1. 身处逆境时，人一般都喜欢寻找外因，或者埋怨旁人。其实一味怨天尤人，情况也不会有任何改变，不如换个角度想，换个积极的角度去看待问题，你就能把逆境中的“不利”变为“有利”改变思维，至关重要。

1. When facing adversity, people usually tend to seek external causes or blame others. In fact, endlessly complaining about fate or others will not change the situation at all. It's better to change your perspective and look at the problem from a positive angle. By doing so, you can turn the "disadvantages" in adversity into "advantages" and change your mindset, which is crucial.

2. 我们每天都会经历各种各样的事，有开心的，有不开心的，那么不开心的事一定是让我们挂怀最久的。当我们深陷负面情绪当中，会越来越沮丧。如果是别人的错就忽略，如果是自己的错，第二天道歉，将负面情绪就留在当时的情景中，不要带到第二天。

2. We encounter all sorts of events every day, some joyful and some not. Unhappy events are often the ones that linger in our thoughts the longest. When we are deeply immersed in negative emotions, we can become increasingly despondent. If the fault lies with others, just ignore it; if it's our own fault, apologize the next day, keeping the negative emotions confined to the situation they arose in, and don't carry them into the next day.

3. [美]乔希·维茨金 著

3. [USA] Josh Waitzkin, Author

4. ❺把焦虑化作动力，用行动去改变可以改变的，用胸怀去接受无法改变的。

4. Turn anxiety into motivation, use action to change what can be changed, and embrace what cannot be changed with an open heart.

5. ❿不管未来如何，都要相信自己有能力去应对，因为你的内心比你想象的更加强大。

5. No matter what the future holds, believe in your ability to handle it, because your inner strength is greater than you imagine.

6. 你有没有过这样的体验一一当你全神贯注做事的时候，由于太过投入，仿佛周边世界都不复存在，甚至感受不到时间的流逝!如果有，恭喜你，进入了心流状态这个状态下，焦虑和迷茫一扫而空，做事的效率将呈倍数增长!所以，如果你想学得更快，还能学得开心、学得更爽，就可以通过这本书，学习如何更熟练地进入心流状态!

6. Have you ever had an experience where, when you are fully focused on doing something, you become so immersed in it that the surrounding world seems to vanish, and you can't even feel the passage of time! If so, congratulations, you have entered the state of flow. In this state, anxiety and confusion are swept away, and your efficiency in doing things will increase exponentially! So, if you want to learn faster, and also learn with joy and satisfaction, you can learn how to more skillfully enter the state of flow through this book!

7. 摆脱无用的社交，以自己为主人公充分的利用时间，成为时间的主人，让充分利用时去学习去提升自己，为将来实现自我价值打好基础。

7. Detach yourself from futile socializing, use your time to the fullest as the protagonist, become the master of time, let the full utilization of time be used for learning and self-improvement, and lay a solid foundation for the realization of self-worth in the future.

8. 以圣人的的标准要求自己，而不是要求他人。以凡人的标准宽恕他人，只要不苛求他人，焦点聚焦在自己身上，呢就能沉下心来，不愤怒，不失望，不沮丧。

8. Set your standards according to the virtues of the sages, not demanding it of others. Forgive others with the standards of ordinary people, as long as you don't be too demanding of others, focus on yourself, and you can settle your heart, not being angry, disappointed, or despondent.

9. 陈海贤 著

9. Chen Haixian, Author

10. 周岭 著

10. Zhou Ling, Author

11. ❷ 人生就像海洋，有时风平浪静，有时狂风骤雨，但只要把握住航向，就能抵达梦想的彼岸。

11. ❷ Life is like the ocean, sometimes calm and tranquil, and sometimes with fierce winds and sudden storms, but as long as you hold the course, you can reach the shore of your dreams.

12. 得失心是人类的本能，但是在人际交往中过于计较得失，会让心胸变得狭窄。无论是工作还是生活，不要过分计较别人做多做少，得多的少，摒弃这种得失心，你就会越来越随和、平和。

12. The desire for gain and loss is an instinct of humans, but overthinking gain and loss in social interactions can make one's mind narrow. Whether it's work or life, don't overly concern about how much others do or how much they gain, abandon this desire for gain and loss, and you will become more accommodating and peaceful.

13. ❸焦虑是人生的调味品，没有它，生活就失去了滋味，但过多的焦虑则会成为束缚我们的枷锁。

13. Anxiety is a seasoning in life, without which life loses its flavor, but excessive anxiety can become the shackles that bind us.

14. ❻生活不会按照我们的计划进行，但正是这种不确定性，让生活充满了惊喜和希望。

14. ③ Life does not always go according to our plans, but it is precisely this uncertainty that makes life full of surprises and hope.

15. 力叫做“辻度反应”，当你发现自己过度反应的时候，就马上默念"冷静、冷静、没关系、没关系“，这样想得开能让你拥有〞钝感力”，更好的处理社交关系。

15. The force is called the "Overreaction Reaction." When you find yourself overreacting, immediately whisper to yourself, "Stay calm, stay calm, it's okay, it's okay." This kind of mindset can help you possess "tolerance," allowing you to better handle social relationships.

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17. 想改变自己，却总是失败每当你下决心改变的时候，就翻开这本书，市面上第一套系统的自我发展心理学!作者把6年咨询经验中的上千个真实案例，与理论相结合，提供了大堆好上手实操的小技巧! 相信自己只要你下定决心要改变，翻开这本书，就能找到适用于你的那个改变小技巧

17. Want to change yourself but always fail? Every time you decide to change, flip through this book, the first systematic self-development psychology set on the market! The author combines thousands of real cases from 6 years of consulting experience with theory, providing a wealth of practical, easy-to-use tips! Believe in yourself, as long as you are determined to change, flipping through this book will help you find the right little change trick for you!

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18. Douban Rating 89

19. 有的人天生比较敏感、细腻，别人的无心之举都会触动他们的敏感神经。在意别的的话，在意别人的行为，并且过度解读。经常从他人的言语中解读出悉意和负面情绪的行

19. Some people are naturally more sensitive and refined, their sensitive nerves being easily touched by others' thoughtless actions. They take notice of others' words and actions, and overanalyze. They often read between the lines in others' speech, interpreting hidden intentions and negative emotions.

20. 这个世上根本不存在没有烦恼的人，即使对方看起来满不在乎，也不代表他的烦恼就比你少。人生境遇上，遇到窘迫无法绕行的时候，逃避、难过、抱怨都是无用的。我们应该做好攀登的准备，一边享受其中的苦痛，一边找到其中的乐趣。

20. There is no one in this world who does not have their troubles, even if someone seems to be indifferent, it doesn't mean their troubles are fewer than yours. In the face of life's circumstances, when you encounter difficult situations that cannot be avoided, avoiding, feeling sad, and complaining are all futile. We should be prepared to climb, enjoying the pain along the way while also finding the joy in it.

21. 聪明人的学习秘诀都在这6本书里了!

22. [美]米哈里·契客森米哈赖 著

21. The secrets of smart people's learning are all in these 6 books! 22. [US] Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, Author

23. 只要你自学时遇到一丁点儿问题: 拖延、不专注效率低、半途而废··打开自学大全就有救!它是可以辅佐你一生的自学工具箱，55个简单的实操技巧，有效解决你遇到的所有阻碍! 书中的方法技巧，保证你初高中、大学、工作·退休都能用得上! 绝对是管用一辈子的自学宝藏秘籍!

23. Whenever you encounter even the slightest problem during self-study: procrastination, lack of focus, low efficiency, or giving up halfway... the Self-Study Encyclopedia is here to save the day! It is a self-study toolset that can accompany you throughout your life, with 55 simple practical techniques to effectively resolve all the obstacles you face! The methods and techniques in the book are guaranteed to be useful for you from middle and high school, through college, work, and retirement! It is truly a self-study treasure trove that can be used for a lifetime!

24. 很多人都只看自己的劣势，从来不看自己的优势。并且总是放大自己的劣势，而忽视白己的优势。一味的放大劣势，之后让你陷入“劣势陷阱〞里，让你产生一种，我不行〞的想法。对劣势视而不见，展现出你的优势，才能展现你的魅力，发挥你的才能。

24. Many people only focus on their weaknesses and never acknowledge their strengths. Moreover, they always exaggerate their weaknesses while ignoring their strengths. Blindly放大ing weaknesses can lead you to fall into the "trap of weaknesses," fostering thoughts like "I can't do it." Ignoring your weaknesses and showcasing your strengths is the key to demonstrating your charm and unleashing your talents.

25. 我们总是喜欢跟别人比较，总觉得别人哪哪都比自己好，这样容易让人产生“白卑感〞。总是带着比较的心态工作生活，自己也会非常痛苦。与他人比较毫无意义，自己才是我们真正应该比较的对象。

25. We always tend to compare ourselves with others, feeling that others are better in every aspect, which easily leads to a sense of "inferiority." Always approaching work and life with a comparative mindset can be very painful for oneself. Comparing with others has no meaning; we should truly compare ourselves to ourselves.

26. ❽世界上没有完美的人生，接受自己的不完美，才能真正感受到生活的美好。

26. There is no perfect life in the world. Accepting one's imperfections is the true way to truly feel the beauty of life.

27. ❾有时候，适当的焦虑能让我们更加珍惜现在，更加努力地去追求自己的目标。

27. Sometimes, appropriate anxiety can make us cherish the present more and strive harder to achieve our goals.

28. [美]尼尔·布朗 著

28. [USA] Neil Brown, Author

29. 如果你还没怎么看过个人成长类书，这本书就是最值得你选择的入门书! 本书作者周岭研读各种脑科学心理学，总结出改变自己、自我提升的方法和路径，从缓解焦虑、培养专注力，到培养阅读、运动等习惯遇到任何成长类小难题，你都可以打开它按需取用，这本书就是一本满分学霸笔记!

29. If you haven't read many books on personal growth, this book is the most worthy of your choice as an entry-level book! The author, Zhou Ling, has studied various brain science and psychology, summarizing methods and paths for self-improvement and self-change. From alleviating anxiety and cultivating focus to developing habits such as reading and exercise, you can open it up as needed for any minor growth-related problems. This book is a full marks student's notebook!

30. 没有经历过失败的人，其实才是最可怜的，人生不经历失败就不会成长，不经历失败又怎能知道自己是对是错。我们从失败中汲取经验，学习检讨，自己就会成长了。失败了，汲取经验之后，就把它抛到脑后，不要耿耿于怀，总是后悔做错，错了就让它过去，安住当下。

30. Those who have never experienced failure are actually the most pitiful. Without experiencing failure in life, one cannot grow, and how can one know right from wrong without having gone through failure? We draw experience from failure, learn through self-reflection, and thus we grow. After failure, after absorbing the lessons, let it be behind us and don't keep regretting what was done wrong. If something was wrong, let it go, live in the present moment.

31. 当你觉得自己失落、沮丧了，就去大扫除吧。当我们拼命活动身体时，就不会胡思乱想了。并且呆在干净整洁的环境里，会让心情也变得舒畅愉悦，郁结的负面情绪也会被一扫而空。

31. When you feel lost or depressed, try a thorough cleaning. When we engage in vigorous physical activity, we are less likely to indulge in negative thoughts. Moreover, staying in a clean and tidy environment can also make you feel cheerful and joyful, and it can sweep away any accumulated negative emotions.

32. 结果不是自然而然产生的，而是努力之后才会拥有的。当你只专注于结果，而不专注于过程的话，一旦结果并不是你想要的，你就会开始出现负面情绪，开始有挫败感，甚至否定自己，这种感觉是很痛苦的，所以很多人频繁换工作也是只专注于结果。当我们开始专注于过程的时候，那么你就会安住当下了，不执着于结果，就能拥有“想得开的心态”。

32. The result is not naturally produced; it is something that is owned only after effort. When you focus only on the result and not on the process, once the result is not what you want, you will start to experience negative emotions, a sense of defeat, and even self-doubt. This feeling is very painful, which is why many people frequently change jobs because they are also focused only on the result. When we start to focus on the process, then you will be grounded in the present, not attached to the result, and be able to have a "letting go" mindset.

33. ❹遇到困境时，不要忘了，每一步都是成长的机会，每一次跌倒都是前进的垫脚石。

33.❹ When faced with difficulties, remember that every step is an opportunity for growth, and every fall is a stepping stone towards progress.

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35. 每个人都有一种叫“自我”的东西，但是不要太过自我，总是习惯以自我为中心，总觉得自己一定是对的。这世间没有绝对的对错，不要害怕打击，要善于倾听他人的意见，对于别人提出的缺点也能坦然接受

35. Everyone has something called "self," but do not be too self-centered. Always be accustomed to putting yourself at the center and always think that you are absolutely right. There is no absolute right or wrong in this world, do not fear setbacks, and be good at listening to others' opinions. You should also accept others' criticisms calmly.

36. ❼焦虑是人对未来的恐惧，但恐惧并不能改变未来，勇敢面对才是解决问题的唯一途径。

36. Anxiety is fear of the future for humans, but fear cannot change the future; bravely facing it is the only way to solve the problem.

37. [日]读书猴 著

37. [Japanese] Reading Monkey, Author

38. 本书会教你独立学习必备的底层能力: 学会提问从而培养批判性思考、独立思考的能力!全书共章每章教你从一个方面提出问题，确保360度无死角! 并且针对每个问题给出详细的提问技巧! 长此以往训练下去，你会成为更具批判性思维的清醒的人!再也不做信息爆炸时代的“提线木偶”!

38. This book will teach you the essential fundamental skills for independent learning: learn to ask questions to cultivate critical thinking and independent thinking! The book consists of chapters, each teaching you to ask questions from one aspect, ensuring a 360-degree comprehensive view without any blind spots! And for each question, detailed questioning techniques are provided! By continuously training in this way, you will become a more critically thinking,清醒 person! No longer the "puppet" of the age of information explosion!

39. 世界冠军、天才神童乔希·维茨金教你从如何建立扎实基础开始，逐渐拓宽和完善知识，然后一步步将各种知识按逻辑连成一张大网，从而融会贯通身心合一随心所欲驾驭它们!想从小白一步步成为大师，就让真正的高手传授给你一手秘诀吧!

39. World champion and genius prodigy Josh Waitzkin teaches you to start from building a solid foundation, gradually broaden and improve your knowledge, and then step by step, logically connect various pieces of knowledge into a vast web, thereby integrating the mind and body and mastering them at will! If you want to evolve from a beginner to a master step by step, let a true master impart the secret techniques to you!

40. ❶ 过去的就让它过去吧，未来的还未到来，活在当下，珍惜眼前的美好。

40. ❶ Let the past be past, the future has not yet arrived. Live in the present and cherish the beauty in front of you.

41. 每个人都有自己的观点和思维模式，价值观也不一样。不要总是以别人的标准来衡量自己，也不要以自己的标准衡量别人。不迎合他人也不委屈自己，勇敢做自己，勇敢展现自己的不同，你其实很棒;!

41. Everyone has their own views and thought patterns, and different values. Don't always measure yourself by others' standards, nor measure others by your own. Don't cater to others or委屈 yourself; be brave in being yourself, and bravely showcase your differences. You're actually pretty great!

42. 如果遇到不如意的事，就大声的告诉自己:一定有办法的。大脑也会收到指令，往办法上面想。当你一直陷入怎么办怎么办的负面情绪里时，大脑也会收到指令，开始慌乱，甚至出现无力感，然后还出现发怒等行为。

42. When faced with unfavorable events, loudly tell yourself: There must be a way. The brain will also receive the command to think about solutions. When you are constantly trapped in negative emotions like "what to do, what to do," the brain will also receive the command to start panicking, even experiencing a sense of helplessness, and then behaviors like anger may also arise.

43. 不论是工作还是生活，很多人都会事先预判，比如同事应该怎样孩子应该怎样老公应该怎样老婆应该怎样一旦没有按自己预判的那样，就会开始失望、失落甚至愤怒。其实无论是工作还是生活即使我们做了万无一失的预判，事情也不会如你所料，因为人际交往就是不断变化的，让我们以一颗自由豁达的心，接受一切变化，只抓住核心，其它随它发挥吧。

43. Whether it's work or life, many people tend to make prior judgments, such as how colleagues should be, how children should be, how a husband should be, and how a wife should be. Once things don't unfold according to their expectations, they may start to feel disappointed, frustrated, or even angry. In reality, whether it's work or life, even if we make impeccable predictions, things won't necessarily turn out as we expect. This is because human interactions are constantly changing. Let's embrace all changes with an open and free heart, focusing only on the core, and let the rest unfold as they may.

44. 发挥优势，提升长处，这是一个成为有自我色彩的人的方法。如果能充分了解自己的优势和长处，你就能真正的拥有自信，如果能充分发挥自己的优势，你就能活出自己的色彩，扬长避短，才是关键。

44. Harness your strengths and improve your strengths; this is a way to become a person with distinctive characteristics. If you can fully understand your strengths and advantages, you can truly have confidence. If you can fully utilize your strengths, you can live out your own colors. Focusing on your strengths and avoiding your weaknesses is the key.

45. 很多人总是行动未到，就开始想: 如果失败了怎么办呢甚至还陷入了焦虑和害怕中、就算失败了又怎样了，经验就是在一次次失败中积累的，再说了，不试着做一次，你怎么知道自己不会成功呢不要还没有开始做，就想坏的一面，那样只会徒增焦虑，其实你只是担心害怕未知的事情而已。转变心态:不要害怕，你肯定能做到。

45. Many people start thinking: "What if I fail?" even before they take action, and even fall into anxiety and fear. Even if I fail, what's the matter? Experience is accumulated through failures one after another. Besides, how can you know you won't succeed if you don't try? Don't think about the negative side before you start, as that will only increase your anxiety. In reality, you are just worried and afraid of the unknown. Change your mindset: don't be afraid, you can definitely do it.