快的心情。态度平和、心情愉快的人，永远是受人欢迎、喜爱的。

14. Maintain a cheerful mood. People with a peaceful attitude and a cheerful mood are always welcome and beloved.

15. 其次你要谦虚，不要总是夸自己这个好，那个行，因为没人愿意跟一个成天自吹自擂的人在一起，就算你说的是实话，但也会让人反感。一个自我吹捧的人往往是一个极端的个人主义者，他们一般不在乎别人的感受，一切以自我为中心，试问如果是你，你愿意跟这种人在一起么殊不知自己此刻正扮演着这样的人。

15. Secondly, you should be modest and not always boast about how good or capable you are. No one wants to be around someone who brags all the time, even if what you say is true, it can still be annoying. A person who brags a lot is often an extreme individualist, who usually doesn't care about others' feelings and everything revolves around themselves. Ask yourself, would you want to be with such a person? Yet, you may not realize that you are acting like that person right now.

16. 常由衷地赞美人。每个人都希望被称赞、被肯定。说实话，每个人，生来就有这副德性;无论是谁，你还真没办法克服这个“虚荣心”。但这个“虚荣心”也没什么不好，因为当对方被你肯定后，你也就有了被别人肯定和对你施以有效反应的正面印象。真诚的赞美，是人与人彼此顺利交流、支援和发展的开端，而由衷的赞美，更是人际关系的润滑剂。

16. Often sincerely praise others. Everyone desires to be praised and recognized. To be honest, everyone is born with this trait; it's really hard to overcome this "vanity." However, this "vanity" is not necessarily bad, because when you affirm someone, you also create a positive impression of being recognized and receiving effective responses from others. Sincere praise is the beginning of smooth communication, support, and development between people, and heartfelt praise is even more like a lubricant for interpersonal relationships.

17. 对待朋友一定要真诚，不要在他面前说他的好话，而背后却指出人家的缺点，没有人愿意和虚伪的人做朋友，当我们拿出真心去对待别人的时候，别人也会拿出真心对我们，即使被人没有真心对我们，至少在他树敌人的时候不会首先想到你，不会处处跟你作对。社会上的人很多，并不能保证各个都是正人君子，所以，不树敌，至少可以保证没人背后捅刀子。

17. Always be sincere with friends, do not praise them in front of them while pointing out their flaws behind their back. No one wants to be friends with a hypocrite. When we show our sincerity in treating others, others will also show their sincerity towards us. Even if people are not sincere to us, at least they will not first think of you when they are making enemies, and they will not be against you at every turn. There are many people in society, and we cannot guarantee that all of them are upright gentlemen. Therefore, not making enemies at least ensures that no one will stab you in the back.

18. 与心机重的人相处，能驾驭好，只要这人心不怀歹意，只为仕途设计，没有恶作剧，人品还可以，只要自已早有提防，知悉他是有心机的人，谨慎相处应用，重要的不放任，可能被危及的事项加防御。自已心底要有谱，自已有主观能动性。有心机的人并非都是打坏主意，不一定是坏人，可以彼此相利用，让其效力。

18. When dealing with someone who is cunning and calculating, one can manage them well, as long as this person does not harbor ill intentions, but is only pursuing a career path, without any pranks, and has a decent character. As long as one is vigilant and aware that they are a cunning person, one should be cautious in their interactions, not allowing important matters to be neglected, and adding defenses to potentially dangerous situations. One must have a clear understanding in their heart, and maintain a sense of initiative. Not all cunning people have bad intentions, and they are not necessarily bad people. They can be mutually beneficial and make use of each other's abilities.

19. 当然，与人相处保持一定的距离也是很重要的，不要总觉得这没什么，因为每个人都有自己不愿说的秘密，你可以对对方表示关心，但绝不要触碰对方的敏感区域，如果对方在刻意的掩饰什么，绝对不要去触及，这或许就是人家的逆鳞，很有可能让你们从朋友变成仇敌。你也不要老指出别人的缺点，因为这可能就是对方的敏感区。

19. Of course, maintaining a certain distance in relationships with others is also very important. Don't always think that it's nothing, because everyone has their own secrets they don't want to share. You can show concern for the other person, but never touch their sensitive areas. If the other person is deliberately concealing something, absolutely do not delve into it, as it might be a sensitive spot for them. This could very well be the "point of contention" that turns you from friends into enemies. Also, don't constantly point out others' shortcomings, as this might be their sensitive area.

20. 经常关心人。你要别人怎么样对你，你也要怎么样对别人。人人都有需要得到帮助和关心的时候。注意到别人的实际需要，并伸出我们友谊和真诚的援手，助别人一臂之力，温暖他们，我们也必将得到温暖的回报和真诚。

20. Always be concerned about others. Do to others as you would have them do to you. Everyone has times when they need help and care. Notice others' actual needs and extend our friendship and sincere help to support them, warm them, and we will also receive the warmth and sincerity in return.

21. 不要怕受伤。其实，每个人都喜欢坦诚的人，每个人都需要心灵的交流与共鸣，但时刻防备别人的人也一定会被别人防备，因此你不可能跟别人有好的人际关系。

21. Don't be afraid of getting hurt. In fact, everyone likes people who are honest, and everyone needs spiritual communication and resonance. However, those who are constantly on guard against others will also be guarded against by others. Therefore, you cannot have good interpersonal relationships with others.

22. 首先解释一下朋友的定义，这里所说的朋友，并不是指你的患难之交，你的闺蜜，而是与你打交道的所有的人。其实与朋友建立良好的关系，最大的秘诀就是包容，包容他人的不同，包容他人的过错，不要为了一点点小事斤斤计较，每个人都会犯错，当人家犯错的时候，你要理解，不要过分的在意，就算你不能理解人家的做法，你也没有必要非要人家下不了台，有时候指出他人的过错，并不是明智的选择，相反或许还会让他人对你心生怨恨。

22. First, let's explain the definition of a friend. The friends we are talking about here are not just your close friends or your besties, but rather all the people you interact with. In fact, the key to building a good relationship with friends is tolerance. Be tolerant of their differences and their mistakes. Don't be overly concerned about trivial matters. Everyone makes mistakes. When others make mistakes, you should understand and not be overly concerned. Even if you can't understand their actions, there is no need for them to feel embarrassed. Sometimes, pointing out others' mistakes is not a wise choice; on the contrary, it may even make them harbor resentment towards you.

23. 最后 良好的人际关系是人生幸福的需要

23. Lastly, good interpersonal relationships are a necessity for the happiness in life.

24. 第二，良好的人际关系能够促进人们之间的信息交流和信息共享。现代社会知识量激增，“信息爆炸”，不建立一个和谐的人际关系进行交往，就不能尽快获得信息。有人曾说，现代社会80%的信息是通过交往获得的。而在现代社会掌握了信息就等于增加了成功的砝码。

24. Secondly, good interpersonal relationships can promote information exchange and sharing among people. In modern society, with the rapid increase in the amount of knowledge and the "information explosion," it is impossible to obtain information quickly without establishing harmonious interpersonal relationships for communication. Someone has said that 80% of the information in modern society is obtained through communication. And in modern society, having information is equivalent to adding weight to the scales of success.